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FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

QueensBride Posted: Sep 16, 2004 11:45 AM+

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Posted: Sep 16, 2004 11:45 AM

FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

Anyone have this problem? He will do the first dance with me, but refuses to dance anymore, hes too embarrassed.........UGH

franksbride Posted: Sep 16, 2004 11:50 AM+

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Posted: Sep 16, 2004 11:50 AM

Re: FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

Oh no...I didn't have that problem...my DH's not really a dancer but he did anyway.

Try to explain that if he dances on the wedding night it would mean a lot to you...let him know that no one really cares whether he is a good dancer or not...all that really matters is that he haves fun!!!

97bride Posted: Sep 16, 2004 12:01 PM+

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Posted: Sep 16, 2004 12:01 PM

Re: FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

I had that issue with my dh. He isn't really a dancer. He'll slow dance but that's it. I was going to tell him how much it would mean to me if he'd dance but then realized how much it would mean to him if I respected that he was uncomfortable and didn't force the issue.

didianita Posted: Sep 16, 2004 12:19 PM+

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Posted: Sep 16, 2004 12:19 PM

Re: FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

my DH is not a dancer so of course he said we wouldn't dance, but you had to see him that day!!!

franksbride Posted: Sep 16, 2004 12:19 PM+

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Posted: Sep 16, 2004 12:19 PM

Re: FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

Posted by 97bride

I had that issue with my dh. He isn't really a dancer. He'll slow dance but that's it. I was going to tell him how much it would mean to me if he'd dance but then realized how much it would mean to him if I respected that he was uncomfortable and didn't force the issue.

Good point...if he truly is uncomfortable, I wouldn't force the issue. They'll be plenty of other dancers there...and who knows, maybe he'll see how much fun everyone is having and will join in on his own!

brideinapril Posted: Sep 16, 2004 12:49 PM+

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Posted: Sep 16, 2004 12:49 PM

Re: FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

Posted by didianita

my DH is not a dancer so of course he said we wouldn't dance, but you had to see him that day!!!

Same here - My hubby vowed he would not dance - only the necessary slow songs.
But - he was out there with everyone else!!!!

QueensBride Posted: Sep 16, 2004 01:40 PM+

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Posted: Sep 16, 2004 01:40 PM

Re: FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

I'm not going top force the issue but I do tell him that I would love it if he danced. I have been with him for over 3 years and I have yet to slow dance with him. We haven't been to alot of weddings or anything but he gets really embarrassed. It's like pulling teeth to get him to slow dance. I said to him....so I guess we are going to do the rock back and forth dance huh???? You know that sway thing, LOL

xjulietx Posted: Sep 16, 2004 02:12 PM+

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Posted: Sep 16, 2004 02:12 PM

Re: FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

I think once he gets there and sees that everyone is dancing, including his bride

, he will get up and join you.
I highly doubt he is going to want to sit out of his own wedding.

QueensBride Posted: Sep 16, 2004 02:18 PM+

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Posted: Sep 16, 2004 02:18 PM

Re: FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

I hope not

SeptemberBride03 Posted: Sep 16, 2004 02:27 PM+

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Posted: Sep 16, 2004 02:27 PM

Re: FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

My husband likes to dance at weddings so I wasn't worried about our wedding.

But, I know many of our male friends who NEVER dance at weddings, but when it came to their own weddings, they were so happy and overwhelmed by the emotion and having all their friends and family there that they became dancing machines! If only for that one night!

Maribelle7777 Posted: Sep 16, 2004 02:30 PM+

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Posted: Sep 16, 2004 02:30 PM

Re: FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

If he really hates to dance, I wouldn't push the issue. Remember it's *his* day too so he should not have to dance more than the first dance if he doesn't want to. I'm sure he'll do the mother/son dance (if applicable). And if he has a few drinks maybe it will loosen him up but I would not stress about it. You'll have a great time don't worry

ETA: maybe he isn't good at slow dancing which is why he hates it. Sign up at a dance studio for a few lessons - perhaps it will loosen him up - and tell him it's just for the first dance so that he feels more confident about it (I have a feeling he'll dance more that night)

Janice Posted: Sep 16, 2004 02:37 PM+

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Posted: Sep 16, 2004 02:37 PM

Re: FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

I told non dancing DH to dance the night away please, and he can retire his dancing shoes for the rest of his life, he was drunk and tapping dancing

QueensBride Posted: Sep 16, 2004 03:17 PM+

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Posted: Sep 16, 2004 03:17 PM

Re: FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

See the thing is I asked him if he wanted to go for dance lessions, his response....'that's gay' OOOOOOOOK

Stefanie Posted: Sep 16, 2004 04:20 PM+

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Posted: Sep 16, 2004 04:20 PM

Re: FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

My Dh is a wallflower but I told him he better dance or else!!!!

QueensBride Posted: Sep 17, 2004 10:25 AM+

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Posted: Sep 17, 2004 10:25 AM

Re: FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

So did I, LMAO....we really are too much LOL.....threats LOL

bellepoque Posted: Sep 17, 2004 03:00 PM+

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Posted: Sep 17, 2004 03:00 PM

Re: FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

It's really funny. My DH was so nervous about dancing at the wedding and in general has been difficult to get to dance at weddings. But he at our wedding he danced almost every dance with me and just had fun. After our wedding he said that he now realizes that his 'duties' are when he goes to a wedding are to eat, drink, dance, smile, laugh and have a good time.

mms Posted: Sep 17, 2004 03:39 PM+

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Posted: Sep 17, 2004 03:39 PM

Re: FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

Neither FH nor I are big dancers. When we go to people's weddings when my good girlfriends aren't there (that is, his friend's weddings), we only dance the slow dances together. At weddings with my girlfriends, I'll dance with them to fast songs. FH pretty much never dances to fast songs, and I wouldn't feel right pressing the issue with him. He feels uncomfortable doing it (even though he's actually quite good), so I wouldn't want him to feel uncomfortable at our own wedding! If he's having fun on the sidelines with his friends, that's fine with me. But, I think b/c I'm not a big dancer either, I'm sensitive to the issue, since I certainly don't like it when other people try to make me dance! It's just not something that everyone enjoys.

rrdm782004 Posted: Sep 17, 2004 06:57 PM+

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Posted: Sep 17, 2004 06:57 PM

Re: FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

my husband only dance that one dance, which was the first dance. my husband is very shy.

MissM Posted: Sep 18, 2004 12:12 AM+

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Posted: Sep 18, 2004 12:12 AM

Re: FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

Posted by brideinapril

Posted by didianita

my DH is not a dancer so of course he said we wouldn't dance, but you had to see him that day!!!

Same here - My hubby vowed he would not dance - only the necessary slow songs.
But - he was out there with everyone else!!!!

Same here. NO DANCING - but - that day he was dancing all night!

Even if he does not - it will go so quickly, you won't even remember

suezboss Posted: Sep 19, 2004 12:58 AM+

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Posted: Sep 19, 2004 12:58 AM

Re: FI refusing to dance at wedding?????

Posted by SeptemberBride03

My husband likes to dance at weddings so I wasn't worried about our wedding.

But, I know many of our male friends who NEVER dance at weddings, but when it came to their own weddings, they were so happy and overwhelmed by the emotion and having all their friends and family there that they became dancing machines! If only for that one night!

OH- I hope so too!!!