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Posted by Sharron70
Posted by leafgirl
I figured I would be attacked for saying what many others feel.![]()
I'm sorry - and what 'poll' did you take recently that says what you feel is 'what many others feel'?
I have to disagree - looks like you're in the minority.
If you have nothing nice, supportive or constructive to say, pi$$ off.
Posted by apriladam9206
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Posted by leafgirlDo you often see me post? Cause I'm confused here... Basically I never do.
But this is why we have friends in our lives to vent to them. I FEEL that posting on a public forum is ridiculous about personal issues that we don't want to or can't address ourselves. Say what you wish on how I worded things, that's ok in my book.
I see it that if you really were confused or disoriented about something, there would be different ways of dealing. As for being in her shoes... Well you all don't know one thing about me so you will never know if I ever was or wasn't...BECAUSE I don't post my issues on the webI deal with them through family, my faith and my friends. That's what gets me through.
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Posted by Aug07OFCbride
Posted by leafgirlDo you often see me post? Cause I'm confused here... Basically I never do.
But this is why we have friends in our lives to vent to them. I FEEL that posting on a public forum is ridiculous about personal issues that we don't want to or can't address ourselves. Say what you wish on how I worded things, that's ok in my book.
I see it that if you really were confused or disoriented about something, there would be different ways of dealing. As for being in her shoes... Well you all don't know one thing about me so you will never know if I ever was or wasn't...BECAUSE I don't post my issues on the webI deal with them through family, my faith and my friends. That's what gets me through.
I figured I would be attacked for saying what many others feel.![]()
and the many others are free to speak up if they want to. did you feel the need to be the representative?
and, honestly, that is wonderful for you that you deal with it through family, faith and friends. but try to be understanding of the fact that everyone copes with things differently. and she was sharing it here with us as an outlet.
fine to have your opinion... you don't share personal stuff on here and thats fine. good for you. but your wording just sounded really rude and youre making accusations about someone you don't know. and NO youre not in her shoes, even if may have been through something similar. goes without saying that everyone is diffferent. what, did you want her to handle it the way YOU did/would??
Posted by leafgirl
Posted by Aug07OFCbride
Posted by leafgirlDo you often see me post? Cause I'm confused here... Basically I never do.
But this is why we have friends in our lives to vent to them. I FEEL that posting on a public forum is ridiculous about personal issues that we don't want to or can't address ourselves. Say what you wish on how I worded things, that's ok in my book.
I see it that if you really were confused or disoriented about something, there would be different ways of dealing. As for being in her shoes... Well you all don't know one thing about me so you will never know if I ever was or wasn't...BECAUSE I don't post my issues on the webI deal with them through family, my faith and my friends. That's what gets me through.
I figured I would be attacked for saying what many others feel.![]()
and the many others are free to speak up if they want to. did you feel the need to be the representative?
and, honestly, that is wonderful for you that you deal with it through family, faith and friends. but try to be understanding of the fact that everyone copes with things differently. and she was sharing it here with us as an outlet.
fine to have your opinion... you don't share personal stuff on here and thats fine. good for you. but your wording just sounded really rude and youre making accusations about someone you don't know. and NO youre not in her shoes, even if may have been through something similar. goes without saying that everyone is diffferent. what, did you want her to handle it the way YOU did/would??
Posted by Songstress
When I was a kid, I remember when my father left. My mother cried and cried and my sister and I basically had to take care of ourselves and watch my mother break down. My father cheated on my mom multiple times yet she stayed with him KNOWING this until she finally got the strength to pack his bags and tell him to leave, which he did with no problem. I remember my mother crying for him even after this, even after the proof of his infidelity and I remember my mother calling him begging him to come back ever AFTER all of this. WHAT AN IDIOT RIGHT??! NO.
the reason IM sharing this is because I think its easy for a lot of us to wonder WHy she hasnt left yet but I dont think its thats easy ladies. As much of an ******* as he is being, and no matter how much proof she has of what a jerk he is, it wont make it any easier for her.
Posted by PegaLega
Caroline you know I love you! But iwth that said I totally get this post. I understand venting....but this is a regular thing-he does something you come on and vent-like we all do. But to post a rant about this and how you are crying your eyes out, etc. then you are going to see a lawyer but now you are going to BBQs? Im confused-what do you want from him? It seems like he is doing everything he can to push you away and show you he doesnt care yet you stay and act like everything is honky dory. I understand you want to work it out but over the past year this is all we have heard of your relationship-nothing nice....at least if you did I dont remember it (sorry for that) but naturally we all jump to your defense and support you but then you make us wonder w t f happened that you are spending time with his family and friends after he made you out to look like an asss? Im sorry but yes in that situation regardless (go SIL) you do look like an asss-its like the boy who cried wolf and that is what is 'feels' like since its almost like that whole convo just disappeared. Im not trying to get on you-im really not so P LEASE dont take it that awy.
I understand that Ella is involved...no I dont have children and the worst thing parents can do is stay under one roof when they do not love each other. Ella can sense that, you dont even need to be fighting for her to know what is going on-and later in life she will despise both of you for it.
