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was it just too early on?

AwaitingAugust Posted: Apr 14, 2011 01:08 PM+

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Posted: Apr 14, 2011 01:08 PM

was it just too early on?

I just realized last night that SIL never invited me to her baby shower ....Her son was born two years ago which means DH and I were together for about 10 months at that point (not yet engaged or even living together yet)

not that i wanted to go cause this is the SIL i don't like ... but shouldn't she have invited me anyhow?

MIL gave me hell about doing the 'proper' thing and inviting all sorts of idiots who didn't deserve it to the wedding .... wouldn't she have given SIL the same hell?

flibbertigibbet Posted: Apr 14, 2011 01:09 PM+

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Posted: Apr 14, 2011 01:09 PM

Re: was it just too early on?

maybe your in laws are just idiots ...

you know...

like some of ours.

AwaitingAugust Posted: Apr 14, 2011 01:10 PM+

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Posted: Apr 14, 2011 01:10 PM

Re: was it just too early on?

well, there's no doubt there!

regardless, i'm certainly NOT complaining

little j Posted: Apr 14, 2011 01:22 PM+

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Posted: Apr 14, 2011 01:22 PM

Re: was it just too early on?

i think showers are for a more select group

i know even for my bridal shower (i didnt invite all females, only close females), i didnt invite girlfriends of DH's good good friends. why? they were dating under a year, we didnt know where the relationship was going, and i didnt want to look desperate for gifts. meanwhile....now a few of them are happily engaged/married. of course they were invited to the wedding, but not the shower

but i think for IL relationships, its a bit different, so i probably would have invited you......

but just as a friend, probably not....

Linzee636 Posted: Apr 14, 2011 01:23 PM+

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Posted: Apr 14, 2011 01:23 PM

Re: was it just too early on?

My SIL wrote out her wedding invitation to us as Mr. Lawrence M and Guest.... after we were living together and engaged

Bottom line: some people think they are the exception to the etiquette rules. they are stupid.

CarolAnn721 Posted: Apr 14, 2011 01:55 PM+

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Posted: Apr 14, 2011 01:55 PM

Re: was it just too early on?

Maybe she figured that you guys were together under 1 year, so she didn't. I've heard people use the 1 year mark.

KatieG2010 Posted: Apr 14, 2011 05:01 PM+

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Posted: Apr 14, 2011 05:01 PM

Re: was it just too early on?

Posted by CarolAnn721

Maybe she figured that you guys were together under 1 year, so she didn't. I've heard people use the 1 year mark.

I agree with this.. but if you had a nice relationshiop with the fam in those 10 months i would think they would invite you to be polite

Byrne2Be Posted: Apr 14, 2011 05:30 PM+

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Posted: Apr 14, 2011 05:30 PM

Re: was it just too early on?

Posted by Linzee636

My SIL wrote out her wedding invitation to us as Mr. Lawrence M and Guest.... after we were living together and engaged

Bottom line: some people think they are the exception to the etiquette rules. they are stupid.

and Guest!!! RUDE...but I love it because I feel like that is something at least one of my SILs would have done to me! Love ya, twin!