Your opinions please...
Hello Ladies!
I would like to ask for your opinion.
My FH and I are teachers overseas. We only come home for just a few months in the summer time usually. As you can imagine, this makes planning a wedding very difficult.
We will be home next summer. In my mind, I would like to forego all the traditional parties and showers and just have our wedding this summer. We are having a very small, intimate wedding of only around 60 guests, and I am sure we can put it all together very quickly.
FH on the other hand thinks we will be too rushed. He wants to wait until the following summer (2011) and would like to have an engagement party next summer instead. It is a nice idea since we would not have seen our friends and families in a year and a half. And will give us time to look around at halls. But I am not sure if it's really necessary for 2 people with only 60 guests and on a tight enough budget already to be throwing an additional party. I would much rather save the money to use for our big day.
We are having a hard time reaching an agreement about this. I say our wedding can be the big celebration. FH seems to want to milk the engagement thing. He's worried if we don't do all the traditional wedding parties, we will regret it. His sister has also implaneted the idea in his head that we must do all these things to get gifts :)
I realize this is something we need to work out between us.. but any opinions or advice, maybe points we haven't considered..would be really appreciated. My mother is driving me crazy about this already...
Also-- since I probably won't be having a bridal shower (which I am perfectly okay with) would it then be possible to combine the engagement and shower into one party instead? Give it a different title like 'pre-wedding party?'... Anyone hear of anything like this before?
I would like to ask for your opinion.
My FH and I are teachers overseas. We only come home for just a few months in the summer time usually. As you can imagine, this makes planning a wedding very difficult.
We will be home next summer. In my mind, I would like to forego all the traditional parties and showers and just have our wedding this summer. We are having a very small, intimate wedding of only around 60 guests, and I am sure we can put it all together very quickly.
FH on the other hand thinks we will be too rushed. He wants to wait until the following summer (2011) and would like to have an engagement party next summer instead. It is a nice idea since we would not have seen our friends and families in a year and a half. And will give us time to look around at halls. But I am not sure if it's really necessary for 2 people with only 60 guests and on a tight enough budget already to be throwing an additional party. I would much rather save the money to use for our big day.
We are having a hard time reaching an agreement about this. I say our wedding can be the big celebration. FH seems to want to milk the engagement thing. He's worried if we don't do all the traditional wedding parties, we will regret it. His sister has also implaneted the idea in his head that we must do all these things to get gifts :)
I realize this is something we need to work out between us.. but any opinions or advice, maybe points we haven't considered..would be really appreciated. My mother is driving me crazy about this already...
Also-- since I probably won't be having a bridal shower (which I am perfectly okay with) would it then be possible to combine the engagement and shower into one party instead? Give it a different title like 'pre-wedding party?'... Anyone hear of anything like this before?