My parents seperated and it was the best thing they ever did-I STILL over 20 years later remember them hating each other and staying together for the sake of children. That is just not a good enough excuse. She is going to think in the future when she is older that that kind of behavior from a man is ok the more you let her see it.
I have to agree withBeth, it does seem like this has become a joke-everyone aske dif you were ok for days and checked in with you....you were no where to be found-then you post a pic off of Perez and still dont update those around you who are truly wondering and worried about your well being?
Posted by carolinebr
Posted by PegaLega
Caroline you know I love you! But iwth that said I totally get this post. I understand venting....but this is a regular thing-he does something you come on and vent-like we all do. But to post a rant about this and how you are crying your eyes out, etc. then you are going to see a lawyer but now you are going to BBQs? Im confused-what do you want from him? It seems like he is doing everything he can to push you away and show you he doesnt care yet you stay and act like everything is honky dory. I understand you want to work it out but over the past year this is all we have heard of your relationship-nothing nice....at least if you did I dont remember it (sorry for that) but naturally we all jump to your defense and support you but then you make us wonder w t f happened that you are spending time with his family and friends after he made you out to look like an asss? Im sorry but yes in that situation regardless (go SIL) you do look like an asss-its like the boy who cried wolf and that is what is 'feels' like since its almost like that whole convo just disappeared. Im not trying to get on you-im really not so P LEASE dont take it that awy.
I understand that Ella is involved...no I dont have children and the worst thing parents can do is stay under one roof when they do not love each other. Ella can sense that, you dont even need to be fighting for her to know what is going on-and later in life she will despise both of you for it.
My parents seperated and it was the best thing they ever did-I STILL over 20 years later remember them hating each other and staying together for the sake of children. That is just not a good enough excuse. She is going to think in the future when she is older that that kind of behavior from a man is ok the more you let her see it.
I have to agree withBeth, it does seem like this has become a joke-everyone aske dif you were ok for days and checked in with you....you were no where to be found-then you post a pic off of Perez and still dont update those around you who are truly wondering and worried about your well being?
but I AM doing something!!! I got a lawyer & I am getting a dicorce! Do you know how horrible that is for me to have to type. Yes _ iwen to a BBQ so my daughter could see her dad & play with other kids. I wasn't dancing with ny husband & sitting on his lap. Its an AWFUL situation.
Anyone who FM'ed me and asked if I was ok got an FM back. I just haven't advertised everything b/c quite honestly, this is a 'newlywed' board & I feel badly coming on here & posting such depressing sh!t all the time. Some girls are posting 'hi, I'm a newlywed!' and my post beneath is like 'hi - I'm a divorcee to be!' That's not fair to the happily married girls.
Someone out of all these brides had to get divorced. I'm taking one for the team. If my posting about it is upsetting or frustrating to people, I sincerely apologize. I have honestly tried to keep the sad posts to a minimum. I have tried to make light of my situation and make myself laugh and if that makes anyone think I am not taking this seriously, then I apologize for my misrepresentation. I am about as devastated as a persona can ever be. Trust me.
Posted by PegaLega
Caroline you know I love you! But iwth that said I totally get this post. I understand venting....but this is a regular thing-he does something you come on and vent-like we all do. But to post a rant about this and how you are crying your eyes out, etc. then you are going to see a lawyer but now you are going to BBQs? Im confused-what do you want from him? It seems like he is doing everything he can to push you away and show you he doesnt care yet you stay and act like everything is honky dory. I understand you want to work it out but over the past year this is all we have heard of your relationship-nothing nice....at least if you did I dont remember it (sorry for that) but naturally we all jump to your defense and support you but then you make us wonder w t f happened that you are spending time with his family and friends after he made you out to look like an asss? Im sorry but yes in that situation regardless (go SIL) you do look like an asss-its like the boy who cried wolf and that is what is 'feels' like since its almost like that whole convo just disappeared. Im not trying to get on you-im really not so P LEASE dont take it that awy.
I understand that Ella is involved...no I dont have children and the worst thing parents can do is stay under one roof when they do not love each other. Ella can sense that, you dont even need to be fighting for her to know what is going on-and later in life she will despise both of you for it.
My parents seperated and it was the best thing they ever did-I STILL over 20 years later remember them hating each other and staying together for the sake of children. That is just not a good enough excuse. She is going to think in the future when she is older that that kind of behavior from a man is ok the more you let her see it.
I have to agree withBeth, it does seem like this has become a joke-everyone aske dif you were ok for days and checked in with you....you were no where to be found-then you post a pic off of Perez and still dont update those around you who are truly wondering and worried about your well being?
Posted by carolinebr
Posted by leafgirl
I know exactly how I would feel, I would get out for the sake of my child. I guess you never had divorced parents. Take it from one that has, staying is never ok. Even if she is young, she knows the tension. I do not have children but I am wise beyond my years. I would never cry every day and not do anything about it.
Don't think that no one knows who you are on here. WE all have someone who knows us through someone else. Trust me on that one. You need to get help for yourself and your daughter. You married the wrong man, so what I am sure someone else will come along and be better for you. But it's time that you take some action to get help for you.
