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Came to wedding but no gift... what to write in TY??

cindy_bride Posted: Nov 13, 2004 10:58 AM+

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Posted: Nov 13, 2004 10:58 AM

Re: Came to wedding but no gift... what to write in TY??

we had one person do that to us. gave a card with nothing in it. we chose not to send him a ty.

Marcie Posted: Nov 13, 2004 11:20 AM+

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Posted: Nov 13, 2004 11:20 AM

Re: Came to wedding but no gift... what to write in TY??

An update to an earlier post. We received a card and a check from the people that didn't give us anything at the wedding.

Xelindrya Posted: Nov 13, 2004 11:50 AM+

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Posted: Nov 13, 2004 11:50 AM

Re: Came to wedding but no gift... what to write in TY??

WOW
this really is a hot topic.

I've said this before, but I'll say it again.
I am grateful to all who attended my wedding and I hope they had a good time. I never really considered 'did you bring something' as a criteria.

I say send a thank you note to everyone as soon as you can. That's just me. I really *DO* want to thank EVERYONE who came to my wedding. It's freaking me out that I'm still waiting for my thank you cards.

So much planning went into my wedding. I'm just glad people came to see it and enjoyed themselves. THAT made the day worth it.

MissMelissa Posted: Nov 13, 2004 09:01 PM+

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Posted: Nov 13, 2004 09:01 PM

Re: Came to wedding but no gift... what to write in TY??

i didn't send thank u's to people who didn't give us gifts. it's rude, i guess but i think its more rude to come to a wedding w/no gift!

tourist Posted: Nov 14, 2004 11:32 AM+

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Posted: Nov 14, 2004 11:32 AM

Re: Came to wedding but no gift... what to write in TY??

Posted by FeliciaDA

Posted by tourist

I have just 1, a co-worker, who said her gift 'is coming'
So do I wait? When other coworkers get their thank yous, will she say 'where is mine'?

And if I send a 'thank you for coming' one will she
think it is a hint that I want ehr to give me the gift she mentioned?

Wow - I am in the exact same predicament, Tourist and am glad you brought up this question....

I have 2 people -- one is my boss&wife, the other a close friend --who have assured me that our 'gift is coming.' And I do believe they will send the gift, that is not my issue per se.

Meanwhile I've sent out all my thank yous to everyone, but held off on theirs because I also thought it would sound 'pushy' if I sent a 'thank you for coming to the wedding' card (though I seriously intend for it to be that way! I do want to just thank them for coming to the wedding!)

But now I have a feeling they will compare notes with my other friends and think I am purposely NOT sending a thank you because of the lack of a gift thus far! Damned if I do, damned if I don't

SHould you send the 'thank you for coming ' card (photo thank you) and then another note after I receive the gift??

no, no , no, you've been maried longer than me you are supposed to have all the answers!

Yeah, maybe we should just send a 'thank you for coming card' and if & when they send a gift , send another thank you. I'd probably use the plain ones I have from my shower & engagment gifts.