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Are you and DH on the same page?

Original post by MrsDtoBe09

as far as having kids go? I want a baby so badly! Not like an aww a kid would be such a cute accessory type of thing but a real I'm ready to start a family thing. I'd like to wait until the summer to start trying - DH is like, we'll see. What do you mean we'll see? It stinks because I obviously want him to be with me on this decision - it's not like I can do it alone! It's been making me really sad lately! Do you and your DH agree about when is the right time? Please tell me I'm not the only one in this position!

gina409 Posted:

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dh would have started yesterday...but we have both decided to wait one year and try on our 1 yr anny
gina409 Posted:

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Posted by VickiR510

Totally we were so ready to be parents. We figured everything else was in place & we are settled financially & with homes. Unfortunately, we lost the baby at 9.5 weeks but didnt find out until our 12 week sonogram (which was last Monday) so its been a whirlwind of a week for us. But, we are doing so much better now. It was God's will & we will blessed with a healthy child soon enough. But to answer your Q - we are very ready. So good luck to u!



i am so so so sorry
ddnsp618 Posted:

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we are on the same page, we both want kids, and we want them young. sometimes we go through periods of wanting them ASAP, but then we come back down to reality. we want to have a house, which should be by the mid to end of next year, and then we will get preg. i am going off bcp at my next gyno appt, which is in august, so that will be one year post wedding, and then we will start trying in december or so. we both agree with this plan (even though i formulated it! lol)

MaggieLuvsJoe Posted:

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Posted by VickiR510

Totally we were so ready to be parents. We figured everything else was in place & we are settled financially & with homes. Unfortunately, we lost the baby at 9.5 weeks but didnt find out until our 12 week sonogram (which was last Monday) so its been a whirlwind of a week for us. But, we are doing so much better now. It was God's will & we will blessed with a healthy child soon enough. But to answer your Q - we are very ready. So good luck to u!



aww Vicki I'm so sorry!!!!

Me and DH are on our 3rd month trying so I'm
hoping god will bless us with a little one soon...
Tomlaur0808 Posted:

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Ang you could just take some Nyquil or sudafed for a few days I know this makes the pill ineffective (this isnt an advertised thing, so then if you do get pregnant, you can claim you have NO idea how that could have happened...lol )
MrsInglima Posted:

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Posted by VickiR510

Totally we were so ready to be parents. We figured everything else was in place & we are settled financially & with homes. Unfortunately, we lost the baby at 9.5 weeks but didnt find out until our 12 week sonogram (which was last Monday) so its been a whirlwind of a week for us. But, we are doing so much better now. It was God's will & we will blessed with a healthy child soon enough. But to answer your Q - we are very ready. So good luck to u!



I'm so sorry to hear this! Don't let this scare you. My friend was recently pregnant and lost the baby early too. She's a nurse and told me that it's very common for a first pregnancy to end in a miscarriage and then after that things usually work out fine.
KerriJohnS Posted:

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Posted by VickiR510

Totally we were so ready to be parents. We figured everything else was in place & we are settled financially & with homes. Unfortunately, we lost the baby at 9.5 weeks but didnt find out until our 12 week sonogram (which was last Monday) so its been a whirlwind of a week for us. But, we are doing so much better now. It was God's will & we will blessed with a healthy child soon enough. But to answer your Q - we are very ready. So good luck to u!



aww I'm SOOO SORRY to hear this.

KerriJohnS Posted:

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Posted by MrsDtoBe09


Posted by MirabellaNYC

We're definitely on the same page-we want to be preggo by next fall/early winter-but if it happened sooner it would be a blessing.

The only thing we disagree on is when to go off BCP's. He thinks you can get pregnant immediately whereas I think it takes a while.

Oh well, at least the bigger picture is the same.




All I read about on LIF is girls waiting to regulate off of BCPs...I just went off them this month so I figure (fingers crossed) six months until we're TTC should hopefully be enough to get regular. We just started using condoms again and I REALLY can't see that lasting until the summer! Plus I'm sure I'll be a raging biatch when it comes to getting my period so hopefully that will make DH want me to get pregnant sooner!



