Did your bridal party help you out as much as you wanted them to or did they appear that they couldn't be bothered?

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My sister, my cousin and my good friend were always there for me. The rest of the bridal party unfortunatley did not help at all.

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Keep in mind that very few people understand what it is like to plan a wedding. My single friends were just not as into it as much as I was (not by a long shot). Remember why you chose them and make their obligations as easy as possible b/c they are your friends.

There were times that I was a little hurt by my BMs lack of interest but when it counted (shower and wedding day) they were great.

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I only had an MOH who is my sister and I only asked her to do a few things the day of my wedding and she didn't do any of them becasue she got too drunk!!!

But as a general rule I don't rely on other to do things for me...I prefer to do them myself : ).

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Since I was planning long distance, with 2 BM's here with me in Texas, the other in IN and the other in NY, from the start I didn't expect very much from them in terms of sitting at my house and putting favors together, etc. All I wanted was them to be there for me on the big day. My MOH lives in Texas so when my mom came down to go dress shopping she came along and it was great. But since we were never all in the same place at once expect for the wedding, I didn't ask for it to be a huge deal to them. Just be there for me on the day and they were!

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I'm so anal, I wanted very little help, but they did ask numerous times how they could help, and they assembled my programs for me the day before my wedding. They threw me a fantastic Bridal Shower, so that's all I really wanted from them. I was very low maintenance when it came to planning, so I was lucky

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My sister was my MOH so she was definitely there to help me and offered her help. But my other BM's weren't as forthcoming in extending help - I didn't expect that much out of them but I would have liked it if they called me up to ask if I needed help towards the end. I'm sure they would have helped if I called upon them. Most of them were just too busy with their lives to give that extra attention. Maybe 'cuz we're in our 30's they didn't get as excited about their roles as BM. They helped out with the shower and on the day of the wedding they were definitely helpful.

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We were very lucky!

Our bridal party was so wonderful to us!

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Umm, yes. I had to remind certain members of my bridal party that the day was for me! I can't tell you how many times the photographer had to find them while we were taking pics. And sad to say, they've been thorugh it all and are all married already, so I thought they should have known better.

ETA: my sisters (MOH) and best friend were more than wonderful.

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My bridal party consisted of all cousins. 2 were single and my MOH was married but by the justice of the peace. I think since they never had or participated in a formal wedding they really were clueless what to do. For a while I was semi-bitter but then I realized that they were just clueless! Sometimes you have to gently tell your bridal party what you want or you'll just get frustrated.

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I tried to keep in mind that they weren't going to be as into the wedding as I was...so I kept my expectations low...but my sister even fell below that standard...and while everyone told me to get back at her at her shower...I refused to stoop to that level...

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I didnt have much help from my bridal party. My maid of honor, (my sister in law) that lives in Fla, was not local, but I still didnt hear from her much during the year of planning. My two friends didnt do much at all and my husbands sister gave me nothing but grief . My mom basically was there for me with everything. I so appreciate her for all she did.

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My MOH is FANTASTIC, and she lives out of state, but we talk constantly, and she's constantly emailing me ideas and things about the wedding.

The rest of my bridal party aren't really involved at all (they are also out of state, and all are single but one).

It's ok, I'm having a lot of fun planning everything, I'm just glad they'll all be here for the wedding (I was worried that some wouldn't be able to because they are all so far away).

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I knew I would have a weak bridal party... DH's daughter wasn't much help...she's 16. Though she did make an amazing surprise speech to her father and I at the wedding! DH's sister had a lot going on in her life and I knew wouldn't be as involved. And my MOH also had her hands full and didn't do much, though she made me a beautiful cake-like thing for lollipops for my shower. But my SIL (my brother's wife) did SO MUCH! A new mother herself, she did more than I could imagine - between her and my mother, I didn't want for anything in the way of support and help for my wedding!!

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I felt like it was a chore for them. They basically just showed up. I was actually by myself when I got my hair and makeup done because everyone was out doing their own thing. I sent out a newsletter and they all basically laughed at me and called me telling me I had 'too much time on my hands'. I asked them to be at my house no later than 11:30 and the last BM showed up by 12:30. Things are very different for me know. I don't go out of my way for them.

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My sister and best friend were my MOHs. They both helped me a lot. And my other local BMs helped if I asked, always asked me how thing were going, and offered to help me. My two SILs live in MA and they didn't do a darn thing, occassionally they asked how I was doing.
My LIW friends helped me every single day. But especially Stef, Cindy, Claud. They got their hand's dirty helping me with my programs, placecandles and other things.
I think you need to know that your wedding is not priority one for many of the people you know, and you need to really appreciate those people that really extend themselves to you during that time. I never expected much from many of my BMs and I was never angry at them for not helping me a lot either.

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How sweet Michele...thanks

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Yes they did. All except one who asked if she could help but I could tell she wasn't really into it, so I told her I had everything under control.

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my MOH was my best friend and was preg at the time. she gave biorth about 2 months b4 the wedding. she was there for me to vent to...and came dress shopping with me ( got my dress about 7 weeks after getting engaged..and 1-1/2 yrs b4 our date!) but i was very disappointed that she bungled my shower to the point that I almost did not have one ( never sent out the invites).

my sil in fla was a huge help- very organized..my mil did a lot of work putting together favors, purchased yarmulkas, unity candle, kiddush cup, helped as much as she could. was the crafty one...

my other sil didnt do much but pitched in for the shower and just needed direction to do stuff- so that was fine..good listener.

myother freind lives in ct and basically gave $$ towards the shower and I went dress sopping for her gown with her...but she too was preg. that combined with being far away meant she couldnt really help at all....but she was there for me on my wedding day...and helped my bustle my gown...and gave me hugs!

MY fam members who were supposed to be in my bridal party backed out about 4 months b4 the wedding. and did not come to the wedding at all...
( actually out of about 60 family members only 5 came!)