In-laws question

Do you call your in-laws Mom and Dad? DH's stepmom prefers for me to call her by her first name which is fine with me, but I'm having a hard time calling DH 'Dad'. I've called him by his first name for years, so now it sounds weird to call him Dad. I have to force myself to say it and it's really uncomfortable. I only speak to him maybe once a month so I'm sure I'll get used to calling him Dad in time, but it's just so strange!

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I don't call them anything, but when I do I use their names. I don't feel comfortable calling them mom or dad.

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I am very against callign them mom & dad. i ahve my own mom & dad.

I try to avoid anything at all, because I don't wnat them to be offend if call them by there first names.

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I'm still stuck on first names. Once in a while I'll say hi ma or something - but not usually. It is very uncomfortable.

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I agree. I am having a hard time with Mom and Dad..I wish I could call them by their first names...

They asked me to call them mom and dad and it's really hard. I def. feel like I am forcing it out. I try to avoid calling them that as much as possible.

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I dont really talk to my MIL but when I do its Mrs ........

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Posted by tourist

I am very against callign them mom & dad. i ahve my own mom & dad.

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Totally agree! Luckily they told me to call them by their first names, so that makes things a little less awkward. But I try to avoid calling them anything at all.

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Both. Sometimes it is Mom and Dad, sometimes it is their first names. I would call them Mom and Dad but my DH calls his own parents by their first names so it is odd if I call them Mom and Dad and he doesn't.

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I'm having a hard time saying it also.

Some day I think I will call them mom and dad.

Right now I just speak to them directly without calling them anything.

I call my mother Ma so it will be weird at first calling my MIL mom. My father I don't call him anything just speak to him. I don't get along with him. So calling FIL Dad will be no problem. I will feel like I actually have a Dad, finally.

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I call them Mom and Dad and DH does the same with mine. They have always treated me like a daughter, and my parents have treated David like a son, so it was natural to call them that.

Plus, I've been doing that for years since Mom & Dad is usually an easier way to get someone's attention rather than Mrs. A mom will always turn around when called!

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Even before we were married they wanted me to call them mom and dad. To me it was an honor that they accepted me into their family that way so even though it's strange when I need to I call them mom and dad.

I don't think any in laws mean to replace your own mom and dad when they ask you to call them that. I think it is their way of accepting you and welcoming you to their family as on of their own now. JMO.

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Whew - I'm glad I'm not the only one who's having a hard time with this!

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Yeah - I have to admit I don't call them anything - I try to avoid it at all costs!!

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Posted by brideinapril

Yeah - I have to admit I don't call them anything - I try to avoid it at all costs!!

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I agree, when DH and I started dating I called them Aunt and Uncle b/c that is how I was introduced to them (I work with his cousin, so that is how I knew them) after the wedding she said I hope your comfortable enought to call us Mom and Dad, I didn't respond, now I really don't call them!

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I still call them Mr and Mrs.... I can't bring myself to call them Mom and Dad. I don't feel comfortable calling them by their first name.

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I try not to refer to them as anything, but if I have to get their attention I usually use their first names. I could see mself calling my MIL mom, but I just can't picture calling my FIL dad, and you kind of can't do one and not the other. DH refers to my parens by their first name and he doesn'tthink he'll ever call them mom and dad, even though he's close with both of them.

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My in laws want me to call them Mom and Dad. I love them but its awkward for me. I've always called my stepfather by his first name (my dad isn't in my life). I feel that if anyone should be called Dad it would be my stepfather and I don't think I could change that after 20 years! I explained this to DH's parents before we got married when they brought it up and I thought all was okay. Then I heard from SIL that my DH's dad is hurt that I don't call him Dad. Its all very uncomfortable. I just spent the weekend with them and tried my best to avoid calling them anything!

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Usually on the phone I'll say, 'Hi It's ME' then we go from there. I haven't had an instance where I've had to call them MOM and DAD. Yes, it would be very hard. I have my own MOM and DAD.

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for a whiel, they used to call and say, Its 'first name' Jean's dad/mom' & I would always think, 'Yes, I know who you are'

I wonder if they'd do that now. They don't call much, dh calls them from work or just stops by.

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i have a hard time as well. i jst start talking to them without saying anything hoping they wouldnt notice that im not saying mom or dad. i have called my father-in-law 'dad' maybe twice and i dont like it!!