Re: FOR THOSE LADIES WHOSE HUBBIES, FI, SO TRAVEL

Hi Shamma,

I'm sorry you're upset! I know what it's like to have a DH who you can't be with a lot, and it's no fun at all. I'm sure you will both work something out where it will be a good situation for both of you.

I have to say, though, I don't recommend having a baby to keep you company. My sister did that because her husband was so busy with working full time and taking classes at college in the evenings, plus volunteering for the ambulance. She thought having a baby would keep her busy and keep her company.

Well she was right about one thing, it kept her busy! But it also made her resentful that she had to bear the brunt of the child care while her DH was never around. Just something to keep in mind.

Re: FOR THOSE LADIES WHOSE HUBBIES, FI, SO TRAVEL

I use to travel ALL the time, before I met Scott. Then we started dating and we use to travel at lots of the same places at the same time- it was great. Now I don't travel and a lot of that is by my choice. Before 9/11 I didn't mind Scott traveling as much really. I didn't like it but I didn't really get upset. He was in CA during 9/11 and away when the plane went down in Queens and my entire outlook on him being away was changed instantly. Now I am much more nervous when he is gone and I have nightmares. I am not afraid of someone breaking in as much as I am afraid of him not coming home- although I KNOW no one can control either. I keep busy with home stuff and I have dinner or go shopping with friends. Me and Beemer just do our own thing.

If Scott were going away to Africa and I was not pregnant I would be there in a minute! Normally I go to CO with him during his annual trip, but not this year because of my nerve problem. However if you can tag along, even for a few days, it is a nice time.

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DH travels a lot, but it usually just an overnight, or 2-3 days at a time. He goes through spurts - right now he has been home a lot. I actually like it when he's away for a night or 2. I go out with friends or catch up on things around the house, or just sit and watch tv - which I NEVER do! Only his Ireland trips can last about a week - and those I do not like as much. But I just make sure I have a lot of things planned (or I work really late!) and the time flies by...!

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My DH travels often for work. If it's weekday travel, it's really not so bad. What I hate is the weekend traveling, or overseas trips

I know it's going to be rough once we have a house to maintain (I'm gonna have to stay in it all alone! ) and when we have a baby it'll be tough - maybe he won't need to travel then....

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Michelle - I know how you feel! After 9/11, I really, really despised travelling. I didn't have a choice for a while - I had to go away less than 2 weeks after 9/11 and I was even at the airport waiting for a flight when that plane went down in Queens (had to find a way home since they shut down the airport - very scary at the time). It seemed like every time I was away, there would be another terror alert. I wasn't scared to fly or anything but I was scared for my family back home and that I wouldn't be able to get back if something happened. Now, I have the flexibility to ease up on the travel and I'm SO glad. I don't think I'd be able to deal with DH traveling.

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He was away on business on 9/11 and I was home alone I was so scared and lonely. I am not afraid of him flying, b/c none of us control our destiny or when its our time to check out but I would prefer if he was not the one going so often. We will talk tho and I will let you all know.

I would never have a baby if his travel schedule did not slow down, I would never do that to myself. We will also include that in our discussion. Thanks everyone for responding.

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Dh travels 60 days on then has 60 days home.

It ****s but someone has to do it!

It's a blessing and a curse though because I never know where he is during the time and I can't expect phone calls.

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Roland has been gone now since June 20...and he won't be home until mid Sept. He is a boat captain and every year he heads up north for the summer with the boat. Luckly though it seems that each year the trip gets shorter and shorter. When we were first dating he left at the end of May and didn't get back until Christmas Eve!!! That was a rough year. I would visit once a month for long weekends but it was hard. Recently I took a trip up north for the 4th of July but that was my last trip since I'm prego and won't be able to fly much longer.

Roland got me a dog one year for protection and to keep me company which helps. But also I have my parents not too far from me, so on the weekends me and the dog usually stay with them. This is when mom and I take advantage of our shopping time and try to fit in a few days at a spa.

Once he's home from this trip he is usually home a lot with a few trips here and there. But these trips only keep him away for the weekend or at the most a week. It's this summer trip that's a tough one.

I think the hardest thing is not being able to share with each other all the little things about our day. Because Roland is living on the boat he only has use of his cell phone to make calls so many of our phone calls are short.

Sorry I don't really have much advise but I know what your going through. Any time you need some support we're here for you.