Wedding $ Etiquette Question

Me and DH were invited to a wedding, we are definately not close w/ the couple, they are my inlaws friends.... yet they invited all of us.

Me and DH can not make it to the wedding, and the brides mom called and said she still really wants us to come, we never come to her parties/events blah blah... and to be honest DH doesnt like the bride or her family...just long personal reasons

THey dont have any wedding registry, should I just send a wedding card with a check or gift card or Just a card alone? Part of the reason were not going is we are financially strapped right now...Definately dont have $300 to spare for a wedding, and thats how much they gave us so cant give less I feel....

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I'd send a card with $100 and a little note saying that you wish you could be there. Don't go if you can't swing it. Even $50 in the card should be enough IMO, they aren't even your friends.

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Posted by jilliibabii

I'd send a card with $100 and a little note saying that you wish you could be there. Don't go if you can't swing it. Even $50 in the card should be enough IMO, they aren't even your friends.

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i agree ... $50 (check or gift card) in a card is fine.

or if you want to be even cheaper, find something at BB&B for $50 and use a 20% off coupon ... if they don't like it, they can return it themselves.

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Not to be a b!tch, but ...
You said you can't make it, and they said they still want you to come? Umm, hello, I said I can't make it. I have previous obligations. And what those obligations are is no concern of yours.

Send money ($50-100 -- $100 being the max) if you can. And remember-- yo have a few months after the wedding to send a gift! I received something off our registry that was $180 and a check for $200 like 3-5 months after the wedding.

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Posted by jilliibabii

I'd send a card with $100 and a little note saying that you wish you could be there. Don't go if you can't swing it. Even $50 in the card should be enough IMO, they aren't even your friends.

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Agreed. You don't actually have to send anything since you're not going, but it would be in good taste to send $50-100, esp since they gave you $300. If it was me, I'm prob send $100 and wish them all the best.

And ITA with Lisa, if you can't go, then that's it, you can't go. They should keep their begging to a minimum.

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you aren't going. so ANYTHING you send is being generous.