Does anyone find it hard to accept, their new last name

OMG, my boss laughs at me, because I am constantly, going back and forth to my married name, then to my maiden name. I officially changed my name on my Identification at work. So, now when he see the old name, he yells... THERE IS A FRAUD IN THE BUILDING!!!!

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OMG YES YES and YES!

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It's been 2 months and I still haven't changed my name. I'm having a hard time letting it go...but I know I want to.....eventually.

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yes, esp. b/c i have to keep my old name for work.

my new social security card came yesterday and when i showed it to DH he looked at me and said in his best arnold voice 'you have been erased' and i almost teared up, it kind of feels like that

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I decided to hyphenate on the marriage license but at work I am still using my maiden name. Hyphenating is a pain and I sort of wish I'd just decided to keep my name.

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I officially changed my name but so far have failed to let them know at work. I feel like once I do then my identity will be lost

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I am having such a hard time referring myself as Mrs. XXXXX. I want to keep my maiden name, the two names are too long to hyphenate. I honestly don't have any plans to do it until right before the baby comes.

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I just don't want to let go of my last name. Everyone at work especially my co-worker want me to change my name. It has been three months and I still don't want to let go. I love my husband, but just can't change my name now. I probably will change my name in January. I work hard for things I got in my maiden name, it is just not fair to give credit to my husband's last name.

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It is just really wierd getting used to.

You have this name for so long then all of a sudden you are called something else. Strange yet exciting.

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I kept my name completely. No hyphen or anything. It was not even a debate for me. DH could have cared less. Stuff like that doesn't bother him.

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I decided not to change it. I hypenated on the marriage license, but when push came to shove, I decided that I'm fine with my maiden, as is DH. He actually doesn't want me to change my name, because he knows what a hard time I had with the idea! I love him so much!

I probably will change my SS card and do my taxes with the hypenate (one of these days), but for day to day life, I'm just using my maiden. When we have kids, I'll use his name when I feel like, as no one else will have the right to be Mrs. XXXX, but it's like a tool in a toolbox, to be taken out when I need to fix something and then put back in.

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I haven't changed it officially via SS or DMV yet, but use it everywhere else and it is SO wierd....8 months and STILL not used to it. I want my old name back..nice and easy: SMITH

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I feel weird about it, too. I feel like I would be losing my identity if I take his last name, but it seems that society expects me to have already changed it... I used his name throughout the honeymoon to try it out, and that was fun because I felt like I was living a different life in Hawaii. But now that we are home, it just feels strange to have a different name so I've been using my maiden name. I'm still undecided on what I want to do for the long-run!

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NOPE!!! I started using it immediately!! Everyone at work though has a hard time getting used to it (I've been there 10 yrs).

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I havent officially changed it yet, and I work I still use my maiden name!

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I am definitely in the minority.. I totally got used to my married name right off the bat! And yes, I am surprised I did -- but it feels so normaly to be called 'Mrs. P'

I guess also since I would practice it so much before the actual wedding, I got used to it really fast (and DH would always call me 'Felicia P_ _ _ _ _' as our inside joke, so it always 'fit' me)

Even though its only 4 months later, it actually seems strange to go by my maiden name now! I still have some things under my maiden name (like one of my checking accounts, for example...) and it was SO weird to sign 'Felicia A_ _ _ _ _ -- even though I had that name for 30 some odd years

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Posted by TracyInQueens

I decided to hyphenate on the marriage license but at work I am still using my maiden name. Hyphenating is a pain and I sort of wish I'd just decided to keep my name.

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Me too!

I'ts only hyphenated on my marriage license. I didn't change it anywhere else. Not sure if I'm going to. I think I shoudl have left it or taken his, not hyphenated.

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I'm not really in this category. I couldn't wait to change my name. I lost 2 syllables and 5 letters. I'm thrilled. It was the first thing I did when I got back from my HM. My WHOLE name will actually fit on my license. I've been practicing my signature since we began dating

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I changed my name right away but it was hard. I felt like part of me was dying. I love my maiden name - good old Sicilian name. DH's last name is a plain, mono-syllabic southern name. I'm totally used to it now though.

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Yes. I can't get used to it and I am in denial...I am taking my sweet A$$ time changing it....I don't think I am going to change it at work..