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wwyd: wedding gift related

brittndave Posted: Aug 08, 2011 02:48 PM+

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Posted: Aug 08, 2011 02:48 PM

wwyd: wedding gift related

one of dh's frat friends from college came to our wedding (with an uninvited guest) and gave us $40. he's getting married next month and we're going to the wedding. how much should we give them?

Cataverri Posted: Aug 08, 2011 02:49 PM+

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Posted: Aug 08, 2011 02:49 PM

Re: wwyd: wedding gift related

$100.00

CarolAnn721 Posted: Aug 08, 2011 02:54 PM+

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Posted: Aug 08, 2011 02:54 PM

Re: wwyd: wedding gift related

OMG! $40... LOL

ETA: I would give $100

barbtony Posted: Aug 08, 2011 02:58 PM+

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Posted: Aug 08, 2011 02:58 PM

Re: wwyd: wedding gift related

Posted by CarolAnn721

OMG! $40... LOL

ETA: I would give $100

Ditto

IrishAli Posted: Aug 08, 2011 03:00 PM+

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Posted: Aug 08, 2011 03:00 PM

Re: wwyd: wedding gift related

$40? For two people?

What are people smoking lately

I might just give him like $80

little j Posted: Aug 08, 2011 03:02 PM+

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Posted: Aug 08, 2011 03:02 PM

Re: wwyd: wedding gift related

can you get someting off the registry? or maybe a gift instead?

40 for 2 people is uncool

WeezyGirl2354 Posted: Aug 08, 2011 03:33 PM+

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Posted: Aug 08, 2011 03:33 PM

Re: wwyd: wedding gift related

Posted by little j

can you get someting off the registry? or maybe a gift instead?

40 for 2 people is uncool

I agree with this! $40!??! how does anyone thing that is appropriate.

Chelechel1 Posted: Aug 08, 2011 03:52 PM+

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Posted: Aug 08, 2011 03:52 PM

Re: wwyd: wedding gift related

$100

He must've been saving for his wedding to give you $40.

dctead Posted: Aug 08, 2011 04:24 PM+

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Posted: Aug 08, 2011 04:24 PM

Re: wwyd: wedding gift related

Posted by little j

can you get someting off the registry? or maybe a gift instead?

40 for 2 people is uncool

Very uncool..

I'd give a gift off the registry (hey, if it's BBB... spend $50.. use a 20% coupon and call it a day!)

Though DH is saying he'd give $100

spdy540 Posted: Aug 08, 2011 04:28 PM+

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Posted: Aug 08, 2011 04:28 PM

Re: wwyd: wedding gift related

I would either give a gift off the registry or 100 but I wouldnt go beyond that

brittndave Posted: Aug 08, 2011 04:45 PM+

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Posted: Aug 08, 2011 04:45 PM

Re: wwyd: wedding gift related

Posted by IrishAli

$40? For two people?

What are people smoking lately

I might just give him like $80

yea... two people... one of which wasn't even invited

brittndave Posted: Aug 08, 2011 04:46 PM+

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Posted: Aug 08, 2011 04:46 PM

Re: wwyd: wedding gift related

Posted by little j

can you get someting off the registry? or maybe a gift instead?

40 for 2 people is uncool

i was thinking that but everything left on their registry is $150 or more

IrishAli Posted: Aug 08, 2011 05:29 PM+

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Posted: Aug 08, 2011 05:29 PM

Re: wwyd: wedding gift related

Ok, if you are nice give $100 and bring an extra guest

adelz Posted: Aug 08, 2011 05:32 PM+

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Posted: Aug 08, 2011 05:32 PM

Re: wwyd: wedding gift related

I would give him $50

A little extra as a surprise hehe.

quirkybride Posted: Aug 08, 2011 06:48 PM+

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Posted: Aug 08, 2011 06:48 PM

Re: wwyd: wedding gift related

What do you feel comfortable giving? I would say given the situation either 50 or 100. 50 would be fine given the situation, but if you don't feel comfortable with that you could be the bigger person and give 100. Either way would be fine I think.

I had a few friend non-gifters. One friend who brought her husband and didn't even give a card. I'm still trying to make sense of that. Another friend reserved about 80 dollars of stuff off our registry but never purchased the items, again no card. Another friend sent me an email the night before the wedding and said she didn't have the money for a gift (which I understand but she goes out to bars and restaurants all of the time), and another friend said she forgot to give us our gift and would mail it, but I don't know if that'll actually happen. Yes, money is nice, but it's not even about the money. It's not worth being cheap to your friends, it affects how we feel about each other I think.

We also had a lot of generous guests.

jhines4684 Posted: Aug 08, 2011 09:05 PM+

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Posted: Aug 08, 2011 09:05 PM

Re: wwyd: wedding gift related

I would just do a BBB gift - a place setting and use a coupon or something.

ourwedding9510 Posted: Aug 09, 2011 07:28 AM+

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Posted: Aug 09, 2011 07:28 AM

Re: wwyd: wedding gift related

$100...not a penny more or a penny less. I would LOVE to just give like $50 or $80 but I don't think I could do that.

Future Mrs H Posted: Aug 09, 2011 08:37 AM+

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Posted: Aug 09, 2011 08:37 AM

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I am a firm believer of giving what the person gave you. That is why I kept records of the gifts!!

$40 it is!!!

2010BTB Posted: Aug 09, 2011 08:40 AM+

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Posted: Aug 09, 2011 08:40 AM

Re: wwyd: wedding gift related

Posted by ourwedding9510

$100...not a penny more or a penny less. I would LOVE to just give like $50 or $80 but I don't think I could do that.

ITA! As much as I would love to give them the same right back...I would feel guilty.

evita2781 Posted: Aug 09, 2011 08:55 AM+

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Posted: Aug 09, 2011 08:55 AM

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Posted by 2010BTB

Posted by ourwedding9510

$100...not a penny more or a penny less. I would LOVE to just give like $50 or $80 but I don't think I could do that.

ITA! As much as I would love to give them the same right back...I would feel guilty.

this!! who the eff gives $40!?!?!??!