Re: do you call your MIL just to chat? How about Grandmother-IL

Never.

She always whines that I don't call her.

Maybe if she wasn't such a nasty C U Next Tuesday to me 90% of the time, I would pick up the phone to call. 'Til then, it ain't happening. And when she does let up and treat me with kindness, then hell has frozen over and the end of the world will be here, so the use of a phone would be null and void anyway.

Re: do you call your MIL just to chat? How about Grandmother-IL

Cracking up!!!!!!!!!

Re: do you call your MIL just to chat? How about Grandmother-IL

I could write a book right now but I'm going to try to keep it short. DH's Grandmother doesn't like me (that was in my 'The Jew' post) but his mom ALWAYS calls me to say hi and to BS. She does it during work and DRIVES ME CRAZY! Or she'll call me to ask me something to ask DH becuase she's scared he's on a ladder (he's an electrican) and doesn't want to scare him when his phone goes off.

I NEVER call my MIL. She tries too hard to be my friend and talk to me about everything (her daughter and her talk about EVERYTHING and some I find inappropriate). I told DH 'I'm not like that with my mom, why would I do that with yours.' He's FINALLY starting to get it and had to have a talk with him mom.

Anyway, to answer your question, no I don't call my MIL but she calls me sometimes 3 times a day! I still have to call her to thank her for my Hanuakka gift but I just don't have the energy with her 'I love you' after the conversation. It makes me uncomfortable, I'm not one to say that EVERYTIME I hang up with someone.

Re: do you call your MIL just to chat? How about Grandmother-IL

I don't even call my own mom just to chat!!

MIL and I talk on the phone but only if there's a purpose. Not that I don't like talking to her...I'm just not a phone person.

Re: do you call your MIL just to chat? How about Grandmother-IL

my MIL lives directly around the block from me... so its impossible for me not to see her. and my FIL is over everyday, fixing something.

i dont call my MIL just to say hi, but i do notice myself going over there a little more often for NO reason.

its my mother that calls me just to say hi... its makes me wanna

Re: do you call your MIL just to chat? How about Grandmother-IL

no but we email and text each other quite often

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Posted by flibbertigibbet

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Posted by Byrne2Be

During wedding planning I would email her proofs of things, etc...and try to include her in things. Many times, if not all, she wouldn't even reply to my emails.

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omg me too.

and then despite this... her and FIL would call and complain to us that they weren't being included in anything.

WHAT?

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Apparently we have the same ILs!!!!! Except mine told me in the beginning 'I just planned my daughters wedding, I'm the mother of the groom, I'm going to sit back on this one' but I still told her everything and then she would tell DH that she didn't know anything going on OR when I said something she would say 'I didn't know that' meanwhile I told her 100 times already! It got to the point I just started saying 'yes I did, twice already'.

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Posted by ourwedding9510
I just don't have the energy with her 'I love you' after the conversation. It makes me uncomfortable, I'm not one to say that EVERYTIME I hang up with someone.

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i totally understand ... i refuse to say 'i love you' to MIL, even if she says it. but it totally makes me feel guilty afterwards

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If they want to talk to you, why don't they pick up the phone and call?? That annoys me. I've tried calling MIL but all she talks about is BIL's annoying girlfriend DH and I hate. So I stopped calling, but sometimes I wish she'd care enough to call me. She only ever wants to speak to DH. and GMIL... don't even get me started. She seems to hate her grandkids, so she certainly doesn't want to get to know me. She is a (w)itch with a capital B in the beginning most of the time!!! I would be willing to call MIL though, if I felt she reciprocated or cared... but I don't need to hear two hours of her bragging about a girl who is not even her daughter-in-law!! and obnoxious at that.

Re: do you call your MIL just to chat? How about Grandmother-IL

Dh's mom passed before we met. However, his aunt and gma ask for me a lot. They even were inviting me and SIL for a 'girls day'. I put an end to that b/c DH's relationship with them is a bit strained since before his mom passed and they have become even more distant after. They seem nice enough but, I don't see why the sudden interest in me....

ETA: they're more interested in me than they are in DH

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Posted by AwaitingAugust

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Posted by ourwedding9510
I just don't have the energy with her 'I love you' after the conversation. It makes me uncomfortable, I'm not one to say that EVERYTIME I hang up with someone.

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i totally understand ... i refuse to say 'i love you' to MIL, even if she says it. but it totally makes me feel guilty afterwards

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ooo not us- MIL doesnt even tell DH I love you lol

Re: do you call your MIL just to chat? How about Grandmother-IL

[Apparently we have the same ILs!!!!! Except mine told me in the beginning 'I just planned my daughters wedding, I'm the mother of the groom, I'm going to sit back on this one' but I still told her everything and then she would tell DH that she didn't know anything going on OR when I said something she would say 'I didn't know that' meanwhile I told her 100 times already! It got to the point I just started saying 'yes I did, twice already'.

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I got the same line...'I'm the mother of the groom...I'm gonna take a back seat on this one.' Thanks...that makes us both feel really special!