HOW WILL/DO YOU WANT TO BE REMEMBERED???

I know most if not all of us might not want to discuss this today or ever. This is on my mind and I want to ask it, so oblige me.

When your life is over, how do you want to be remembered? Or if we should speak to your friends and family, what would they say about you??

I guess thinking of everything and then remembering the email I received about how do you spend your dash, it just put a prompting on me to ask this question. The dash meaning the time between your year of birth and the time you leave the earth.

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WOW Shamma...how morbid!
I'm really not sure how to answer that one!

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I have been thinking about this lately since a family member has suddenly gotten ill, a co-worker just passed away. I personally do not want to be laid out in a couffin for everyone to sit and pray over. I realize that for others (and even myself) being able to see the body is a way of still feeling close to the person and brings comfort. If my family feels that is the way they would like to do things that is ok with me.

Personally, I would like a celebration of life in my memory. I'd like everyone to be surrounded with happy memories that we've shared together.

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I made it known to everyone I don't want to be laid out either, i'd much prefer to be cremated and in lieu of a wake and/or funeral hold a memorial service..... i think talking about such things is VERY important. For the only thing certain in life is death!

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Febbride, we are on the same wavelength, I want my funeral to be a celebration of my life, not one of tears, but one of singing and shouting. My g-ma passed away in December and she raised me so it was like losing my mother. Her funeral was joyous and we do something in the Caribbean where for 9 nights you celebrate the person's life, I would want that as a part of my passing.

Another thing that stood out for me was how, young and old remembered my g-ma, everyone kept saying she was so giving, so funny, so caring. People whom we knew and did not know, kept saying, once Miss Brown was around you could never be hungry. That is the kind of person she is. She taught me about religion, she taught me how to be giving. She was an amazing woman

When my life is over, I want to be remembered as one who always gave of herself to others less fortunate. A positive person, a giving person, a good friend a good wife, a good mother. One who was a joy and a pleasure to be around at all times. A happy person.

Kelly it might be morbid, think about it, you might have an answer later.

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CathI22, could not have said it better myself. I just asked around the office and the answers are varying.

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I want everyone to party. I want to be cremated. I told DH, to rent one of those party boats out of Freeport, invite everyone we know, party it up and dump my ashes in the ocean. No casket, no grave to feel obligated to visit and no crying

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Liz, I want to be on the boat I want my life celebrated not mourned.

I have gone on to rest, to a better place. No more bills, no more stress. The ones we leave behind are the ones we should be crying for, they are the ones that have to deal with the loss and the hardships of life. IMO.