I know it sounds like an odd question. But my DH and I have friends, who actually went to a bar last night. She's pregnant and due to give birth in two weeks.
As far as we know, there was no drinking involved. But DH and I both thought it was just a terrible idea, and not the place to be if you're almost at your due date.
Taking into consideration the crowd, other people who are drinking, then being on the road so late at night afterwards, we were shocked by it, to be honest.
Are we being old-farts by thinking a pregnant woman shouldn't be in a bar at night??
What do you think??
nycchic_24
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I dont think a pregnant woman so far along should be in a bar. If not for nothing else, she puts herself in a position for something to unexpectedly happen. If that kind of thinking makes you old fashion, than I guess I am. I am sure that my dh would definately agree.
kmcwed
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So far, according to the poll answers, my DH and I aren't old farts after all!!
Claud2001
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Karen, after having gone through a pregnancy, I have to honestly say that I give your friend ALOT of credit for even having the energy and desire to go out and be with friends and other people. When I was that close to my due date, I was too uncomfortable to even sit still for a two hour movie!
I don't really see anything wrong with a pregnant woman going to a bar - unless of course it was a VERY smoke filled bar or she was drinking - then it would make me question.
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The only time I went to a bar was when we had FSIL and FBIL down from upstate, FH's cousins were also there and we had just gotten done with dinner. No smoking in the bar and I had a water. I dont see a problem with it
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I've been to bars during my pregnancy. I don't drink anything but water, and if it starts to get too smokey or crowded, I leave. It helps that I can't stay out very late, and that I feel like 10pm is the middle of the night, so I've never been around the rowdy late night crowd.
Teri
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At least there's no smoking allowed in bars now!
JennRenee
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Teri, I have noticed that some bars STILL allow smoking!
I guess it's only a matter of time before they get caught!
IrishTracy
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I went to bars when I was pregnant. My husband & I took advantage of our last alone time together. I NEVER drank only water. It was more of a social thing then a drinking thing.
I was out a few months ago a woman was in the bar drinking & smoking (she was 8 months pregnant) that to me is DISGUSTING!!!
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Hi, wanted to see the poll results. I posted on the NWR poll I would do it only if it was for a special event/occasion, or alot of my friends were going out. Irishtracy was right with my FH it's more a social thing. But I'd only go to places where there's room to move around, and not a place that is rowdy and of course only if they kept up with the smoking ban. And I wouldn't drink either.
I know 1 woman that smoked during her pregnancy and was at bars soemtimes. But so far I hear her baby is normal weight. She lives with two guys (she is a single mother and the guys are her platonic roomates) and they said they dind't mind the baby living there but she asked them not to smoke in the house. So not sure why she was smoking but won't let anyone smoke in the house anymore, but at least she's making a stand now about it.
My dad is friends with a girl that was a bartender at a bar and pregnant. I don't know if she drank or smoked but it was before the smoking ban so she was affected by it, that I know. I think her hubby smokes and I think she started up again after the baby was born.
Unfortunately, the baby died 3 months after he was born. I don't know if it was SIDS or not. My dad did not ask and was not told. But I have a feeling the smoking played a part in the death - I have not read up on it (I will wehn I am TTC) but I think pregnant smokers up the risk of babies dying of SIDS. I never met the girl but I was heartbroken for her
christy
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now that bars are smoke free, and the prego mom wont be drinking, I guess it is ok. But I wouldnt feel comfortable if it was me personally.
kmcwed
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I guess my DH and I were thinking more along the lines that even if the mom-to-be isn't drinking, other people are. If there is a fight, or someone stumbles and knocks her down, it could be a bad situation for her to be in.
Oh well, I suppose I'll have to accept the fact that I'm too much of a worry-wart!
I personally would not go into a bar late on a Saturday night if I was that far along in my pregnancy.
To each his (and her) own!
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I am not a bar person and neither is DH so this isn't an issue for us, but I guess if we really enjoyed them I would still go, as long as there was NO smoking. It would also depend on what type of bar. If it is more of an upscale, older crowd then I wouldn't worry about fights much at all. So, if she is up to hanging out late then more power to her.
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this was my reply on the NWR board
no problem at all...
My friend is sue in January and since we were so busy last weekend when we visited NY...she came and met us at the bar we were in for a few hours...
1. she knew there was no smoking (theres an outside area for the smokers...so noone cheats there)
2. its a bar we go to (or used to - when I lived in NY) regularly and it is usually quite empty...
but I will say her DH was very protective...he had her in a seat and almost shielded her from anyone bumping into her...it was actually really cute...
natasha
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I would go if there is no smoking and if it's a nice laid-back bar. Of course I would be having a non-alcholic drink. It would also have to be in the evening.
I don't think I would be doing any of the above at eight months.
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I went to a bar about 3 weeks before my due date. My DH and I have a close friend in a band and we went to see them play one last time before the baby came. My DH knew my rule was we had to leave if it was smoky, rowdy, or if I just felt like leaving- even if it was early. The bar was pretty calm and I hung out near the pool table in the back where it was not too loud. I had a great time that night (without alcohol) and left the bar around midnight. My water broke a few hours later that night/morning while I was sleeping. I was glad we had that night together as a couple. Do what you are comfortable with. If you have the energy to be out, go for it.
elle
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I agree with Victoria -- I also went to a few bars while pregnant -- never drank -- but just went to sit and chat with friends. I always went early and left early because I was tired! I will say this -- live it up -- I have only been to one or two bars since my son was born 16 months ago ! LOL
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I think as long as she has the energy and isn't harming herself or the baby, a prego should still do anything she used to do before she was pregnant!
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I feel as long as it is a non smoking establishement and the woman is not drinking than why not. If you are worried about crowds or being knocked down by accident that can happen anywhere, from a regular resturant to a shopping mall, anyone can knock into you at any time. I don't feel that b/c you are pregnant that you need to just stay home JMO
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This past weekend DH, his father and sister hung out at Yankee Tavern and I wanted to go along with them. I didn’t see a problem with it… but DH really thought it would be a bad idea… who knows if there would be smoking, what if someone bumped into me… whatever. I didn’t end up going. I just didn’t want DH to be all worried about me, I thought he should enjoy himself. It turns out that it was a good idea that I didn’t go since he ended up getting into the game for free… and I know he wouldn’t have gone in if I were there.
I think it all depends on the couple… personally I don’t have a problem with it, but that’s just my opinion.
