Guys Night Out?

Does your DH have a regular night where he goes out with the guys (like one night a weekend or every Thursday)? If he does, what does he do (ie bowling, drinking, softball team etc.)? And finally, does it bother you? I am asking because this came up recently and DH and I just had a long talk about what is ind isn't 'appropriate' for us to be doing socially now that we are a-in our thirties and b-married. Also, do you have a regular night out with the girls?

dh and i just love hanging out with each other and our friends, so i'd say 90% of the time we go out socially, its together. however, he is a cop--and i know that sometimes the cops like to get together after work and have some beers---so i don't mind. i actually will encourage him to go out and have fun. but i don't know how i would feel about a regular 'nite' that he goes out with just the boys. now and again--sure. but weekly? i think that might annoy me a little bit. it would make me feel like he HAS to get away from me one nite a week! what happens when kids come?!

one of my friends wants to start a monthly 'girls nite' where we try a different restaurant, just us girls once a month. this i think is better than a monthly thing.....and we don't go bar hopping--just dinner and that's it. that is something i think i would be okay with for DH and myself.

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Posted by PegaLega

not really...the boys and girls go out together! We like it that way. Every now and then he will want to do something Im not really into...then he goes and I do my own thing

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Ditto!!

They usually have guys night for the draft or when the get to gether and play poker! I don't mind if he goes out, it's good to have a night out with your girls/guys!

I'm having girls weekend in Ocean City, MD the last weekend in Aug.

We have a few recurring plans that don't include the other:

1- DH plays softball ever Sunday with the guys and one night during the week which is a rotating night
2- I have a bookclub meeting with the girls (1st Friday of every month) which is more of a girls night out since we drink more wine than we talk about the book
3- and I have a monthly afterwork (last thursday of every month) with my 2 friends from H.S.....one is a guy - he lives with his g/f and one a girl - she's married 7 yrs

I like that he goes out with his friends without me once in a while and vice versa. DH is actually going out tonight with people from work and I'm going to hang-out at home. He meets the guys for drinks occasionally for 'guys nights' too but it's not a scheduled thing. I meet a friend of mine for dinner in the city once a month too.

DH plays poker every Tuesday night with his guy friends and once a month he heads up to CT for a weekend. We went to college up there so that is where most of our friends are.
I usually find a girlfriend or two to spend time catching up with on Tuesdays and every once and a while my friends from college and I will get together for a weekend.
DH and I make up for it. Every Monday is date night.

not really. we usually get together with all our friends together -- girls and guys. Every once in a while he'll go hang with just the guys to either play poker or catch a bite to eat with the guys...

Lets put it this way -- if he said he wanted to go to a bar with just the guys....that'd be a big no-no in my book. But just to hang and play poker and go golfing and stuff is fine with me.

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Posted by imas98

I like that he goes out with his friends without me once in a while and vice versa. DH is actually going out tonight with people from work and I'm going to hang-out at home. He meets the guys for drinks occasionally for 'guys nights' too but it's not a scheduled thing. I meet a friend of mine for dinner in the city once a month too.

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see i totally agree! we have been together for 12 yrs and married only for 4 months but we have alwaysssssssss been big advocates for guys night out and girls night out...its not like dh's guys night out is strip clubs or anything like that, him and his work friends go out for drinks and act like boobs together thats their idea of a guys night out, mine is more dinner and drinks to do the same thing lololol.....dont get me wrong we hung out A LOT with everyone together but sometimes u wanna just be with UR friends....our guys night/girls night outs have dwindled down to maybe once a month where when we were younger it was like every other saturday....but we have always felt its a healthy thing to just be with ur friends for a lil while and we will continue to do so even with children...i can see us wanting a break away with friends every so often

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Posted by AeroJenn

Lets put it this way -- if he said he wanted to go to a bar with just the guys....that'd be a big no-no in my book. But just to hang and play poker and go golfing and stuff is fine with me.

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See, this is where our conversation stemmed from. I think it is fine and actually necessary for a couple to have time with their respective friends, I go out with my work friends and go 'visiting' and hang out with my sisters and old friends that I have known for years. I encourage DH to go out as well, but there is a big difference between going out once in a while or once a week during the week to play poker or play softball than having a regular, planned, rigid weekend night every week to go out drinking in bars till very late. It was not sitting well with me. I spoke to DH about it and he agreed that it isn't the best way to socialize anymore. I was just starting to wonder if I was crazy and wanted some feedback from the ladies...

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Posted by Snickers76

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Posted by AeroJenn

Lets put it this way -- if he said he wanted to go to a bar with just the guys....that'd be a big no-no in my book. But just to hang and play poker and go golfing and stuff is fine with me.

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See, this is where our conversation stemmed from. I think it is fine and actually necessary for a couple to have time with their respective friends, I go out with my work friends and go 'visiting' and hang out with my sisters and old friends that I have known for years. I encourage DH to go out as well, but there is a big difference between going out once in a while or once a week during the week to play poker or play softball than having a regular, planned, rigid weekend night every week to go out drinking in bars till very late. It was not sitting well with me. I spoke to DH about it and he agreed that it isn't the best way to socialize anymore. I was just starting to wonder if I was crazy and wanted some feedback from the ladies...

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Well, this is JMO, but I agree with you that its just not really appropriate for a married guy or girl to be out at the bars with just their friends til late every week. Hanging out at bars with your friends is a singles game. And the girls in the bars arent going to take him seriously when he says he's married....because then why isnt his wife here with him? DH and I go to the bar every weekend -- TOGETHER with our friends. There are plenty of other things he can do with his guy friends every week.

DH goes over one of the guys houses every week to watch 'Man vs. Wild' on Discovery Channel and they drink every time the guy does something manly Lets put it this way......they never come home sober! But they have a good time, and they cant get themselves into too much trouble there. its a rediculous premise, but guys are boobs

It's not a 'regular' night but DH and his friends try to get together at least once a month for a 'Boys Night Out'

Don't laugh but Wed. are my nights out to play dodgeball. And I really enjoy my night out. DH usually does something that night too although I have no idea what he does.

We go out socially also, his friends, mine etc. Once in a while I will grab some dinner with my friends and he will go watch the Yankee game at a buddies house. We are out every weekend, and we are togther always.

I will have to assume that he would be a little annoyed if I was out with my single girlfriends at a bar while he was home and vice versa. We enjoy going out togther and it is so much better that way because honestly you can put yourself in a situation when your 'wife' or 'husband' isn't around and you are with your friends at a a bar. I agree with Jenn on this one.