Am I just being a baby?

So my friend decides to put a whole album up dedicated to 'old pictures'. There's a picture of me and my ex. I asked her to not tag me in it, she does anyway after I untag myself. Too late, DH's friend sees it, questions my DH about it, DH sees it, tells me to ask my friend to remove it all together. (Thanks douchebag for being a spy, well appreciated).

I ask my friend to either black out the face (because I think that would be hilarious), or take it down all together, there is no reason to have that up. She thinks I'm being ridiculous. She has another picture me and a guy I used to date but I'm friendly with him, and DH doesn't care about that one, it's just the latest ex I had real issues with (guy was nuts, abusive, so you can see why I cringed when I see a picture of us together).

WHY are my friends so stupid and childish?

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Is your friend married? I've noticed (at least with my single friends) they don't really understand where DH or I are coming from sometimes. I think that your friend should just take it down whether she thinks you're being silly or not. It might be her picture but she probably knows the story and to me that's disrespectful to you! I had a friend who was engaged to this guy. They ended terribly! Each one of my friends in that group didn't ask questions or anything, we just took down any pictures he was in because it was disrespectful to her and who wants to be reminded of such a jerk!

Just tell your friend 'silly or not, I'd like it down!'

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Not married. In fact, I've been having issues with her. She doesn't understand I'm married, EXPECTING, I will be a parent soon and certain things just aren't 'cool' to me anymore. I don't mind the other silly pictures she posted because it's nothing really bad (compared to my dad's teenager pictures, I look like an angel).

She just likes to go to bars and wineries all the time. I'm beginning to think she drinks to much, then will get in a car. She complains she's in debt, but has money for bars and wineries? I just wish she'd grow up already. Not saying you can't have a drink but like, know your limits, and don't get mad at pregnant people if they don't want to hang out in a bar and watch everyone else get drunk while they sit in silence.

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i would be friggen PISSED if i were you. if you don't feel comfortable with that picture being up and it's of you and your ex alone, or even if it's a group pic but you and ex are touching in the pic, it's completely innapropriate.
I would demand that she take it down and explain why and tell her that if she can't understand where you are coming from then you 2 are on completely different levels and therefore should no longer be friends.

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I really don't understand what the big deal is. It wouldn't be difficult for her to take the pic down. I think there is more going on there if she is still refusing.

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i agree that it's very weird to put pictures up of you and your ex's .... and it's very un-cool of her to keep the pic up (and tagged) even after you asked her to remove it.

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I'm sorry, but if it's her photo. She has the right to post it. And also, you can't tag someone in a photo once they've untagged themselves. It's not possible.

ETA: Is it just a photo of you and your ex or are other people in it? If it's just you and your ex, weird. If it's other people, I don't think it's that big of a deal.

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I wouldn't care if someone posted a pic of me and an ex. In my eyes, it's just a picture-it's not a command for us to get back together.

That being said, I can see why it would bother someone, and I do find it a bit peculiar that she won't just take it down.

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Posted by jilliibabii

I'm sorry, but if it's her photo. She has the right to post it. And also, you can't tag someone in a photo once they've untagged themselves. It's not possible.

ETA: Is it just a photo of you and your ex or are other people in it? If it's just you and your ex, weird. If it's other people, I don't think it's that big of a deal.

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I'm all over my ex with other people in the picture. It's just inappropriate and I have family on there that can see it. it I was just standing next to him, without touching or looking somewhat intimate, I wouldn't have said a word. I don't usually care about exes, past friends in pictures, whatever, but this particular ex, yes, I've got a problem.

Especially after not to long ago, she asked ME to remove pictures she didn't like with her ex in them. So I mean come on, if I can't do it, why can you?

And it's not her picture, she stole it off an old photo book album I had that she somehow remembered the link to.

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I dunno, I still don't see the big deal- it's not like people don't KNOW that you dated the guy. Though it would annoy me that she asked you to take down photos before and is now refusing, but I when anyone asks me to take down pics. Unless they are explicit in some way, I don't like to be told to take down my photos. You did it, you obviously didn't care that it got captured on film, but now your p!ssed because other people can see the picture? (And I mean 'you' in the general sense, not YOU in particular, lol.)

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I wouldn't be very happy just because I dont want to look at pictures of me and my ex.
I don't see why she just can't delete it! It's not like its going to mess up her facebook album.

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I don't think you're being a baby. You made a request, and your friend should honor it. End of story. If she gives you that much push back, then clearly she isn't a very respectful friend.

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No your not being a baby, if it makes you and especially DH not happy and uncomfortable, it should be removed, an ex is an EX for a reason, when things end horribly, people dont want to be reminded constantly of their past. You should tell her to remove the picture, you dont like the guy, you dont talk to him, and you probably regret being w/ him right? so theres no reason for everybody on facebook to see your pic with him!

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I'd be LIVID if I was in your same situation.

My last ex was a douchebag of the highest order, and if I could go through something like Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless mind with him I would.

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Posted by JoanneAndJustin

I'd be LIVID if I was in your same situation.

My last ex was a douchebag of the highest order, and if I could go through something like Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless mind with him I would.

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Yeah, I wish things like that existed. I went through legal things with him. DH was involved several times because he saw me frustrated trying to get my ex to respond to things so I can close our phonebill out and change my car insurance.

There are other people I dated, but I won't call them an ex necessarily, not at this point because we get along and our break ups weren't so horrible. DH isn't a jealous person, its just that one particular ex, and that picture really pizzed him off.

I mean my friend signed up on facebook I think maybe a year and a half ago, and she went through my albums, all the way back to 2005, and saw pics of her ex and her, and asked me to remove them. I thought to myself 'wow you went through 90 albums to find that?'. I did it, of course I didn't want to upset her girlfriend if she were to see them, but my friend just newly posted the picture.

She finally took it down the second I brought up what she did and even her girlfriend agreed it wasn't cool.

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Posted by jilliibabii

I dunno, I still don't see the big deal- it's not like people don't KNOW that you dated the guy. Though it would annoy me that she asked you to take down photos before and is now refusing, but I when anyone asks me to take down pics. Unless they are explicit in some way, I don't like to be told to take down my photos. You did it, you obviously didn't care that it got captured on film, but now your p!ssed because other people can see the picture? (And I mean 'you' in the general sense, not YOU in particular, lol.)

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I agree but I also think that this friend is being a jerk for no reason.... I have no problem taking pics down or not tagging even if I am annoyed by the request!