Okay Im almost afraid to ask this cause its kinda personal and Im afraid people wont respond but I wanted to get you girls thoughts.....
One thing you DONT see much on the other boards is the down side to marriage...in other words...how much HARD work it is to keep a marriage successful once the pomp and circumstance of a wedding is over.
I always get the impression from most brides to be on here that things are great between their FH and themselves.
My question is, since you've been married, have you ever had any SERIOUS arguments with your hubby. And to those who have...have you gone to counseling? I feel sometimes like Im the only girl who has to work hard to keep my marriage together. ?
I learned a long time ago that being in love has nothing to do with whether or not you can actually have a successful relationship with someone. it takes so much more then that! Theres so many variables!::
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Snickers76
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I swear, there was a point when I could have written this myself. I thought that marriage was very hard in the beginning DH and I had many issues that we had to work through and it was tough, but we did it. We still fight from time to time, but I have learned to let the small things go. I trust him a lot more than I used to.
I just read an article that stated when couples don't fight it can be worse than couples who do. The reason the article gave was that couple who don't fight tend to stay away from talking about controversial topics--not like abortion or the death penalty, but controversial relationship topics. I don't know, maybe it's bullsh!t, but it made me feel better about the first few months of my marriage.
luvabul
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yup lots of fight...but at the end of the day...i realize i cant be without him...its all about communication, honesty, and openess...i never try to hide my feelings...and with men..they NEVER know what your thinking so you have to spell it out for them, spell the problem out.... marriage takes a lot of work...sure i guess some ppl have fairytale lives...but trust us, your not alone
MushesGirl
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Posted by ant n tilde
DH and I fight all the time. I try not to post on here about it because the more I post or talk about it the more I linger on it and the worse it gets for me. That is the exact reason why I post and talk about the good stuff - so I can focus on that and keep myself from ramming his head into a concrete wall!
Sometimes it little things, like the fact that he has never once put the milk away in the morning and I have thrown away hundreds of full containers of milk. Sometimes it can be a HUGE thing - like his inability to express any emotion or the fact that we both have not stayed up past ten in the past month.
Anyway, never feel alone! We are all going through the same thing. . .
ok are you living in my house???LOL!!!!! Substitute the milk container for a)socks on the floor b)toilet paper/paper towel roll c)work clothes d)tools LOL!!!!
and the staying up past 10? try 8:30!
ant n tilde
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Posted by ant n tilde
DH and I fight all the time. I try not to post on here about it because the more I post or talk about it the more I linger on it and the worse it gets for me. That is the exact reason why I post and talk about the good stuff - so I can focus on that and keep myself from ramming his head into a concrete wall!
Sometimes it little things, like the fact that he has never once put the milk away in the morning and I have thrown away hundreds of full containers of milk. Sometimes it can be a HUGE thing - like his inability to express any emotion or the fact that we both have not stayed up past ten in the past month.
Anyway, never feel alone! We are all going through the same thing. . .
ok are you living in my house???LOL!!!!! Substitute the milk container for a)socks on the floor b)toilet paper/paper towel roll c)work clothes d)tools LOL!!!!
and the staying up past 10? try 8:30!
i an relate to all of the above
MushesGirl
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Posted by MushesGirl
Posted by ant n tilde
DH and I fight all the time. I try not to post on here about it because the more I post or talk about it the more I linger on it and the worse it gets for me. That is the exact reason why I post and talk about the good stuff - so I can focus on that and keep myself from ramming his head into a concrete wall!
Sometimes it little things, like the fact that he has never once put the milk away in the morning and I have thrown away hundreds of full containers of milk. Sometimes it can be a HUGE thing - like his inability to express any emotion or the fact that we both have not stayed up past ten in the past month.
Anyway, never feel alone! We are all going through the same thing. . .
ok are you living in my house???LOL!!!!! Substitute the milk container for a)socks on the floor b)toilet paper/paper towel roll c)work clothes d)tools LOL!!!!
and the staying up past 10? try 8:30!
i an relate to all of the above
LOL!!
Mizzdimple
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we *Definatley have our moments- come on- living with anyone can get you at each others throats...
its not easy it takes alot of work .....
danielle19755
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we fight ALOT!!! Sometimes we dont talk for a week
FutureMrsRice
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We've gotten into a few knock down drag out fights about stupid stuff in the months after the wedding --- I think everyone gets into arguements with their DH.
It's gotten to the point where one of us has to walk out of the house and cool down before we can make up. No counseling, but we definitely had to come up with a better way of communicating with each other
I always find that plenty of sex helps keep everyone happy!
AmorPeruano
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Thanks girls for all your thoughts!
We are slowly working things out and things are getting much better....thank God! Its been a tough few weeks. But we have our honeymoon (we delayed it until a few months after our wedding b/c we wanted to go when it was warm) in 2 weeks.....so i think getting away and relaxing will do us good.
I just always felt uncomfortable talking about it on here b/c there seemed like so many girls only show the perfect, sweet side to marriage and make everything seem perfect. I started questioning myself, like, am I the only idiot struggling? lol
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Posted by ChrisnAmy
We rarely fight and if we do? We are laughing the next minute. Thats just our personalities.
dh and I never really fight...we have been living together for now going on 4 and a half years. The first 5months of living together was def an adjustment...but after that its been ..what I believe to be an just amazing time and im appreciating every second of it!
