Do you send a Thank you to.....

wow. thats just rude if you ask me.

it depends on who this person is... i would maybe just send a regular card TY but not the picture TY

JMO

we are going to, but i'm writing those last to give more time for them to send something. some of our OOT friends (including our 2 best men, and one groomsman) didnt give gifts YET, but expressed that they want our input in picking out something we like (OOTers want to give actual gifts).

i'll just write something like.. thanks for sharing our special day, we were so glad you could be there etc etc. no rush though

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Posted by TM2008

wow. thats just rude if you ask me.

it depends on who this person is... i would maybe just send a regular card TY but not the picture TY

JMO

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Which is rude--Not giving a gift or not sending a thank you?

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Posted by LoveRocks

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Posted by TM2008

wow. thats just rude if you ask me.

it depends on who this person is... i would maybe just send a regular card TY but not the picture TY

JMO

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Which is rude--Not giving a gift or not sending a thank you?

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i think she might have meant your guest that showed up & was not invited

You have to wait a bit more to send those people thank you's. After we got married two months later I got a gift sent to me from a guest who gave nothing at the time to the wedding. I promptly sent them a thank you.

I think a thank you card is not called for unless you gave a gift of the person's money situation is tight and you are aware of it.

of course! They came to your wedding which *should* be more important!

(I'm not saying that you shouldn't be peeved if they DIDN'T give a gift...)

I had at least 10... It happens.

Just write:
'thank you for spending our special day with us' or something,

remember... sometimes, people SEND a gift afterwards... a few of my cousins are known for this..

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Posted by LoveRocks

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Posted by TM2008

wow. thats just rude if you ask me.

it depends on who this person is... i would maybe just send a regular card TY but not the picture TY

JMO

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Which is rude--Not giving a gift or not sending a thank you?

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to be honest, i think they're BOTH rude.
I would never attend a wedding without bringing a gift, so while I think it's RUDE to show up without a gift, I also think it's rude to EXPECT people to bring a gift...

additionally, it would be rude for someone NOT to send a thank you card..

would you not send a thank you card to someone who gave you a gift you didn't like? you know?

Its just courtesy

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Posted by futuremrsfab

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Posted by LoveRocks

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Posted by TM2008

wow. thats just rude if you ask me.

it depends on who this person is... i would maybe just send a regular card TY but not the picture TY

JMO

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Which is rude--Not giving a gift or not sending a thank you?

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i think she might have meant your guest that showed up & was not invited

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Thats what I was leaning towards but was just checking I've had quite a few people tell me I should thank her for crashing my wedding AND pulling the maitre'd aside and asking him to put an extra place setting at the head table for her

if they came to the wedding and didn't give a gift, I'm still sending a thank you.

if they didn't come, didn't give a gift, no thank you; if they didn't come and did give a gift, thank you.

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Posted by What

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Posted by LoveRocks

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Posted by TM2008

wow. thats just rude if you ask me.

it depends on who this person is... i would maybe just send a regular card TY but not the picture TY

JMO

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Which is rude--Not giving a gift or not sending a thank you?

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to be honest, i think they're BOTH rude.
I would never attend a wedding without bringing a gift, so while I think it's RUDE to show up without a gift, I also think it's rude to EXPECT people to bring a gift...

additionally, it would be rude for someone NOT to send a thank you card..

would you not send a thank you card to someone who gave you a gift you didn't like? you know?

Its just courtesy

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Just to clarify, the person who is not getting a thank you was not even invited.

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Posted by LoveRocks

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Posted by futuremrsfab

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Posted by LoveRocks

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Posted by TM2008

wow. thats just rude if you ask me.

it depends on who this person is... i would maybe just send a regular card TY but not the picture TY

JMO

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Which is rude--Not giving a gift or not sending a thank you?

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i think she might have meant your guest that showed up & was not invited

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Thats what I was leaning towards but was just checking I've had quite a few people tell me I should thank her for crashing my wedding AND pulling the maitre'd aside and asking him to put an extra place setting at the head table for her

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I disagree a little bit with it being rude NOT to send a thank you car to someone who didn't give a gift....here is my thought.....They should've at least given a card. I totally understand if people have financial issues and can't afford a wedding gift...fine....but I also think that a card wishing you well and congratulations is expected. That way you know that they cared. I did not send a thank you to those who didn't give me a gift....That is my personal opinion...i thought they could've sent their best with a card adn I would've been most appreciative....

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Posted by futuremrsfab

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Posted by LoveRocks

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Posted by TM2008

wow. thats just rude if you ask me.

it depends on who this person is... i would maybe just send a regular card TY but not the picture TY

JMO

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Which is rude--Not giving a gift or not sending a thank you?

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i think she might have meant your guest that showed up & was not invited

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oh hmmm that's a tough one.
why would anyone show up to a wedding they weren't invited to?

I need to know background.

You might get gifts from them in a month or two. They may not have the $ right now. Send a card saying thank you for sharing our day & if they send a gift, send another card.

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Posted by What

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Posted by futuremrsfab

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Posted by LoveRocks

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Posted by TM2008

wow. thats just rude if you ask me.

it depends on who this person is... i would maybe just send a regular card TY but not the picture TY

JMO

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Which is rude--Not giving a gift or not sending a thank you?

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i think she might have meant your guest that showed up & was not invited

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oh hmmm that's a tough one.
why would anyone show up to a wedding they weren't invited to?

I need to know background.

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She is a distant family member who disappears for months and sometimes years before she resurfaces again. Up until a few months ago, we didn't even know where she was living! Apparently, she found out about my wedding through another family member but never made any mention that she would like to come. Is she had, I totally would have invited her.
The morning of the wedding, my cousin in Brooklyn gets a knock on her door and this crazy lady is standing on her doorstep (she flew in from Miami) and tells her that she's coming with her and her family! When I saw her there I damn near fell over. Then during the reception, she pulled the maitre'd aside and asked to have a place setting at the head table.

This is why I've decided that she will not get a thank you. IMO I really have nothing to thank her for.