Do you feel obligated to attend weddings now that yours is over??

I am just curious if anyone is as crazy as me.
DH and I have been invited to so many weddings and parties since our wedding, and I have forced him to go to every one. I just feel like all these people were there for our wedding and we should be there for their occasion. We actually had a little fight about it. We just recently got invited to a wedding and I automatically said, we have to go. He on the other hand says we can't afford it and we barely know them. But I know them well, it is one of my deceased brothers friends, actually it was his best friend that was away with him when he died. So, in some way I feel I should be there for my brother. Its not just that I feel obligated, I also like going to weddings and sharing in the other peoples happiness, it reminds me of the happiness I felt on my wedding day. Does anyone else's hubby complain like crazy when they get invited to a party??

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Yes, We are going to a wedding in Ireland in Sept we didnt plan on going to.

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I do feel obligated. I know how much time we put into our guest listing and the planning and I feel as though it is my duty to go and be the best wedding guest I can be.


Actually, we are going to two weddings in October (one in NYC and one in Chicago) and there is probably another one coming up in March in Seattle. We are definitely trying to take it one wedding at a time though.

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we haven't been invited to one yet!! We were amongst the first to settle down, so I'm sure in a fwe years there will be some (capgrl26 is in 2006-she was a BM of mine!)

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Not necessarily weddings for us, but every OTHER FUCTION... bar mitzvahs, christenings, sweet 16s.. all the functions for the children of our wedding guests!!!

ETA - DH gets so crazy.... We fight about going every time we get an invitation.

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I think it would be rude not to go to someone's wedding especially if you invited them to yours and they gave you a gift. Even if I couldn't go I would give them back the same amount of money they gave us.

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WE GOT INVITED TO ONE ALREADY BUT COULDN'T ATTEND B/C WE HAD JUST MOVE FROM NY TO MIAMI, AND I DIDN'T HAVE A JOB, BUT I WOULD'VE LOVE TO BE THERE. I HAVE ONE COMING SOON AND I CAN'T WAIT! I LOVE WEDDINGS, I MISS PLANNING MINE.

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yes, I do feel obligated to go if they went to mine.

One that we CONSTANTLY argue about is his cousin's upcoming wedding.

We had the BM from hell. Her brother is getting married in Nov. They had their engagement party last month and the BM from hell made our lives miserable while we were there. So, now DH wants to skip this wedding...(just to avoid the groom's sister)

He also reminds me about how this couple tried to leave our reception without saying goodnight, and all of the other 'bumps' that happened...

But, I still feel obligated to attend...

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we're feeling the opposite right now actually. DH and i cant wait to go to someone else's wedding now that our is over! haha! i know we're strange. we have one in nov and then 3 in 05 so far (two in which DH is in the bridal party) im sure this feeling will go away once we start shellin out the cash for all these weddings.

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Yes and no.
We went to one 1 month after our wedding. Everyone said 'oh you'll still be so busy/tired'.

Um...no I wasn't - she's my sister's best friend and I've known her for 20 years. Of course I'd go if I could. And did. And had a blast!

We have been invited to 4 weddings in Ireland. Actually two we didn't get official invitations but we told the couples not to bother sending because we knew there was no way we could go. We are going to two other weddings in Ireland - both are DH's closest friends right now. One he is in the wedding party. the other is a few days after Christmas and he wanted to go home for Christmas so it just worked out. If it wasn't for the fact that the one he's in wasn't his best friend I would try to sway him into not going, but I really want to go myself

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we are going to lots too....it is getting a littel expensive but we also try to see it as a glimpse back to our day and enjoy them!!

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Actually it's pretty funny because we were the last of our close friends to get married, so we hadn't been to any weddings in a while.

Then all of the sudden we just went to one in August and have two in October!

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Probably but I also know that there are certain weddings I don't have to go to now

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I would only feel obligated if they came to mine and if I couldn't go I would still send a gift

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not at all - it's actually a really bad sore spot for me, but there were SO MANY family members who didn't come to our wedding only becasue it was on Long Island. It really hurt my feelings and it's something about my wedding that really upsets me to this day, esp. since half of these same people were all at my sister's wedding only a year ago. I only feel obligated to attend weddings of close friends and family anyway. No one else made the effort for our wedding, so I hate to say it, but why should we go out of our way for them?

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It's really no different than before we were married...if we were invited to an affair, wedding, christening, etc...if we were able to attend, we'd attend.


ETS...I would think twice about not going to someone's affair if they are the same people who did not attend my wedding.