Another question about tipping? I know the rules but

just wondering what you girls are giving personally? My tipping came out to $1975.00 I just don't know how that could be. I didn't think I was being extravagant.

If you don't think this is too personal a question could you please tell me what you are tipping your vendors and what about delivery/set up people?

Thanks girls! I really need this one!

I wish I could help but unfortunately I'm not even close to that point yet. I hope you here from someone to help you soon though!

This is what i plan to do
Maitre d- $2.50 per person $300.00
Bridal attendant $75.00
DJ $100.00
MC $100.00
Photo-$75.00
Video-$75.00
Photo/Video Assistant -$50.00
Bartender $75.00
Limo and rolls royce driver-$40.00 eachRest

I did:

Maitre d- $2.00 per person
Waitstaff - $20.00 each waiter/waitress
Bridal attendant $75.00
DJ - $100.00
Photo - $100.00
Video - $100.00
Photo Assistant - $50.00
Bartender - $75.00
Makeup - $50.00
Hair - $100.00

So in addition to the pp MD fee that I am charged by my hall, I think it is like $3pp. You are supposed to tip them an additional $2-3 per person at the end of the night

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Posted by 2Be1
So in addition to the pp MD fee that I am charged by my hall, I think it is like $3pp. You are supposed to tip them an additional $2-3 per person at the end of the night

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Mine didn't have a specific fee already, it sounds like your hall charges it to you so I am guessing you don't need to tip them. Check with your hall, though.

I was just reading this thread and I have a question.

Why would I tip the Maitr' D and the waitstaff if I'm already paying gratuity?

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Posted by ik1

my hall is charging 20% service fee does that mean I have to tip the waitstaff also. Fine the maitre'd I would say $300 is about right but not sure about the wait staff

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I think the 18%-20% is for the waitstaff. As far as i know. Im not tipping them.

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Posted by malagian

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Posted by ik1

my hall is charging 20% service fee does that mean I have to tip the waitstaff also. Fine the maitre'd I would say $300 is about right but not sure about the wait staff

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I think the 18%-20% is for the waitstaff. As far as i know. Im not tipping them.

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Thanks this answered my question too!

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Posted by malagian

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Posted by ik1

my hall is charging 20% service fee does that mean I have to tip the waitstaff also. Fine the maitre'd I would say $300 is about right but not sure about the wait staff

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I think the 18%-20% is for the waitstaff. As far as i know. Im not tipping them.

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This is unfortunately NOT correct the 18%-20% is a SERVICE CHARGE, not a gratuity. The waitstaff don't see it. The ‘service charge’ is supposedly for things like table linens & salaries of staff like the dishwashers, etc. Incidentally, that is why New York State assesses a sales tax on it, because it’s NOT a gratuity.

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Posted by Kris10546

When I was visiting RHs I was told by 2 different ones that the 18-20% service is to pay the salaries of the waitstaff, NOT a tip. So they will get their 50-75 bucks for being at your party doing their jobs, but unless you or your guests tip them, they will not see a tip. It happens a lot because people dont realize that.

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This is entirely accurate. I worked as a waitress at two catering halls. I was paid per hour at one and per party at another. Let me tell you, $75 bucks to work a wedding may sound like a lot to some, but that's because you don't realize the staff is also there at least an hour before preparing, and at least an hour after cleaning up. (and weddings can get REALLY messy). And it doesn't compensate those servers who go above and beyond the call of duty... As such, I'm tipping everyone!

i know this sounds awful, but I don't plan on tipping people like the band, trio, make-up, hair, or florist people. I mean I'm paying them already for their service, and may I say NONE of them were cheap.

I haven't decided what to do with the waiters and matre di, and valets yet. I mean at $185 bucks a head, this should cover it no?

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Posted by malagian

This is what i plan to do
Maitre d- $2.50 per person $300.00
Bridal attendant $75.00
DJ $100.00
MC $100.00
Photo-$75.00
Video-$75.00
Photo/Video Assistant -$50.00
Bartender $75.00
Limo and rolls royce driver-$40.00 eachRest

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I think FH and I are going to end up doign something like this. We haven't figured everything out but it seems reasonable.

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Posted by JIFFY

just wondering what you girls are giving personally? My tipping came out to $1975.00 I just don't know how that could be. I didn't think I was being extravagant.

If you don't think this is too personal a question could you please tell me what you are tipping your vendors and what about delivery/set up people?

Thanks girls! I really need this one!

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Mine is in the 1900 range as well.

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Posted by winterwhite

i know this sounds awful, but I don't plan on tipping people like the band, trio, make-up, hair, or florist people. I mean I'm paying them already for their service, and may I say NONE of them were cheap.

I haven't decided what to do with the waiters and matre di, and valets yet. I mean at $185 bucks a head, this should cover it no?

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it should but unfortunately the waitstaff doesn't see any of the 185pp