You're the only ones who will understand..

You're the only ones who will understand..

I'm having a really bad day today. I just want to cry.

I can't afford the wedding we booked at NRC. the price is moderately high and it's a high minimum. We could afford it when we booked, but my dad took care of that by taking off and leaving us with all these bills and no money.

I'm starting tog et really sad because I have to either change the date or the place to get a lower minimum and a lower p/p price.

We have a meeting with our BM on Sunday morning and my mom doens't want me to go..she doesn't want me to change the date. She keeps telling me to have a smaller wedding on the same date, and I keep telling her, we have a minimum, so I'd have to change the place..and I LOVE NRC...

So i have to change the date, and hope that she cna give me a lo price and a low minimum on a sunday.

I know it sounds like no big dea, but I was so attached to my date and my hall, I'm so depressed about it, and everyone telling me not to change the date, when there's just no way to afford the date we booked really isn't helping....

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Also, I'm getting frustrated because I have to finally DECIDE so the hall doens't get pissed and so I can start booking other things

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I am so sorry you have to worry about this when it should be the happiest time ever, but remember what is most important is that you and FH are happy and your family and friends are with you...the place is just a place... A date is just a date too!

Everything will work out for you!

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have you considered a friday night or during the week - or sunday after noon or saturday afternoon? im really sorry to hear about your situation. weddings are so expensive and you really have to pay up on Long Island.
I really hope it gets resolved for you. Be a tought negotiator and explain your situation to the lady at NRC. They can always do SOMETHING to help you out.

Hugs to you sweetie!! Good luck!!!

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Im sorry that you are going thru this
I think you may be able to work with the BM on staying with NRC and the date just changing the minimum requirement. Is it by much?

Well, Im sorry again and I hope it works out in your behalf.

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Even though I have an appt for Sunday I just called her and she said it would only be $10 cheaper for a sunday night b/c they came down in price so much when we booked saturday....the minimum would be about 30 people less though....still that doesn't add up to very much

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Posted by DCSAAB06

Im sorry that you are going thru this
I think you may be able to work with the BM on staying with NRC and the date just changing the minimum requirement. Is it by much?

Well, Im sorry again and I hope it works out in your behalf.

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The thing is they already brought the minimum down a LOT when we booked...so there's no way they would bring it any lower...and she didn't seem to want to work with me on the sunday price.



I just feel like screaming

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I HOPE THAT EVERYTHING WORKS OUT. I AM SORRY TO HEAR THAT YOU HAVE TO CHANGE YOUR DATE. WE'RE HERE TO HELP IF YOU NEED IT.

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Things will work out. No matter when or where you have the wedding it will be amazing and special because you and FH will become husband and wife. Halls, vendors and stuff are all wonderful, but what makes the wedding special is the couple.

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I am so sorry you are going through this!!
If this is any help, I have been very upset because we do not have alot of $$, and can't afford the things we would like...the advice I have been given and will pass on is this: Just think about how lucky you are to have found the love of your life!! Your wedding is about the vows you will take, everything else is just extras!!

I wish you the best of luck- just remember, everything happens for a reason, you never know what will come out of this! We are all here to help too!

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I am sorry for you. I am sure things will work out. the North Ritz Club, though you love it, is not the only place to go. I am sure you can find certain elements in it that you can find somewhere else. Just think about what one or two things about it that you like, and look for it in something else.

If you love your date, keep your date- just find a more cost effective place to do it.

Maybe you can make a plan to renew your vows there in a few years when money gets better. The most important thing is that you and your FH have the people that matter to you most with you- everything else is gravy!

Good luck!

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I'm so sorry that you are dealing with this right now, but I know in the end things will workout. Hang in there.

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I am so sorry that you are going through this...Tons of I know this might not be an option but we looked at NRC & they told us they could do good pricing for a Thursday evening affair...Maybe that is an option....

I know someome else has said, that the most important thing is that FH & you are happy...I know you really want NRC but if you can't do anything about the day of the week, you might have to look elsewhere or postpone another year

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My aunt said another year, too....we'll have a 4 yar engagement at that point!

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I am so sorry that this is happening to you Would you consider a Sunday???? Or what about Saturday during the day???

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wow, that rough. DO you mind telling us what you were going to pay p/p? that we maybe we can reccommend a place that is chaper but very nice

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dont be upset. It's only a minor setback. You can change the date to a weekday night and that will drop the price dramatically. NRC i agree is beautiful but there are other beautiful halls too. You have time to make the payments as well. Dont let the catering hall pressure you into making this huge lots of payments. CAn you pay every month in small portions? There are always ways to work around this. How about cutting down the liquor do 2 hrs into the reception instead of the full four hours. What about a buffet? There are so many ways to cut corners. The usual price for my date was 65 per person i got them down to 57 per person. I kept cutting corners everywhere. Remember there is always a way. If you need more advice FM me. Take it from someone who knows the business!!

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It's time to sit down with the NRC and tell them exactly what happened. They are after all human 1st then in business.

I'm sure they hear sob stories all the time, but this involves you. Swallow the pride (as if you haven't done this already) and tell them like it is. Tell them, you love the place, the date, the BM everything and you are broken hearted (no lie). Then leave the ball in their court. Let them come up with a solution for you. Sometimes over thephone is easy to turn you down, but in your face it could be different.

I wish you luck and hugs

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sorry hun...hope it all works out for you!