I Miss My Wedding

Isn't that the strangest? I actually miss it. Not the planning, just the specialness I guess. It's so hard to explain.

I feel like we got married, ran away for a week, had Christmas and then got pregnant! It doesn't feel like we held onto that after-glow newlywed feeling, so I think when I look back on the wedding I feel like I would do anything to recapture that emotion. We never even made an album and now there is so much else to do. When I look at the pictures my heart just breaks. Its like I am looking at two long lost friends that existed in one moment in time. I am so sorry to be a downer, I just cannot shake the feeling and thought for sure it would be gone by now.I find I cannot even read anything about my reception location it makes me so sad...

Does anybody feel this way? It;s ok if I am alone with it, It feels a little better to let it out....

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I miss my wedding too. I feel like we worked so hard for it, and then it goes by so quickly. I think I would be feeling this even more if I were pregnant. It is hard sometimes to look at the pics and not feel like I want that special time back. It doesnt take long for life to go back to the same old everything...
CHEER UP!

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Your not alone. I felt like that for a while. I wanted so badly to do it all over again. But we do all have some great memories of our wonderful day.

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AWE, Jenny! Those preggo hormones are gettin the best of you

I think the magic of a wedding day will live in our hearts forever. Make a few date nights with your hubby (Preferably before baby comes! ) and just sit alone by the beach and chat, or have a long cup of coffee and reminisce over the last year...
All the good memories will come back, and all that you have to look forward to!

Tummy pats and big hugs!

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I Miss Mine toooooo I feel like theres nothing to do sometimes

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It's called the postpartum marital blues.

Everyone goes through it. Your adrenaline and emotions are on an extreme high for over 3-6 months and after the HM is over you are looking for something to do.

It's all natural, just sit back and relax and enjoy the celebration you created and directed.

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Thanks for the advice. Anna I know...I must be having a HIGHLY hormonal and emotional little girl. JUST MY LUCK.



It just seems that I avoid any conversation about my wedding at any cost! I get all weepy....Our 1 year anniversary is Nov. 9th - just last year at this time I was on BHB planning up a storm. Now I am planning for the arrival of the baby. I guess this is where the NW and Parenting Boards come together....it just all happened so fast....

Thanks again for the kind words!

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Sweetie, I TOTALLY understand how you feel - you are having a whirlwind couple of years! I too, was married and became a Mommy BEFORE my first anniversary and I understand what you mean about losing that 'wedding afterglow.'

I promise you that it will get better. I cry over talk of my reception site NOW - esp. since it's being taken over and renovated. It breaks my heart. I also catch 'glimpses' of the emotion of our wedding day sometimes....but, it rarely happens when we are up nights caring for Paul . It really only happens when we take time for ourselves together - sort of like what Anna said. You NEED that time with each other.

The 'specialness' of your wedding day will NEVER go away. You just need to find a place for it in your heart and in your new life, now that a baby is on her way.

No matter what we do, time keeps moving forward, eluding our grasp. And before you know it...you'll be pining for the 'specialness' of the first few days when you and DH brought your daughter home! All of sudden, she's a toddler that's wrecking the place and demanding milk and cookies instead of dinner!

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Claud, I LOVE your last paragraph !!

Its so true, I try so hard to think back to him being a newborn...and now he's following me around the house and giggling and spitting food at me

Youre so right, there will always be another special memory that you'll want to grasp on to...and before you know it, ANOTHER memory will grab that spot in your heart !

Jenny, feelin better ?

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I am....I really am.

I think I feel like I have matured a milllion times faster in the past year than I have in my whole lifetime. And part of me misses the little girl with the wedding binder.

Thanks ladies!

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I miss it too. I guess this is post partum wedding blues

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I'm sure you've had a whirlwind year so its not surprising you feel that way. I miss mine too sometimes and I am not pregnant. Our 1 yr anniv just past and we had dinner at the River Cafe in Brooklyn...which was amazing but expensive! It was the first time we felt 'special' since our wedding/hm. They made us a special anniv dessert which was beautiful. (their signature brooklyn bridge dessert with a candle and chocolate sauce that said happy 1st anniversary!

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i'm with you girls, all the planning and the excitment and than it's over. We are still talking about the wedding and we wish we are still on our honeymoon.