I need some wedding invite advice.... update with new info

We received an invite to a wedding- Memorial Day- we are definetely going.

The problem is the couple forgot to send a response card and envelope with the invite.

Hubby is very friendly with the groom, so I initially told him to just mention it to him.

After considering it for a bit, I thought it might be ok to send an informal note in the mail confirming our attendance. I feel as though this was an oversight, and I do not want to bother the bride as she may have so much on her mind.

Thoughts????

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Do you know if the bride is a New Yorker?

I believe the old way of wedding invitations did not include an RSVP card. It was the job of the guest to send a seperate note to the family.

In any event, I would send her a note telling them you are coming and congratulating them, etc... If the RSVP was mistakenly left out IM sure she will appreciate your thoughtfulness.

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Maybe you should have your hubby mention it. You never know with people, they might think you lost it or something. It would be better to just let them know you didn't get a response card in the envelope and what would they prefer, to send you a response card or for you to drop them a note. Some brides are so uptight that when it comes to things like this, I'll leave it up to them to decide.

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Posted by Sonicstef

Do you know if the bride is a New Yorker?

I believe the old way of wedding invitations did not include an RSVP card. It was the job of the guest to send a seperate note to the family.

In any event, I would send her a note telling them you are coming and congratulating them, etc... If the RSVP was mistakenly left out IM sure she will appreciate your thoughtfulness.

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The bride is a New Yorker- I am sure it was a mistake.

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I would send an informal note accepting the invitation.

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Posted by ChristineC68

I would send an informal note accepting the invitation.

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I agree...I panicked after I sent mine out thinking I could have forgot an RSVP or something!

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Posted by Sonicstef

Do you know if the bride is a New Yorker?

I believe the old way of wedding invitations did not include an RSVP card. It was the job of the guest to send a seperate note to the family.

In any event, I would send her a note telling them you are coming and congratulating them, etc... If the RSVP was mistakenly left out IM sure she will appreciate your thoughtfulness.

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i agree with stef. is it possible that she is not using response cards?

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Stef is right. It is actually formal etiquette for the invited person to write a hand written response note. I really loved that idea, but with our families we were lucky they sent their cards back to us.

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Send a note accepting the invitation. If the family comes from old money, a RSVP card is not usually included. A formal hand written response is expected.

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Posted by WeddingsRock

Send a note accepting the invitation. If the family comes from old money, a RSVP card is not usually included. A formal hand written response is expected.

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This is so not the case.

Well the groom to be called DH yesterday and asked if we had received the invite and if everything was ok with it. DH replied yes, but it was missing the response card, and also I noticed the directions to the church AND reception.

He apologized and told us that it was indeed a common occurence, many people said their invite came to them opened and mising stuff.

So now they are figuring out what they need to do.

BTW, I already sent a note confirming our attendance.

Re: I need some wedding invite advice.... update with new info

I actually did this with two of my invites for my wedding. On one, they just responded on the reception card and the other, he just mentioned it to my husband and I gave my husband another one to give them. After stuffing all those invites, something is bound to happen. It wasnt a big deal. I wouldnt mind if they said something to me. Just mention it.