Yea... apparently it seems to be a big issue!!!!
They never say that to you when you are going on them though... or at least they didn't to me when I was on them.

Also... has anyone seen the commercial for yaz, yasmin and something else? It's a lawyer commercial about cases going on and asking if anyone has had specific problems while taking these BC's?
Scary!!

One of the BC's I was on was Yasmin or Yaz (I thought they were the same... but IDK).
KerriJohnS Posted:

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Ha then to actually answer this question..

Yes you can def say we were and are on the same page!!!
azailia Posted:

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Posted by KerriJohnS


Posted by MrsDtoBe09


Posted by MirabellaNYC

We're definitely on the same page-we want to be preggo by next fall/early winter-but if it happened sooner it would be a blessing.

The only thing we disagree on is when to go off BCP's. He thinks you can get pregnant immediately whereas I think it takes a while.

Oh well, at least the bigger picture is the same.




All I read about on LIF is girls waiting to regulate off of BCPs...I just went off them this month so I figure (fingers crossed) six months until we're TTC should hopefully be enough to get regular. We just started using condoms again and I REALLY can't see that lasting until the summer! Plus I'm sure I'll be a raging biatch when it comes to getting my period so hopefully that will make DH want me to get pregnant sooner!



Yea... apparently it seems to be a big issue!!!!
They never say that to you when you are going on them though... or at least they didn't to me when I was on them.

Also... has anyone seen the commercial for yaz, yasmin and something else? It's a lawyer commercial about cases going on and asking if anyone has had specific problems while taking these BC's?
Scary!!

One of the BC's I was on was Yasmin or Yaz (I thought they were the same... but IDK).



a friend was on yaz and she was hospitalized with a blood clot in her lungs. She was suffering with chest pains and the doctors kept sayig it was anxiety....

DO NOT TAKE YAz!!!!
KerriJohnS Posted:

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Posted by azailia


Posted by KerriJohnS


Posted by MrsDtoBe09


Posted by MirabellaNYC

We're definitely on the same page-we want to be preggo by next fall/early winter-but if it happened sooner it would be a blessing.

The only thing we disagree on is when to go off BCP's. He thinks you can get pregnant immediately whereas I think it takes a while.

Oh well, at least the bigger picture is the same.




All I read about on LIF is girls waiting to regulate off of BCPs...I just went off them this month so I figure (fingers crossed) six months until we're TTC should hopefully be enough to get regular. We just started using condoms again and I REALLY can't see that lasting until the summer! Plus I'm sure I'll be a raging biatch when it comes to getting my period so hopefully that will make DH want me to get pregnant sooner!



Yea... apparently it seems to be a big issue!!!!
They never say that to you when you are going on them though... or at least they didn't to me when I was on them.

Also... has anyone seen the commercial for yaz, yasmin and something else? It's a lawyer commercial about cases going on and asking if anyone has had specific problems while taking these BC's?
Scary!!

One of the BC's I was on was Yasmin or Yaz (I thought they were the same... but IDK).



a friend was on yaz and she was hospitalized with a blood clot in her lungs. She was suffering with chest pains and the doctors kept sayig it was anxiety....

DO NOT TAKE YAz!!!!


I find that when people have problems or develop problems when they are on BC doctors tend to be very quick to dismiss it.

I'm just overall not a fan of BC pills as a whole. I didn't like being on them... I HATE them actually... they seem un-natural to me and just taking 'fake' hormones scares me. Sorry to those of you on it... I mean no offense... this is just my personal feelings about them. I've been on BC pills twice... 2 different kinds and I just feel sooo blah when I take them.
MrsInglima Posted:

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Posted by KerriJohnS


Posted by azailia


Posted by KerriJohnS


Posted by MrsDtoBe09


Posted by MirabellaNYC

We're definitely on the same page-we want to be preggo by next fall/early winter-but if it happened sooner it would be a blessing.

The only thing we disagree on is when to go off BCP's. He thinks you can get pregnant immediately whereas I think it takes a while.

Oh well, at least the bigger picture is the same.




