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if your parents paid for a good part of your wedding, did they also give you a wedding present? I don't know what to give my son and his wife next week, and we are paying for all the guests on our side, including his friends, about 45 of them. I would appreciate any suggestions you may have.

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we borrowed a huge chunk from DH parents and they gave us a small check, we got a smaller amount of money from my father and he intended to give us $500 when we returned from the HM, but I did not collect it. My grandmother paid for my dress and the deposit on the hall and gave us a VERY generous gift.

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Wow - I thought paying for the wedding was the gift.

My parents and FH parents wanted to help us pay. I'm VERY reluctant to take from either side, but we may have to. My mom also mentioned that she would be hurt if we didn't take the money.

we're actually planning on doing our best to pay for it ourselves. I feel my parents have done so much for me in other ways, I feel terrible taking money to pay for my wedding. so I think taking an extra 'gift' - for me - would be out of the question.

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My parents paid for most of the wedding (almost all, really) and taht was our gift.

My mom did buy some stuff for the shower, though.

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I definitely agree that the wedding is the gift, and I'm sure my children do too. However, I'm very sentimental and would like something tangible they can remember as a 'wedding gift'. I bought my first DIL two Swarovski doves 9 years ago and this started her off on a beautiful collection. My daughter admired something like a Faberge egg that opens into a bride and groom that dance to music. I was hoping to find something unique for this FDIL but have no ideas.

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Since its so close to the holidays maybe a keepsake ornament that can lead to a collection or if your a Jewish a beautiful menorra(sp) that she can past down to her children. i love the idea of getting her something sentimental and agree that the money that you put towrd there wedding is gift enough and a generous one at that

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I did not expect a thing fro my parents, as they paid for my entire wedding..but in their wedding card, they wrote a note that they will coem out to RI one weekend and buy us our living room set! They knew that was our first purchase with our wedding money, and wanted us to save it for something else...I was shocked and still am and soo soo thankful for having the best parents!

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My parents paid for the entire reception (all 220 people!), so that was their gift to me and it was more than enough... my mom did buy me a really nice card and a small little wedding plaque... I don't think it was more than $5!

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Since my Mom and dad have both passed , we paid for the whole wedding by ourselves, DH mom paid for her friends- we paid for everything else. She gave us a 1,000 check as a wedding present. My mom and dad probably would have contributed a little bit- more then his mom , but would have expected us to pick up part of the wedding. I did not want to take any $$ from his side.

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hmmm...it's tough for me to answer this because:

both of our moms gave lump sums when we first got engaged...

then, when the wedding got closer, they both decided to 'take care of' certain things.

My mom paid for my gown, limos, and helped cover the travel expenses for my OOT brother and his 2 kids (I asked her to do it as a favor to ME, and not hold it against HIM) (she had also covered the entire cost of my bridal shower)

As a gift, she gave us $500 and the card box from the Lenox wedding promises collection.

DH's mom gave DH a lump sum a few months into the engagement and ear-marked it as 'help for a house'. She also got us a Dining set from JCPenney's when we bought our home. And, she covered our favors (really, she did that because she didn't like my 'frugal' ideas for favors). She had added on a million people to our guest list, we calculated that cost and asked her to help out. She actually gave us a bit more than we asked for. She also made our pew decorations and toss cones. I bought all of the ribbons and little flowers that she put on them, but I know it was a BIG job for her! She also paid for our very 4 course rehearsal dinner. After the wedding, she gave us another sizeable chunk of cash. But, she only has one child...

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My parents paid for half of the wedding....DH's parents gave a smaller amount towards the wedding. Both parents also gave us a gift for the wedding....my parents gave us $500 and DH's parents gave us $1K. It was totally unexpected since they both gave us money towards the wedding....but greatly appreciated.

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When we got engaged & said we'd pay for it ourselves, my parents said that they'd give us x. Ashortly befor ethe weddign, when we had to pay the bills, they gave us X & 1/2. So I told them no gift & they just gave us a card.

Dh's family actually believed him when he said we'd pay for it all, so they gave us a large gift. (1/2x)

ETA- both families bought a ton of stuff for engagement & shower presents.

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My parents paid for the entire wedding. They also gave us a very generous cash gift and bought all of our china place settings. Since DH and I don't live in NY, they paid for our plane tickets and hotel room on each of the three planning trips we made.

They are nothing short of AMAZING - not just because of their generosity, but also because of their support and hard work over the past year. I still haven't figured out how to thank them. (Any ideas, anyone? )

DH's parents haven't given us anything. His mom *might* have given us a card, but I'm not sure.

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My parents paid for our reception. We took care of the extras ourselves - ie DJ, photographer, church, invitations, etc. They also gave us a very generous gift. My grandmother paid for my dress.

DH's mom gave us a very generous gift after we were engaged to help out with the wedding.

My mom also threw my shower and bought me tons of stuff

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if your parents paid for a good part of your wedding, did they also give you a wedding present? I don't know what to give my son and his wife next week, and we are paying for all the guests on our side, including his friends, about 45 of them. I would appreciate any suggestions you may have.

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My Aunt and Uncle paid for the entire wedding, shower, my dress, the bp hair, well everything but the video and photos. and then got us a little something from out regestry for us to open when we got home from our hm. VERY GENEROUS! I LOVE THEM!
DH's parents did the RD, and gave us $ and a dvd recorder to us on our hm, which we forgot to pack. opps!

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My parents paid for approx 80% of the wedding and gave us money as a gift in addition to that. I did not expect it at all and told my parents that they went overboard.

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My parents paid for almost all of the wedding, so DH and I didn't expect a gift. We were really surprised when they bought us the rest of our china as a gift!

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My parents paid for our wedding.
My parents are divorced- they each paid for half.
my mom bought all my china as a gift and my dad gave us 1000

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My mom, dad and DH mom's gave us money towards the wedding/house.

My dad got the words from my invite engraved at Things Remembered- on glass.

My mom got me our pots for my shower, but they were $300 and some other stuff for the shower. She also gave me a music box with our wedding song.

My MIL didn't give us anything additional.

I think a sentimental gift means more then a monetary gift or a set of their china.

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My parents paid for the bulk of the wedding (e-party, reception, my dress, invites, hair & makeup) and ILs gave us a lump sum (very generous) to pay for whatever we needed. Their money paid for our band, photo and RD. DH and I paid for everything else (limos, flowers, favors, programs, incidentals.) We did not get anything additional as a wedding gift from either set of parents and we certainly didn't expect anything more.
In addition, as our shower gift, ILs are buying us a new refridgerator and dishwasher and my parents are buying us a new stove.