In need of a pick-me-up

I am not sure if it's 'post holiday' blues (even though it isn't New Year's yet) but I am feeling a little down and was hoping that you girls would help. OK, here it is: I have been with DH for over 8 years. He is older than me (by 15 years). I guess I thought about that as the years went on, but he is a very young 50.We love to do all the same things and, honestly, he has more energy than me! Lately though, I have been hearing people at work talk about other couples with big age differences in a negative way. For example, 'I can't believe THEY are having a baby, it's just SO weird'...this is a couple at work with a ten year age difference. I have had people talk to me about it over the years (like some family members) but my friends have always been super supportive. Now, it leaves me wondering what people really think. Not that any of this changes the love I have for DH, but it makes me feel bad inside. My step mom has said negative things, but her daugter is 30 and her boyfriend is 51 and they have been together for the same amount of time as me and DH! Thank you all for reading this...why am I feeling so bad the day before New Year's???

Re: In need of a pick-me-up

No matter what, people are always going to find something negative to say. Don't let it bother you, like you said you are happy and secure in your relationship.

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my sister is 37, her husband is 54 and they just had a baby in June...

at first they didnt want kids, but then my sister got pg and lost the baby and after that they realized that they did want one... and they had the cutest kid ever... and they are insanely happy...

dont worry about what everyone else says... live your life...

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DH is also turning (a very young!) 50 this year and there is a 13yr age difference between us...... So I can definately understand where you are coming from...people say things..................

Please don't let people's careless thoughts bring you down. You and your DH love each other and that is all that matters - their words are just a blip in the grand scheme of 'stupid things said'... and just for get about it!!

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Posted by dctead

DH is also turning (a very young!) 50 this year and there is a 13yr age difference between us...... So I can definately understand where you are coming from...people say things..................

Please don't let people's careless thoughts bring you down. You and your DH love each other and that is all that matters - their words are just a blip in the grand scheme of 'stupid things said'... and just for get about it!!

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Thank you SO much for this! It really helps to know that I am not alone...you are so right, people say such silly things and don't even realize how much it hurts!!!

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Posted by jilliibabii

No matter what, people are always going to find something negative to say. Don't let it bother you, like you said you are happy and secure in your relationship.

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couldn't agree more. people will find what to say regardless.

Re: In need of a pick-me-up

don't let it get to you. you and your DH love each other and that's all that matters. people just always want something to b*tch about.

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Don't let it get to you. People just always feel the need to complain about something. Their opinions don't matter.

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Posted by MrsC2010

don't let it get to you. you and your DH love each other and that's all that matters. people just always want something to b*tch about.

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Yup! Don't let it get to you... even if someone did think it was weird or they wouldn't date someone that much older/younger than they are that is their choice, they should keep it to themselves.

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My parents are 14 years apart. They have been married for 35 years. My dad was 42 when they had my sister, 44 when they had me. You would never know my dad is as old as he is, as he appears much younger. People are a-holes, we all know that. Don't let them bother you

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Thank you all for your support! I knew I could count on you
I feel MUCH better!!!

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my aunt and uncle have 12 yr age gap and u would never know. they do EVERYTHING! they travel, hang out, and they have the best social life I have ever seen or heard of. they have 2 kids together one of which is 15 and been together for a very long time (close to 30 yrs together).
and as everyone said ppl will always say sh!t no matter what. u love each other and have a great relationship that is all that matters in the end

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Every always has an opinion but it's absolutely no one's business or concern!! You are blessed to have someone that you love and can be happy with forever.