In-Law problem... need feedback!

Hi all. Need some feedback from my married compadres here... this weekend my DH and I went upstate to see his family. We stayed at his parent's condo (they have a spare bedroom and bathroom) and spent time with the rest of his family that relocated there. We had a great time.

LSS I invited his sister and her kids to come down and stay with us a weekend... she'd really like to take them to the city and go to the museums, etc, they never get a chance to come downstate. So DH calls me this AM and says she wants to come down the weekend of the 27th and his PARENTS are coming too. Now I LOVE his family but that would mean his sister, her 3 kids (6, 9 and 11 not exactly small fries here) and his 2 parents in my apartment (it is a garden apt, 2 bedrooms but 1 bathroom!) for a weekend. Was I wrong to balk at this? I said it's too many people in our apartment. Grrrr.... I feel like I tried to do something nice and it just went and bit me in the ass. Feedback please? Do I **** it up?

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It will be uncomfortable but either **** it up or offer to cover them in a hotel room. You can't refuse your invitation and you really can't tell them to stay in a hotel once you offered to let them stay (unless you offer to pay- explaining your apartment is small, etc).

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its only for a weekend...and they will realize that it cannot be done again....

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I understand I cannot refuse the invitation but I invited his sister and her kids, not the parents too. Plus his parents are coming up this weekend anyway for another family thing. Guess I will just s*u*c*k* it up and maybe stay at my mom's that weekend on LI to lessen the strain....

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since it is just for a weekend...I wouldn't say anything.

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I know how you feel, they shouldn't come uninvited - especially since you live in an apartment. But it's only a weekend, so it shouldn't be so bad. I know you suggested leaving your apt for the weekend but do you think they might be offended if you leave them since they're guests?

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thanks for the input... but its already been (I hope!) nipped in the bud. Apparently his sister said that his parents were coming before even checking or asking them... which I thought was strange b/c I didn't see them coming down and inundating us like that. When they come this weekend we will try to come to a reasonable solution!

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I would tell them that you would love to have them for the weekend but you're not sure what to do since that is a lot of people to have in your apartment.

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I wouldn't want that many people staying in my place if it were only 2 bedrooms and 1 bathroom.

I told my SIL that she, her husband and son could stay with us sometime to go into the City. And one Saturday morning at 8:20am she called to say that she wanted to come THAT night!! Thankfully my husband knew I would not be happy with 3 hours of notice and plus we were having HVAC work done here so he told her that we need at least a week's notice plus we were having work done on the house.

I am glad your situation worked out well.