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Future Mrs H Posted: Jul 15, 2011 07:02 AM+

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Posted: Jul 15, 2011 07:02 AM

Baby Shower invite

I got an invite to Jerry's cousin and her partners baby shower. Now she didnt come or give us a gift for our wedding- nor did she come to Jerry's moms wake/funeral or send a mass/sympathy card. I have decided not to go to the shower but would you send a gift? Jerry says no- but I dont want to cause any hard feelings and think we should.
WWYD?

Also she is registered at BabiesRUs and SEARS!!!!

I have never heard of anyone registering for baby stuff at Sears??

SoontobeMrs.Brown Posted: Jul 15, 2011 08:10 AM+

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Posted: Jul 15, 2011 08:10 AM

Re: Baby Shower invite

I would still send a gift. Something small but its still you being the bigger/more thoughtful person.

2010BTB Posted: Jul 15, 2011 08:11 AM+

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Posted: Jul 15, 2011 08:11 AM

Re: Baby Shower invite

I wouldn't send a gift. If she didn't make an effort for things (especially the wake!) why should you? Although part of me would feel kinda bad...cause that's just who I am.

Byrne2Be Posted: Jul 15, 2011 08:40 AM+

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Posted: Jul 15, 2011 08:40 AM

Re: Baby Shower invite

I'm torn on this one...I agree with both carey and lauren.

Thing is, this woman's actions clearly suggest she doesn't care much about her relationship with family members. Now that it is her time in the spotlight sounds like her tone has changed.

I don't think it would be WRONG, under the circumstances, to not go and not send a gift. BUT, I think a small token in the mail would be a good idea, like carey said....so you have piece of mind that you're doing right by family and the bigger person.

And ya, not sure about sears for baby gear!

Future Mrs H Posted: Jul 15, 2011 08:52 AM+

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Posted: Jul 15, 2011 08:52 AM

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Yeah I think I will get a small item off her registry and send it.
The wedding thing really didnt bother me but when it came to my MIL's wake - that did. Yes I know she lives down south and couldnt come but she could have sent Flowers, a mass card or even made a phone call to give Jerry her sympathies!!

And the Sears thing- Jerry says to me 'what does the baby want from sears- a screwdriver?'

dctead Posted: Jul 15, 2011 09:14 AM+

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Posted: Jul 15, 2011 09:14 AM

Re: Baby Shower invite

Posted by Future Mrs H

And the Sears thing- Jerry says to me 'what does the baby want from sears- a screwdriver?'

That's what I thought....

If it were me - I'd send a small token gift and not go...

Rosalind_75 Posted: Jul 15, 2011 09:26 AM+

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Posted: Jul 15, 2011 09:26 AM

Re: Baby Shower invite

im all for tit for tat. no need to send her anything. even your man doesnt think you should and thats his family.

AwaitingAugust Posted: Jul 15, 2011 10:05 AM+

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Posted: Jul 15, 2011 10:05 AM

Re: Baby Shower invite

i'd just send a card ... no gift - doesn't sound like she really 'deserves' it.

mybabylovesmoi Posted: Jul 15, 2011 10:12 AM+

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Posted: Jul 15, 2011 10:12 AM

Re: Baby Shower invite

given the circumstances... NO!

kshea23 Posted: Jul 15, 2011 10:14 AM+

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Posted: Jul 15, 2011 10:14 AM

Re: Baby Shower invite

Posted by AwaitingAugust

i'd just send a card ... no gift - doesn't sound like she really 'deserves' it.

I agree. Atleast your giving her something- even if it's just well wishes.

BlushandBashful Posted: Jul 15, 2011 10:14 AM+

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Posted: Jul 15, 2011 10:14 AM

Re: Baby Shower invite

Posted by 2010BTB

I wouldn't send a gift. If she didn't make an effort for things (especially the wake!) why should you? Although part of me would feel kinda bad...cause that's just who I am.

This.

jm2010 Posted: Jul 15, 2011 10:37 AM+

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Posted: Jul 15, 2011 10:37 AM

Re: Baby Shower invite

Posted by Future Mrs H

I got an invite to Jerry's cousin and her partners baby shower. Now she didnt come or give us a gift for our wedding- nor did she come to Jerry's moms wake/funeral or send a mass/sympathy card. I have decided not to go to the shower but would you send a gift? Jerry says no- but I dont want to cause any hard feelings and think we should.
WWYD?

Also she is registered at BabiesRUs and SEARS!!!!

I have never heard of anyone registering for baby stuff at Sears??

nope - no gift ...
she didn't think about causing any hard feelings when she did what she did - why should you? ...

Becca2010 Posted: Jul 15, 2011 10:42 AM+

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Posted: Jul 15, 2011 10:42 AM

Re: Baby Shower invite

I invited DH's friend's fiance to my shower and she said no and didn't send a gift, so I did the same for hers. I dont feel guilty about it either. Why should I?

These same people have since completely separated from our circle and don't even talk to their best man anymore nor did they call when he and his wife had a baby. Yeah ok, they send an FB wall post that said 'congrats.' Good job.

Tit for tat, like Rozzzzzz said.

Maybe send a nice card, but you dont have to do anything else.