Has anyone stop talking to there MOH/BM after your wedding

Hello,

I feel so bad starting off my first offical post as a honeymooner with a silly question. But, I am so upset. I could not believe the behavior my moh gave me for all my wedding preparation. She came 3 hours late to my bridal shower and barely stayed in the room when I was getting married. I know her and entire family for 19 years. Her mom did not come to my bridal shower nor my wedding. She used the sick excuse not to come to my wedding.

I have heard many negative comments about her in the past about her behavior, but I always over looked it since she was my friend. But, now that I think about everything that she has done and I get very angry now.

Since I did not say anything to her when everyone was telling me about her. To make a long story short..the reason being that I am so angry towards her behavior during my wedding preparations is that she loves to flirt and kiss around with men, wether they are married or not. And, I don't want her pulling that with me. If she can do it to her other girlfriends, why woudn't she do it to me. So, I have decided to just stand clear of her.

What are you guys opinion

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She sounds like she may be a very jealous person and since none of your festivities were about her, it really bothered her.
If it were me, I would confront her and find out what her problem was.

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I stopped talking to one of my bridesmaids right after the wedding. But not because we were fighting. She lives in Florida and is married and I live in NY. I feel bad...we don't even call and it's been two years!

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I no longer speak to 2 Bridesmaids- and they are my husband's cousins. It has caused quite a rift in his family. but, my husband is shocked and embarassed by their lack of involvement in the wedding and inappropriate bahavior before, during and after.

One of my good friends was my BM, but was the MOH in her own sister's wedding. Her sister no longer speaks to ANY of the girls who were in her wedding- only her sister.

It seems that unfortunately, this is a common occurance.

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Weddings bring out peoples true colors. I'd like to no longer talk to my cousins who were my bridesmaids. But I live above one of them and they are family. They did some horrible things (i posted about it here)

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Wow, these stories are terrible! Sorry you guys are going through this!!

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My MOH got enaged to a guy I never met 1 month after my wedding, put her house up for sale a week later, got married the week after that, then he next week, moved without telling anyone. THIS WAS MY SIL!!! My BIL passed away a few years earlier.

Bridesmaid hubby was suspected cheating on her and she just kept not returning my calls right after the wedding then slowly just drfted into the I am no longer your friend land.

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All of this is very sad....

But, I remember one thing my wedding coordinator told me that you will know who your true friends are when you are planning your wedding. I just could not expect the MOH to do this to me. All my other friends/family cooperated very well .

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I am still annoyed at mY BM's . they did not like one girl in the wedding and took it out on me when I got back from our mini moon, ( Dh is a teacher so we waited till this summer to go on official honeymoon.) The they relaized they took it our on the wrong person... it came up today at a BBQ we were at and how sorry they were. they waited till my sister left. I can forgiven , but cannot forget so easily- this was my wedding day for G-d sakes, and it was over something stupid. I told DH I do not know when we have a baby and need to have a baby naming or a bris who I am going to invite from my BM to it becuase of this. There, I am done vending now, thank you for this opprtunity to vent and for this topic. : )

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I'm in the opposite position - I was the MOH for my best friend and now we no longer even speak unless we see each other at functions. Our breakup happened because of her behavior to me and the other BMs throughout her engagement and wedding.

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One of my bridesmaids did not come to my shower(she was 'sick'). Too 'sick' to come to my bachealorette party. The day before the wedding I told my husband and mom that she wasn't going to come to our wedding. They didn't believe me... well, I was right. SHe called my husband( I stayed at my parents and she knew that) at 2:30 am and told him she was 'sick'. I called my sister in law and she stepped in. THank goodness I told the party to buy a black dress.

She called me twice while we are on our honeymoon, I refuse to call her back. I never want to talk to her again.

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WE do not talk to our best man. Hubby refuses to speak to him ever again. They have been best friends for 28 years. I feel as if hes my brother as much as my DH's he was great through everything, he treats me the same way my Hubby does, but on he day of the wedding he was a complete spectacle, he got soo drunk that he blacked out by the end of the night. HE barely spoke of hubby in his speach he was dancing and taking his shirt off, he was loud and rude to guests and he started a fight with another persona t the end of the night while guests were leaving to the point that as we were leaving to go to the hotel hubby and him almost went to blows in the parking lot, thank god my father caught it and stopped them. I owuldnt say he ruined our wedding, nothing could have done that in my eyes but he defiantly put a damper on it, I could forgive him but he cant, I feel bad that he lost his best friend because of our wedding but my hubby had gotten this guy out of soo many bad situations and has always been there for him and the way he repaid him was so hurtful.

Its a hard position to have someone you love enough that you put them in the BP to change so instantly.

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I no longer talk to one BM. Partially b/c of the wedding but more becasue of something else.

I can't even get into it because it's long and involved and it still upsets me to think about it. I was very very upset about it for about 3 weeks after it happened. She was a very close friend for 12 years and what transpired really hurt my feelings. I think I hurt hers too but I'm not sure, I think I ticked her off though. But I think I was right to call her out on what had happened. I think I lost other mutual friends in the process b/c I called two others (for entirely different reasons, neither know I don't talk to BM anymore and I won't discuss with them b/c I don't want to put anyone in the middle) yet neither have called me back and it's been 3 months.
ETA to add that she did give me alot of emotional support throughout the wedding which meant alot. Things that happened that related to the wedding I didn't tell her upset me until afterwards. And it wasn't anything she did wrong but more (IMO) didn't handle great. We stopped talking after the wedding, she was helpful up until then (for the most part).

Another BM - we don't talk as much anymore. She never asekd to see pics at all which maybe isn't a horrible thing but, I don't know, everyone but her asked to see wedding pics and she was a BM for heaven's sakes. She also bagged the bach. party and also when I asked her for help on something told me she dind't have time (ok, reasonable) but 'there must be another friend of yours that has time to do this'. I thought that was kinda snotty. If I thought that I wouldn't have asked her in the first place. Whatever....I let it slide figuring maybe she had a bad day or something. We haven't seen each other since the wedding though and not b/c I haven't tried. But when I'm told 'I can squeeze in seeing you b/t X's soccer practice and Y's dance lessons' -- I understand she's busy but then look at a calendar and figure out a night/day that you have time to actually visit with me, not squeeze me in. I would rather be told 'It's a busy week, why don't we find a day we are both free' rather than seeing her for 1/2 hour. But I dont think she meant it that way, it was more not thinking on her part. She's got a family; she's busy and we are talking so I brushed it off.

And my sister..the MOH...lately our relationship is strained. We were supposed to move back home to save $$ (and DH would have a basement to buy carpentry tools and do side jobs on weekends) until she decided not to move out (which was planned since we got engaged) and go back to school to do something entirely different. I don't mind her doing that, I can't tell her what to do and if she's unhappy w/ her current situation then yes change it. But it just S U C K E D that for 18 months we were planning on this so we could save and buy a house in 1 year with a nice down payment and now we have to watch every penny we make just to afford a co-op next year, if that. But we talk...it's just hard on me to really be close to her from now on because of this. There's other stuff but again too much to go into.

Oh well. It's sad but I guess things change.

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These are very sad stories. It makes me feel lucky that all of our bridesmaids and groosmen are all great friends for many years will be for many more. My best man lives in Georgia and I don't speak to him on the phone maybe once a year if even that, but we are both computer nerds and we talk online practically every day.