All I read about on LIF is girls waiting to regulate off of BCPs...I just went off them this month so I figure (fingers crossed) six months until we're TTC should hopefully be enough to get regular. We just started using condoms again and I REALLY can't see that lasting until the summer! Plus I'm sure I'll be a raging biatch when it comes to getting my period so hopefully that will make DH want me to get pregnant sooner!



Yea... apparently it seems to be a big issue!!!!
They never say that to you when you are going on them though... or at least they didn't to me when I was on them.

Also... has anyone seen the commercial for yaz, yasmin and something else? It's a lawyer commercial about cases going on and asking if anyone has had specific problems while taking these BC's?
Scary!!

One of the BC's I was on was Yasmin or Yaz (I thought they were the same... but IDK).



a friend was on yaz and she was hospitalized with a blood clot in her lungs. She was suffering with chest pains and the doctors kept sayig it was anxiety....

DO NOT TAKE YAz!!!!


I find that when people have problems or develop problems when they are on BC doctors tend to be very quick to dismiss it.

I'm just overall not a fan of BC pills as a whole. I didn't like being on them... I HATE them actually... they seem un-natural to me and just taking 'fake' hormones scares me. Sorry to those of you on it... I mean no offense... this is just my personal feelings about them. I've been on BC pills twice... 2 different kinds and I just feel sooo blah when I take them.



Ditto. I was so incredibly depressed when I was on them. I thought I was bipolar for the longest time because I would have highs and lows that ran like clockwork and then I realized it was the BCPs. I went off of them and within a month I felt 100 times better. It was amazing. For five years I was the most depressed person ever, and then it turned out I'm actually a pretty happy and outgoing person instead.

I talked to my doctor about it and she said that some people, especially if it runs in their family (which my family does have a history of anxiety, depression, etc.) have reactions to BC like this and chances are no matter which pill you take, it's going to have the same effect. So after the New Year DH and I are thinking about getting an IUD or IED or whatever they are instead.
Just Cindy Posted:

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We are on the same page of 3 yrs...I want to finish school and have a house.

MLAngelo Posted:

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No I would start trying now if I could. He wants to wait two or three years. We both know we need to be more financially stable though, so we do agree there. But I think we have found a compromise and will start trying in Sept if we are more financially stable by then. If not then when we are.

julesrbf Posted:

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We are essentially on the same page. DH always knew I wanted to start before 30 (I'm 26) and was fine with that, but he wants to enjoy being married first. So, while I told him I would like to start after 1 year of marriage, he said 2-3 years was better for him ... so we compromised and will start after 2 years. Unless he changes his mind ... because I would totally be willing to start trying tomorrow
sweetdoublenn Posted:

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Pretty much! Both of us want kids! We recently bought our first home and there is work being done on it..so we want to enjoy married life in that house for a little while...currently we are living with his parents. So we are very excited to finally moving into our new home and starting a family of our own..Probably in a year and a half from now.

JennyAPH Posted:

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DH wants one now! So he is just waiting for me. I applied for a new job at work and if i get it I can't have one for 3 years but he is ok with that.. I am really really really starting to get the itch though

ETA: my family was SO annoying at christmas asking when we were having one.. We got married 3 months ago! I dont know how they are going to wait 3 years
Summertimegal424 Posted:

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hmmm i think we married the wrong people? ha ha cause Tom is on the same page as you, and im on he same page as Mike!
coldasice217 Posted:

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We're on the same page for the most part...we'd both like to wait a year and a half to 2 years....but we don't necessarily know if that means wait to start trying by then or actually have the child born by then, that's what varies. I know I'd like my first, if not first two children by the time I'm 30, and I'm not even 25 yet, so time is on my side God willing. We're shooting for 3, and I want to be done by like 33, 34 TOPs, and we'll probably want to space them 3-4 years apart so I think we're on good pace.

Vicki, I'm so sorry for your loss
coldasice217 Posted:

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Posted by PoppedInASnap

I didnt agree on this being the right time- he wanted kids... and got his wish!!!

You know ang, accidents happen just kidding



OMG I kneeeeeeeeeeeeeeeew you were from a bunch of posts you made over the past few weeks but I didn't want to say anything in case I deduced wrong....so am I correct to say congrats????

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