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DH's Dad - Sunday Afternoon Update

Original post by MrsInglima

So as some of you may remember DH has never had a good relationship with his dad and he was diagnosed with terminal cancer 4 months ago. Well DH is on a business trip right now in Phoenix and got a call from his uncle that he needed to come home NOW if he wants to make it in time to see his dad one last time. They don't think he's going to last another day, and poor DH may not be able to get there until tomorrow morning. I tried to help him as best as I could to change his flight and limo service and all that stuff, but it might be too late...so I'd ask for prayers to make it so that everything is ok. But really all I want is for his dad to live long enough so DH can see him...

ETA: Friday Morning

So I talked to DH this morning. He got there at like 5ish this morning and his dad was still alive but barely responsive. His sister and aunt are there (and he and his aunt have buried the hatchet) so he's not alone. His uncle will probably come in again later today. Although his aunt was going to go home and take a shower, but when the doctor's checked FIL's vitals she decided not to leave, so...this could happen soon.

I'm really torn about whether I should go up there right now or not. I have a meeting and an appointment with a participant today (I do research) so I should go to work and DH told me not to worry about it because he's got his sister and his aunt, but I still feel like he needs me and I can't help but worry. Ugh. Maybe I'll just work until my meeting is over and then go up there. My boss is really understand so she wouldn't care what I do. I'll let you know when I find out more.

ETA2:

Just talked to DH. The doctor said he has anywhere from a few minutes to a day so I'm leaving for PA now.

ETA: Friday Night

I managed to get there about an hour before FIL passed away. So at least things are over and there's no more suffering. Thanks everyone for all your support, I really appreciate it. DH is obviously really upset and stressed out. The wake is actually on our one year anniversary, I guess it was a good thing we did our celebrating last weekend. Will let you guys know how it goes.

ETA: Sunday Afternoon

Wake - Monday 1/18 from 4-7pm
Burial - Tuesday 11am

In lieu of flowers, memorial contributions may be made to Brighten at Julia Ribaudo, 1404 Golf Park Drive, Lake Ariel PA 18436. Att: Mary Anne Hornack. It's for a new crash cart.

What an awesome way to spend our first anniversary...
PROBM Posted:

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we are thinking about u lots of hugs
las1 Posted:

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i am so sorry

NikkiR515 Posted:

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I am so sorry Lila..I am sending you, your dh, and his dad tons of prayers...
kmiller Posted:

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I am so sorry to hear this. I hope you have a safe trip to PA and that you are able to be a comfort for your DH right now.
AugustBridein09 Posted:

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I'm so sorry


meara Posted:

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Well I am happy that your DH got to be there but always sad to have to go through the ending of life no matter how it happens - glad you are going there for him and even if it happens before you get there - have no guilt - you will still be there for him after which is more important!!! safe travels and prayers for you and your family
azailia Posted:

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so sorry
MrsInglima Posted:

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Thanks everyone, I just got home. DH's dad passed today just before 2pm. DH is in the shower trying to de-stress (he hasn't slept or showered since yesterday morning. I just hope tonight isn't that hard for him.
Tomlaur0808 Posted:

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Lila Im so so so sorry
dazies1011 Posted:

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Im sooo sorry for your loss
glenisland09 Posted:

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i'm so sorry
MrsInglima Posted:

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Thanks everyone so much for your support. I can't sleep, in part because our cats HAD to be fed at 5:30 this morning (seriously not my choice but when you have little paws walking all over you and shoving their noses in your face...) and in part because I'm worried about DH. I was never a fan of FIL, but I'm a little traumatized from being in the room and watching DH's reaction to when he died. I think in the long run he'll be ok, but I can't help but he really worried about him. Times like these I wish we had a lot of money so when things are all said and done we could go on a nice beach vacation somewhere and he could relax for a little while. ::Sigh::
MrsInglima Posted:

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Bump...

MrsJuneB2B Posted:

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i'm so so so sorry for such a terrible loss - i can't imagine how awful this must be for you all... i don't even know what to say i'll keep you and DH and your family in my prayers. your DH has a good caring person to help him through this terrible time.
gina409 Posted:

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im so sorry
MrsDtoBe09 Posted:

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I'm so sorry.
MirabellaNYC Posted:

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I'm so sorry Lila
MoochsWifey Posted:

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I'm so sorry!
flairforfashion Posted:

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I am so sorry for your loss.
Joe and Erica Posted:

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I am sorry for you and your DH's loss. Your family will be in my prayers

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