Honest opinions- TTC

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What kind of job do you have? Do you plan to go back to work full-time after maternity leave?

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Honestly, I doubt there's a perfect time to have a kid. I'd be hesitant about trying for a baby while DH is out of work, though.

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sorry but i don't think 'the itch' is a good reason to be makin' babies. this is a life you're creating and you should be ready to take care of it! if you can't afford to, then you should not be makin' babies.

that said, if you CAN afford it, then i see nothing wrong with it.

sorry if i sound a bit harsh .... i do understand where you're coming from, but this is a life we're talking about.

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I'm in a similar situation. I am the same age as you but i feel like if I don't have them tomorrow, I won't be able to. That's my anxiety talking and that is also what makes things more difficult. You have plenty of time to wait, even with your past history. However, I say go for it! Why not? Although, I researched costs of babies and they claim in the 1st year-2 years of a having a new baby you spend an additional 20,000. That is a lot. So it might hinder your plans to move out into your own house. But if you both want a baby, do it! If DH isn't working at least it is free child care and help when the baby is first born and you are tired and resting. I wish I could start trying for kids, but DH wants to wait for at least a year. So I'll probably be popping pills for at least another 6 months and then 6 months to regulate myself and then we can start trying. hopefully it takes 1 month instead of 1 year plus to conceive tho... my mom started trying for kids at 18 and didn't become pregnant with her first until she turned 30!!! I can't even imagine trying for 12 years and I don't have her timeline either.

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I think you have time 26 is not old at all! If it were me I would wait until the DH has a job but that is jmo, if my DH did not have a job I would wait.

I know that there is never a good time but If you both want a baby and think now is a good time for you both. You should go for it!

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Well, we can AFFORD a baby now. I have a good paying salary and savings, and great health insurance, but it's going to make buying a house this year harder...Of course, it will be a lot easier for us to save and afford a house and baby with TWO salaries.

I just feel like he's going to get this job or something this month. But I guess if that is the case, it won't be that bad to wait a month or two so we have both salaries to fall back on.

It's just frusrating knowing I'm high risk, and knowing it's not easy to get pregnant to begin with. I'm just tired of waiting and who knows how long our process will be. I know I'm young, but I have two issues that make me high risk....

Thank you ladies though. You make good points! It makes me sad, but I guess we should wait until he gets a job....

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Posted by AwaitingAugust

sorry but i don't think 'the itch' is a good reason to be makin' babies. this is a life you're creating and you should be ready to take care of it! if you can't afford to, then you should not be makin' babies.

that said, if you CAN afford it, then i see nothing wrong with it.

sorry if i sound a bit harsh .... i do understand where you're coming from, but this is a life we're talking about.

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We are ready to take care of it...It's not just the itch. We both have wanted to start a family for a long time, yaknow?

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Posted by DWKSwed

What kind of job do you have? Do you plan to go back to work full-time after maternity leave?

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Teacher. If he was still unemployed in 9 months (which I HIGHLY DOUBT...he is going crazy not working already), I would work and he would stay home with the baby. But ideally, I want to be a SAHM until our babies are in school while he works. I would work nights part time though if we needed extra money (waitressing, etc).

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Posted by jackieee

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Posted by AwaitingAugust

sorry but i don't think 'the itch' is a good reason to be makin' babies. this is a life you're creating and you should be ready to take care of it! if you can't afford to, then you should not be makin' babies.

that said, if you CAN afford it, then i see nothing wrong with it.

sorry if i sound a bit harsh .... i do understand where you're coming from, but this is a life we're talking about.

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We are ready to take care of it...It's not just the itch. We both have wanted to start a family for a long time, yaknow?

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in that case, i see nothing wrong with wanting a baby. As long as you can afford take care of it, then that's fine!

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Personally if I were in your situation I would wait until DH had a job.

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In my real honest opinion, if DH doesnt work and you can still manage to live a decent living and raise a child, go for the baby!

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Honestly there is no perfect time to have a baby. There are no guarantee's in life and even if your DH had a job when you got pregnant he could lose it. Im almost 8 months pregnant and when i got pregnant DH had a job......now he's down to working only 3 days a week because its so slow. Its stressful but things always seem to work themselves out. Good luck!

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I think everyone's situation is different, and it all depends on your goals. DH and I don't want to be homeowners for a long time (we're not sure where we'd like to live for more than a few years), and he has a stable (knock on wood) position. We also saved a lot this past year. I'm not working right now (we just moved so I gave up my job in June), but honestly, we are fine--we're not rich whatsoever, but we are savers and we have been and will be fine. And if I need to work, i have enough connections in the area and a good enough reputation in my field that I'll find something. We also have a VERY strong support system around us. When we knew it was right to start trying, we were both 100% in! No one can tell you when you are right except for you and your DH .

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Posted by jilliibabii

Honestly, I doubt there's a perfect time to have a kid. I'd be hesitant about trying for a baby while DH is out of work, though.

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ITA.i would wanna make sure that you guys have money for a baby. and as for you miscarrying before, you dont want that extra money stress on you while being pregant.

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Imo, I wouldn't be 'trying' right now. God hoping this isn't the case, but lets say you are preggers and for some reason can't go to work. Then what? Or after you have the baby and your on maternity leave and FH isn't employed yet. On one hand you're living with your parents so it's easier for them to help (time and/or $ wise) but nothing is guaranteed.

Personally i'd wait not so much to have a house, but to have a steady flow of income.

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you have FM

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i think if you both want a baby and can afford it with one salary you should go for it. First of all, even if you got pregnant immediately, DH still has 9 mths to find a job. Secondly, you never know how long it can take to conceive so if you put it off a long time then realize it takes a long time to get pregnant you might be really upset you waited. I dont think there is ever a perfect time to TTC so if you are both on the same page about trying now I say go for it!

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I would say go for it..but me personally I would feel better knowing FH has a job verses just me, only bc with a pregnancy you never know if you have to be on a bedrest and out of an income months before giving birth and with him having no job it would be hard. Like others have said though, there is no perfect time for a baby and if time is an issue for you I wouldn't wait. You could get pregnant tomorrow OR it could take years..

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I'd personally feel more comfortable if DH was employed, BUT if you can support the child on your salary and have savings I would try now. Especially if you might have trouble conceiving.