Am I nuts? MIL rant
Okay ladies. I would so appreciate your opinions on this. I don't know if I'm being unreasonable or not? This is a little bit of me venting too. :( Sorry its so long.
So I went to NY for my wedding, I'm originally from L.I., but I live in Nevada now, making our wedding, sort of a 'destination wedding' for us. It was a super stressful situation as is, not to mention all the crap that came up while we were there (um, freak snow storm, water pouring from the hotel room ceiling, etc etc). We spent about 5 full days in NY, leaving ourselves sometime to run around and do errands before the big day and then some days to recover afterwards.
My husband made time for his mother & step father as much as he possibly could. It wasn't even a matter of 'fitting time with them in', it was honestly just us being so very drained from the busyness of the weekend. One or two days after the wedding day, he spent just about the entire day at his parents' house and his mother used that opportunity to berate him over not spending enough time with her side of the family...to the point where he was visibly upset (he's the youngest and she has a habit of doing that to him, she's even been put on medication for her outbursts).
She was pissed at his father (they're divorced) so she decided that was the time to tell my husband allllllllll about how his father would cheat on her and had multiple mistresses during their marriage, etc. I found that completely inappropriate and really, very manipulative of her. She saw he had a good time with his dad at the wedding and its like she wanted to rain on it. She also told him that MY parents never greeted her when she arrived at the venue, meanwhile, I specifically remember them leaving my side to go say hello. That's a complete lie, no doubt about it. She really wanted to rile him up for some reason!
She also told anyone who would listen that I made my brother in law's wife CRY because she wasn't included in our wedding party or the night before festivities. Know what they consisted of? Me lounging on the couch LOL. I don't know why my MIL says this (And this is NOT the first time she has tried to spin a story like that!) I don't have a relationship with the girl and we live far away from each other and neither of us mind it.
We went back home and we found out that my MIL was actually still quite angry with us. In fact, she took us to the airport the day we left and she wouldn't speak to me the entire time. She did rip apart quite a few of our guests, telling us who she was making fun of the entire night for dressing like a '*****'. Nice.
Later, we saw she sent out emails to his brother, saying my husband 'behaved badly' and didn't treat the family well. She didn't talk to us for quite some time and I finally snapped and called her out on all of the above. Now, anytime she sends a letter or email, its addressed only to my husband lol.
I'm honestly, sooooo ANNOYED by her. Its now months later and I'm so over her nonsense!
I know keeping hubby happy is most important and he just feels like she's over dramatic and ridiculous and doesn't have an issue with MY feelings toward her. It is what it is. I just feel like she tried SO hard to protect my brother in law from any negativity, any drama, anything worrisome that came up before, during or after his wedding and for our wedding, she was the cause of it all! The things she said about his father, I find completely psychotic. I just have no desire to be around her anymore.
Should I have more tolerance and just move on from it or am I right to just avoid it? She's actually visiting next month and I don't even want to see her![]()
So I went to NY for my wedding, I'm originally from L.I., but I live in Nevada now, making our wedding, sort of a 'destination wedding' for us. It was a super stressful situation as is, not to mention all the crap that came up while we were there (um, freak snow storm, water pouring from the hotel room ceiling, etc etc). We spent about 5 full days in NY, leaving ourselves sometime to run around and do errands before the big day and then some days to recover afterwards.
My husband made time for his mother & step father as much as he possibly could. It wasn't even a matter of 'fitting time with them in', it was honestly just us being so very drained from the busyness of the weekend. One or two days after the wedding day, he spent just about the entire day at his parents' house and his mother used that opportunity to berate him over not spending enough time with her side of the family...to the point where he was visibly upset (he's the youngest and she has a habit of doing that to him, she's even been put on medication for her outbursts).
She was pissed at his father (they're divorced) so she decided that was the time to tell my husband allllllllll about how his father would cheat on her and had multiple mistresses during their marriage, etc. I found that completely inappropriate and really, very manipulative of her. She saw he had a good time with his dad at the wedding and its like she wanted to rain on it. She also told him that MY parents never greeted her when she arrived at the venue, meanwhile, I specifically remember them leaving my side to go say hello. That's a complete lie, no doubt about it. She really wanted to rile him up for some reason!
She also told anyone who would listen that I made my brother in law's wife CRY because she wasn't included in our wedding party or the night before festivities. Know what they consisted of? Me lounging on the couch LOL. I don't know why my MIL says this (And this is NOT the first time she has tried to spin a story like that!) I don't have a relationship with the girl and we live far away from each other and neither of us mind it.
We went back home and we found out that my MIL was actually still quite angry with us. In fact, she took us to the airport the day we left and she wouldn't speak to me the entire time. She did rip apart quite a few of our guests, telling us who she was making fun of the entire night for dressing like a '*****'. Nice.
Later, we saw she sent out emails to his brother, saying my husband 'behaved badly' and didn't treat the family well. She didn't talk to us for quite some time and I finally snapped and called her out on all of the above. Now, anytime she sends a letter or email, its addressed only to my husband lol.
I'm honestly, sooooo ANNOYED by her. Its now months later and I'm so over her nonsense!
I know keeping hubby happy is most important and he just feels like she's over dramatic and ridiculous and doesn't have an issue with MY feelings toward her. It is what it is. I just feel like she tried SO hard to protect my brother in law from any negativity, any drama, anything worrisome that came up before, during or after his wedding and for our wedding, she was the cause of it all! The things she said about his father, I find completely psychotic. I just have no desire to be around her anymore.
Should I have more tolerance and just move on from it or am I right to just avoid it? She's actually visiting next month and I don't even want to see her
