WWYD - MIL and Album related (**UPDATED**)

Sorry this is going to be long -

DH and I finally did our albums last week. I just got the list of pictures MIL wants for her album today (a week late, but )

MIL kept saying she didn't 'need' an album and it was really 'not necessary.' Only when DH toldher repeatedly that we had already paid for it, did she say 'ok - I guess I'll have to look at the pictures'

Anyway, I look at the pictures and out of 24 shots, there is not one picture of DH by himself, there are 3 pictures of DH and I alone, and 2 of DH and I with his family.

Here's the kicker - there are 7 (YES 7) pictures of SIL either alone or with just her DH. Is it me or is this strange? Seriously, looking at the album you would think it was her wedding except she was wearing a brown dresss. I don't give a rat's a$$ that there are more pics of SIL than me in her album, but I know DH is going to be upset that there more pictures of her than him.

DH wants to see what pictures his mother picked tonight when we get home. I know he's going to be a little bit hurt. Do I 'switch' some of her photos before I send them to the photographer or do I let the album stand?

I thought about sending MIL an email saying the photographer wanted to know if she wanted a picture of her son alone on his wedding day, but I don't know.

Part of me doesn't want to 'fix' it to make it easier for DH because he should see what the ILs are really like, but I hate to see him upset especially when his parents do cr@p like this to him.

WWYD?

**Update: I avoided showing DH the pictures for as long as I could last night. When I finally did, he said 'I'm glad she got a lot of pictures of everyone but me' The look on his face just kind of broke my heart. Then he called her and told her that he was hurt by it - her response 'you really made too much of a big deal about the whole wedding' DH just hung up on her and told me that I'm not to order her an album at all - give it to my dad instead. I feel so bad for him.

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I would send her an email asking if she wants a picture of DH alone. Maybe if you put her on the spot she can make it right before your DH finds out.

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Unfortunately, I'd show him as is and let him handle it.

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I'd also just let him see it how it is.

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Changing it might cause a bigger headache. I'd say the photog sent you an e-mail making sure it's all right and asking about the picture of just her and her son.

Though, I probably wouldn't have been nice enough to ask what pictures she wanted in it anyway!

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Posted by Lsorrent

Unfortunately, I'd show him as is and let him handle it.

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Posted by Rosalind_75

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Posted by Lsorrent

Unfortunately, I'd show him as is and let him handle it.

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I have to agree...and dh should say in person to her why don't u want any pics of me alone??? Def put her on the spot


I would also email the photog and have him put in that pic of the present she gave u...

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Posted by Lsorrent

Unfortunately, I'd show him as is and let him handle it.

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Me too... I would let him see what she chose even if it hurts and let him handle it. Its not your place to confront her or change her pics, but I also wouldn't let it go to the printer that way. But its DH's job to confront the situation, remember she isn't your mom.

I have to say I was super and pleasantly surprised at the pics my MIL chose. She even took a pic of me with my family and none of my probably will be SIL. Which shocks me. Of course there are more pics of her then me in MIL's house, but at least the album is my wedding.

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i wouldnt have asked her i would just out the ones i wanted her to have

Re: WWYD - MIL and Album related (**UPDATED**)

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She sounds like a real friggin' prize.


Honestly I would change the pics and give the album to someone who deserves it....maybe a aunt or uncle, cousin, good friend.....maybe your MOH. I TOTALLY would not give it her...HOW DARE she say what she did to your DH.



W. .T . F!!!????!!!!




ETA: I didn't see that you were going to give it to your dad, instead.

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that's pretty sh!tty of his mom ... i'm so sorry you (and him) have to deal with that ... it's really sad

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I'm sorry, what a b!tch. There's no other word for it.

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Holy rude and inconsiderate MIL.

That's sooo nasty to say. Is she going to say the same thing when SIL gets married????

