YOUR NOT GOING TO BELIEVE THIS!!! kinda long

ok i had my engagement part back in july and just got pics from a bunch of girls from work and my fmil and boy was i not happy!!! the girls from work were acting like a$$holes!! excuse my french but i got yelled at from my fmil and my own mother that day for there behavior and i was so lost cause i had 130 people to talk to and wasnt with them all night. now ive been to a wedding with them in july before my engagement party and saw how they acted there and it was to late to disinvite them( i know that sounds wrong but you have no idea what they were doing!!) they were humping the floor a girl was faking giving her BF a blowjob( sorry ladies if im a little graphic) faking an orgasim. screamin and acting like 10 yr olds and these girls are 24 25 30 all over in ages and actin like this at a wedding so the bride came over and asked them to stop and they didnt. she didnt know what to do. i would of kicked them out! so at my engagement party my mom said she spoke to them and they calm down, but what i didnt know is that they went in front to act dumb and take dumb pics in front of my FH house with all the kids playing basketball out there. they dont act like this at work and never thought they would be this out of control at a engagment party or a wedding. ive been out with then tons of times and never did they get this out of hand. i dont want them at my wedding and they were at my engagment party and they know when the wedding is. how do i tell them they arent invited?? am i wrong im just scared on what they will do. i mean come on my mother had to tell them to calm down 25-30 yr olds?!WHAT SHOULD I DO!! AM I WRONG FOR FEELING THAT I DONT WANT THEM AT MY WEDDING?!

here is two pics! they are much worse. wish you could see there faces they had on!! thre are tons more!! cant post them tho sorry

Wait a minute Is one of them pregnant? Please tell me that's just the shirt.

Why not just show them the pics and explain that; that is exactly why they are uninvited to the wedding,maybe they'll think about how they would feel if that had been their e party or wedding and they're guest were acting completely stupid

their behavior is absolutely disgusting...I don't blame you for not wanting to invite them to your wedding

i wish my mom would of told me WHAT they were doing because as mad as i am now i KNOW i would of said something to them that night. im ashamed to even show these

i'm not trying to trivialize your situation--but it's really quite simple. if you DON'T want them there---DON'T INVITE THEM! if you know they will be digusting at your wedding (which they are in the pics) then what would you rather have? ppl at your wedding doing god knows what in pics cause you don't want to 'hurt their feelings' or have peace of mind???

i know it's tough--cause they are ppl you are friends with, but it seems quite obvious you know you don't want them there. you have to be prepared for the consequences if you disinvite them to the wedding. it's not easy....but you can't be swaying in the middle---if you don't want them...then STAY FIRM and disinvite them. you obviously realize that your friendship will most likely end--and therefore you have to ask yourself this very important question, 'If you stopped being friends with them tomorrow, will it truly affect your life and will you miss their friendship, SINCERELY?' i'm guessing the answer to that question is NO.

trust me -- i know what i am talking about. i had to disinvite a friend to our wedding because of her childish behavior--and FH and i STOOD OUR GROUND TOGETHER. she is no longer my friend, and quite frankly i asked myself that same question in bold, and realized i didn't need someone like that in my life.

good luck!

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Posted by MJDoc12

i'm not trying to trivialize your situation--but it's really quite simple. if you DON'T want them there---DON'T INVITE THEM! if you know they will be digusting at your wedding (which they are in the pics) then what would you rather have? ppl at your wedding doing god knows what in pics cause you don't want to 'hurt their feelings' or have peace of mind???

i know it's tough--cause they are ppl you are friends with, but it seems quite obvious you know you don't want them there. you have to be prepared for the consequences if you disinvite them to the wedding. it's not easy....but you can't be swaying in the middle---if you don't want them...then STAY FIRM and disinvite them. you obviously realize that your friendship will most likely end--and therefore you have to ask yourself this very important question, 'If you stopped being friends with them tomorrow, will it truly affect your life and will you miss their friendship, SINCERELY?' i'm guessing the answer to that question is NO.

trust me -- i know what i am talking about. i had to disinvite a friend to our wedding because of her childish behavior--and FH and i STOOD OUR GROUND TOGETHER. she is no longer my friend, and quite frankly i asked myself that same question in bold, and realized i didn't need someone like that in my life.

good luck!

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thanks for helping!! i hear ya. your right if they arent my friend tomorrow it wouldnt change my life. i just hate thinking of the feeling working into work after my honeymoon and everyone made at me. i think im going to tel them the guest list is out of hand and i am only have JUST family and childhood friends. i feel so worng tho but like everyones saying i def dont want them there. after seeing these pics im getting more and more mad!!!

OH MY GOSH!!!


They would NOT be invited to my wedding and I would tell them why there aren't being invited!! How embarrassing for you and your family........

if thats how they acted at your engagement party, how will the be at the wedding

That's just so absurd and unbelievable. Seriously, that's so disprespectful IMO. Were they drunk or just acting childish? Either way you CANNOT be worried about that the day of your wedding, and you certainly do not need to babysit nor does your family on the most wonderful day of your life.

You either tell them the truth or just lie and tell them you have to cut the list for financial reasons. There is nothing wrong with having a good time, but that looks like it got out of hand, especially in if your family had to tell them to calm down. HTH and good luck

I just wouldnt invite them-really. They work with you and I know that all of us have friends from work that we are close to that we will invite to our weddings...but to be disgusting and disrespectful at someones engagement party is just not right. I just would not invite them-and if they ask tell them that their behavior is that of children and teens and really you dont want that at your wedding.

Thats it-simple. I completely agree with MJ-f you stopped being friends with them tomorrow will it truly affect your life???