Crying and being sad over it is understandable. Who the heck wouldn't be, but you have to understand that coming on LIW to vent about it to strangers, you may come across one stranger that has just heard enough of the crying and not doing anything of it. I guess this is myself. Sorry.
I am not trying to kick you when you are down, I am trying to show you an outsiders opinion without sugar coating it.
This is how I am to all that is in my life and it's very much appreciated. I think you need to take a step back.
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Posted by apriladam9206
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Posted by carolinebr
Posted by PegaLega
Caroline you know I love you! But iwth that said I totally get this post. I understand venting....but this is a regular thing-he does something you come on and vent-like we all do. But to post a rant about this and how you are crying your eyes out, etc. then you are going to see a lawyer but now you are going to BBQs? Im confused-what do you want from him? It seems like he is doing everything he can to push you away and show you he doesnt care yet you stay and act like everything is honky dory. I understand you want to work it out but over the past year this is all we have heard of your relationship-nothing nice....at least if you did I dont remember it (sorry for that) but naturally we all jump to your defense and support you but then you make us wonder w t f happened that you are spending time with his family and friends after he made you out to look like an asss? Im sorry but yes in that situation regardless (go SIL) you do look like an asss-its like the boy who cried wolf and that is what is 'feels' like since its almost like that whole convo just disappeared. Im not trying to get on you-im really not so P LEASE dont take it that awy.
I understand that Ella is involved...no I dont have children and the worst thing parents can do is stay under one roof when they do not love each other. Ella can sense that, you dont even need to be fighting for her to know what is going on-and later in life she will despise both of you for it.
My parents seperated and it was the best thing they ever did-I STILL over 20 years later remember them hating each other and staying together for the sake of children. That is just not a good enough excuse. She is going to think in the future when she is older that that kind of behavior from a man is ok the more you let her see it.
I have to agree withBeth, it does seem like this has become a joke-everyone aske dif you were ok for days and checked in with you....you were no where to be found-then you post a pic off of Perez and still dont update those around you who are truly wondering and worried about your well being?
but I AM doing something!!! I got a lawyer & I am getting a dicorce! Do you know how horrible that is for me to have to type. Yes _ iwen to a BBQ so my daughter could see her dad & play with other kids. I wasn't dancing with ny husband & sitting on his lap. Its an AWFUL situation.
Anyone who FM'ed me and asked if I was ok got an FM back. I just haven't advertised everything b/c quite honestly, this is a 'newlywed' board & I feel badly coming on here & posting such depressing sh!t all the time. Some girls are posting 'hi, I'm a newlywed!' and my post beneath is like 'hi - I'm a divorcee to be!' That's not fair to the happily married girls.
Someone out of all these brides had to get divorced. I'm taking one for the team. If my posting about it is upsetting or frustrating to people, I sincerely apologize. I have honestly tried to keep the sad posts to a minimum. I have tried to make light of my situation and make myself laugh and if that makes anyone think I am not taking this seriously, then I apologize for my misrepresentation. I am about as devastated as a persona can ever be. Trust me.
Posted by Aug07OFCbride
Posted by PegaLega
Caroline you know I love you! But iwth that said I totally get this post. I understand venting....but this is a regular thing-he does something you come on and vent-like we all do. But to post a rant about this and how you are crying your eyes out, etc. then you are going to see a lawyer but now you are going to BBQs? Im confused-what do you want from him? It seems like he is doing everything he can to push you away and show you he doesnt care yet you stay and act like everything is honky dory. I understand you want to work it out but over the past year this is all we have heard of your relationship-nothing nice....at least if you did I dont remember it (sorry for that) but naturally we all jump to your defense and support you but then you make us wonder w t f happened that you are spending time with his family and friends after he made you out to look like an asss? Im sorry but yes in that situation regardless (go SIL) you do look like an asss-its like the boy who cried wolf and that is what is 'feels' like since its almost like that whole convo just disappeared. Im not trying to get on you-im really not so P LEASE dont take it that awy.
I understand that Ella is involved...no I dont have children and the worst thing parents can do is stay under one roof when they do not love each other. Ella can sense that, you dont even need to be fighting for her to know what is going on-and later in life she will despise both of you for it.
My parents seperated and it was the best thing they ever did-I STILL over 20 years later remember them hating each other and staying together for the sake of children. That is just not a good enough excuse. She is going to think in the future when she is older that that kind of behavior from a man is ok the more you let her see it.
I have to agree withBeth, it does seem like this has become a joke-everyone aske dif you were ok for days and checked in with you....you were no where to be found-then you post a pic off of Perez and still dont update those around you who are truly wondering and worried about your well being?
peg kinda in response to you and also just generally...
she has nothing to prove to any of us. she doesnt need to get divorced (or do it quickly) to make all of us feel better. its not our decision. even if you were a child of separation or divorce, you have no idea how it will affect HER child so making those assumptions or trying to make her feel worse about it based on that really isn't fair.
if youre tired of hearing her vent, bc shes then not following through the way YOU think she should (ie- she should leave him right away, answer posts or FMs from concerned ppl on here, etc), ignore her posts.
