You're the only ones who will understand..

Original post by marymoon

Mar 29, 2005 12:49 PM

I'm having a really bad day today. I just want to cry.

I can't afford the wedding we booked at NRC. the price is moderately high and it's a high minimum. We could afford it when we booked, but my dad took care of that by taking off and leaving us with all these bills and no money.

I'm starting tog et really sad because I have to either change the date or the place to get a lower minimum and a lower p/p price.

We have a meeting with our BM on Sunday morning and my mom doens't want me to go..she doesn't want me to change the date. She keeps telling me to have a smaller wedding on the same date, and I keep telling her, we have a minimum, so I'd have to change the place..and I LOVE NRC...

So i have to change the date, and hope that she cna give me a lo price and a low minimum on a sunday.

I know it sounds like no big dea, but I was so attached to my date and my hall, I'm so depressed about it, and everyone telling me not to change the date, when there's just no way to afford the date we booked really isn't helping....

laughinlala Posted: Mar 29, 2005 03:10 PM

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Posted by coxmandi

Things will work out. No matter when or where you have the wedding it will be amazing and special because you and FH will become husband and wife. Halls, vendors and stuff are all wonderful, but what makes the wedding special is the couple.

I agree 100%. You will have a great day no matter what because you are marrying the person you love with all your friends and family around you. I am sorry however, that this is happening to you-best of luck

CC59 Posted: Mar 29, 2005 03:26 PM

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I'm sure all of the options seems stinky right about now but yu really should consider all of them. Try not to get upset over people telling you not to change the date. Some things are just out of your control so now you have to look at the things you can control and see what you can come up with.

FormerlyKnownAsQ Posted: Mar 29, 2005 03:39 PM

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i am so sorry you are going through this. this is supposed to be one of the happiest times in your life.

gNi1125 Posted: Mar 29, 2005 04:05 PM

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Posted by Blu-ize

It's time to sit down with the NRC and tell them exactly what happened. They are after all human 1st then in business.

I'm sure they hear sob stories all the time, but this involves you. Swallow the pride (as if you haven't done this already) and tell them like it is. Tell them, you love the place, the date, the BM everything and you are broken hearted (no lie). Then leave the ball in their court. Let them come up with a solution for you. Sometimes over thephone is easy to turn you down, but in your face it could be different.

I wish you luck and hugs

I totally agree. It can't hurt to try. I'm so sorry you are going through all this.

hmpena Posted: Mar 29, 2005 04:17 PM

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Jennifer,
I am truly sorry that this is happening to you. I know that it seems hopless right now and that you are really upset. I agree that the most important thing is that you are marrying your FI. However, I know this doesn't completely make all of the pain you are feeling go away. I think the best thing to do is sit down with NRC and lay it all out on the table. Push them to do whatever they can. If they can't meet your needs, then they don't deserve your business, no matter how beautiful the place is! Also, you may want to consider a Jan. wedding. The prices drop ridiculously! That is why I am getting married in Jan. Best of luck to you sweetie! I am rooting for you and here if you need anything!!

shamrock12472 Posted: Mar 29, 2005 04:39 PM

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Oh, I am so sorry. This must be so tough on you. I know you are really upset right now but in a couple of days or so, things might seem different. I am sure there are solutions. As for family members, maybe you could ask them to pay for one thing for your wedding instead of gifts. Or, is it possible for you to get a part time job such as waitressing. I made a bit of money doing that and you would only have to work a few nights during the week. You have over a 1 1/2 years until your wedding and a lot can change in that time frame. Things certainly have a way of working themselves out.

leighdvm Posted: Mar 29, 2005 05:08 PM

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I don't know what to add that the other girls haven't said....all I can say is my heart goes out to you

Mystere Posted: Mar 29, 2005 05:28 PM

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I'm so sorry...I'm sure you've heard this already but what about saturday morning/afternoon? We're doing that because its a significant price difference than saturday evening.

My heart goes out to you !!! I hope it all works out!! In the end we have to keep reminding ourselves this is one fabulous day no matter what because it is when we make it official with the men that we love and want to spend the rest of our lives with!!

sarahbelle Posted: Mar 29, 2005 06:13 PM

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I understand being attached to your hall and your date. April 8 has a lot of significance to me and we just picked the date out of thin air!

I agree with Mystere -- find out about the price difference between evening and afternoon. We are also doing an afternoon wedding. You'll have all evening after the wedding to party with your new hubby!

It will be a wonderful day no matter!

marymoon Posted: Mar 29, 2005 06:17 PM

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We can't do afternoon because it will still be shabbat and ironically, because there's a bar mitzvah already scheduled at our hall for that time,

My sister was already paying for my flowers...and she offered to pay for whatever we cant afford as a loan or gift...but she's not rich, they have been married less than 2 years, with no furniture, no house, etc..I really don't want to take that much $$ from them

sarahthegreat Posted: Mar 29, 2005 07:12 PM

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fm my friend

hang in there

Kim51103 Posted: Mar 29, 2005 07:13 PM

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Soo sorry hun!!!!

Wintersbride Posted: Mar 29, 2005 08:05 PM

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Just wanted to give you some . Just know that in the long run, if you must change the date it will be for the best. You have to do what is best for you...no matter what day it is, it will be the day you marry the love of you life. It'll be okay!