Gift for a second wedding?

ok so here's a little background for you. We were one of 7 couples to get married in 2002, so all the couples decided to do a 'No Gift' policy since we would all be basically giving everyone back the same amount we received.

One couple has since been divorced, and the guy (who is our friend) is getting re-married this March.

It's the 2nd marriage for both of them, and they are not registered anywhere. She is also pregnant, but they were engaged before finding out they were having a baby.

Assuming we actually get an invite (because we have yet to see one even though we were told we were on the guest list): What kind of gift should we give them? And if money, how much?

Re: Gift for a second wedding?

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Posted by VickiC

ok so here's a little background for you. We were one of 7 couples to get married in 2002, so all the couples decided to do a 'No Gift' policy since we would all be basically giving everyone back the same amount we received.

One couple has since been divorced, and the guy (who is our friend) is getting re-married this March.

It's the 2nd marriage for both of them, and they are not registered anywhere. She is also pregnant, but they were engaged before finding out they were having a baby.

Assuming we actually get an invite (because we have yet to see one even though we were told we were on the guest list): What kind of gift should we give them? And if money, how much?

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If it is a large event held at a reception hall, I would treat it as you would any first wedding and give the same $ as you would give to any reception wedding.

Re: Gift for a second wedding?

hmmmmm.....

I would say that, unfortunately, the 'no gift' rule is no longer valid because this bride wasn't in on the agreement.

I had something similar happen. One of my guy friends got married. I SENT a $100 shower gift (items from the registry, but I couldn't even attend the shower because it was the same day as my engagement party).

We gave $300 as a wedding gift.

They got divorced. He was remarried 2 weeks before my wedding. It was a SMALL, tiny wedding and we weren't invited (they plan on doing something bigger later on)

So, I gave them a Lenox photo album and they liked it a lot!

I didn't add the new bride's name to my shower list because I didn't even know her yet. So, no shower gift for me. I met her at my wedding. They gave us $300.

So, I would say that you should give a gift, but don't go over board.