Personally.... that's grounds for NO ALBUM FOR YOU!!! I would SO just order another album for your father. Or heck... maybe even make another album for yourself.... you could do a photojournalistic album... one with all the elements of your wedding... but no family shots, etc.

I'm sorry. You are 100% right. This woman is on another level than you and your DH are on... a much LOWER level apparently. I hate when grown assss adults can't treat their children the same.

Please update what you do with the album... because now Gina... I'm really hoping she jsut doens't get one.

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LOL....AH Gina...I can only laugh b/c I can TOTALLY empathize w/u! I think I should count my lucky stars b/c w/my IL's album out of 20 pics - I'm in 2 of them. About 10-12 are of my IL's BY THEMSELVES (um hello? w-t-f is THAT all about...talk about VAIN!) and the other 4-6 are of DH & his mom dancing the mother-son dance I guess I should feel so honored that I was even in my own wedding-wedding album!

IL's...they can really $uck balls sometimes....

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Posted by KerriJohnS

Holy rude and inconsiderate MIL.

That's sooo nasty to say. Is she going to say the same thing when SIL gets married????


Please update what you do with the album... because now Gina... I'm really hoping she jsut doens't get one.

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I just spoke to DH and told him that I was calling my dad and telling him he's getting an album so no backsies with dear ol' MIL. He said - go right ahead! So I'm going to call my dad tonight and let him know.

Oh and SIL is already married and MIL already has an album from that wedding!!! I just don't get it. DH is upset about it but keeps telling me it's no big deal. I tried to soften it by telling him that it's because his parents just don't like me and his response was 'No - it's obvious they don't like ME!' How sad for him.

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So I've decided to make my own album for MIL..... 24 pictures of this!!

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Posted by geegee827

So I've decided to make my own album for MIL..... 24 pictures of this!!

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ROTFLMAO>>>>>>>>>>>>

GOOD 4 YOU!

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Posted by Tomlaur0808

LOL....AH Gina...I can only laugh b/c I can TOTALLY empathize w/u! I think I should count my lucky stars b/c w/my IL's album out of 20 pics - I'm in 2 of them. About 10-12 are of my IL's BY THEMSELVES (um hello? w-t-f is THAT all about...talk about VAIN!) and the other 4-6 are of DH & his mom dancing the mother-son dance I guess I should feel so honored that I was even in my own wedding-wedding album!

IL's...they can really $uck balls sometimes....

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They really do! I despise them so I don't care - I just feel bad for DH.

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Posted by geegee827

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Posted by KerriJohnS

Holy rude and inconsiderate MIL.

That's sooo nasty to say. Is she going to say the same thing when SIL gets married????


Please update what you do with the album... because now Gina... I'm really hoping she jsut doens't get one.

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I just spoke to DH and told him that I was calling my dad and telling him he's getting an album so no backsies with dear ol' MIL. He said - go right ahead! So I'm going to call my dad tonight and let him know.

Oh and SIL is already married and MIL already has an album from that wedding!!! I just don't get it. DH is upset about it but keeps telling me it's no big deal. I tried to soften it by telling him that it's because his parents just don't like me and his response was 'No - it's obvious they don't like ME!' How sad for him.

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That is super sad.

I'm a huge fan of taking positive from these terrible experiences and situations... IDK if you plan on having kids... but at least your DH would be less likely to pull this crap with your kids... considering he was treated unfairly by his own parents. It is sad though. hugs to your DH! In an effort to convey even the smallest amount of consolation to your DH... we all here on LIW like your DH far more than his mother or sister!!!!

I can't believe that MIL got an album from SIL wedding, yet questioned the album from her own son... acting as if this wasn't the norm!!!! And then dare put all the pics of her daughter in it instead of her son... um... if she wants to see all the lovely pics of her girl... then perhaps she should crack open that girls wedding album!! I sure hope SIL will be the one taking MIL in when she's too old and needs someone to take care of her....

and loving the bird pic!! haha!!