~*NWQOTD*~ Thurs 11/11

Holidays..

How do you split them and what happens if a family member somewhere isn't happy?

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My DH gets Thanksgiving every year. I get Christmas Eve and Christmas.... If people don't like it, they can kiss it! It's too hard to try and figure out my blended family plus his father (who won't ever come to my families hose for anything although he has been invited every single year... )

we try to go to his Dad's for an hour or 2 on Christmas between opening gifts and dinner with my family but if it doesn't happen.. oh well...

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Every holiday is the spent the same, we go to his parents house first spend time there, do dinner/dessert and then go to my moms house and repeat. It works out this way because his parents like doing things earlier than my mom does things, the only thing that stinks is I'm expected to eat two full meals on those days

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Thanksgiving with his family, Christmas with mine. His family just started hosting Thanksgiving in 2008, and my family has been having Christmas forever. I'm glad it worked out this way because I would hate to miss Christmas at my parents house.

His family isn't religious and isn't big on holidays so Easter and other holidays can be how we want them. MIL and FIL are more about quality time than what day it falls on, whereas my parents are much more traditional. So if we spend the Saturday before Mother's Day or Father's Day with them and the actual day with my parents everyone is happy.

My mom is kind of pissed that I pretty much told her I've decided to go to Thanksgiving with my in-laws as long as they have it, forever. She and my dad and brother are always invited but she wants to see her other family - and is upset that if she goes to celebrate with them I won't go too. I understand that, but I told her that this is my family now and I have to do what's best.

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For the past few years we have done this:

Thanksgiving: DH & I host for his family. (MIL, DHs grandmother, DHs aunt & uncle & every other year DHs cousin & his girlfriend)
However:
This Thanksgiving: DH & I will be with my parents. DH & I have enjoyed hosting for the past 4 years but due to other family circumstances this year we decided to spend it with my parents, brother & sister.

Christmas Eve: My parents host, so DH & I spend it with them & MIL comes too.

Christmas Day: DH & I host for his family. (MIL & DHs grandmother)

Easter: DH & I host for his family. (MIL, DHs grandmother, DHs aunt & uncle & every other year DHs cousin & his girlfriend)

-this has worked well for us because we live so close to my parents. DH & I eat at my parents house at least 3 times month. & my family hosts more get together during the year.

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Thanksgiving I usually spend in Vegas with my sister... This year im not going... Shaun isnt really a big fan of Thanksgiving so it never bothered him that i wasnt here...

My sister has been doing tday for the last 4 years... i will eat dinner there then go to my gmas house for desert... and if Shauns family goes out after dinner then i will come back and hang with them... we'll see

Christmas Eve - My family
Christmas Day - Shauns family

other holidays are usually with my parents because Shauns parents are

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We start at my cousins Thanksgiving and then end at his mom's/aunts, depending who's having it for his family. I go Black Friday with his aunt so it works out great.

His family is more into Palm Sunday and Christmas Eve so we do Easter and Christmas Day with my family. Mother's Day we have breakfast with his and spend the day with mine. Father's Day we have breakfast with mine and spend the day with his since we go to a BBQ and my brother in laws parents house. NYE we just kinda wing and NY Day I usually go to the movies with my little cousin or my dad.

Holidays are pretty simple. And all the Jewish ones my mom does since DH is not Jewish is doesn't conflict.

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Depends on the holiday. Thanksgiving we're going to ILs for lunch and then my Aunt's house for dinner.

Christmas is easy because his parents have xmas eve at their house and my parents have xmas day at their house.

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Jewish holidays my family since he isn't jewish....edi with his family since I am not muslim....thanksgiving always a prob bc that's the only holiday both family celebrate...most time it is at my house bc I am always cooking with my dad and either hubby comes after he hang with his family or we go over his family after mine...this year we aren't. Celebrating tday of thur but will be on friday so this years isn't bad...xmas neither celebrate but we usually go to mom bf one of those days....and NYE we hang with friends and NYD his family celebrates it as someone else would celebrate xmas with a tree and gifts...

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Fortunately our parent's houses are close enough together that we can usually do BOTH families on the actual holiday. We'll go to my parent's house early on Thanksgiving and then to DH's aunt's house which is also close by. Then on Christmas we open our presents at home together then go to my mom's house and open presents then to DH's parent's house for brunch and opening presents and then back to my mom's house for dinner. It's worth it though, I love spending time with BOTH families. I couldn't imagine not spending time with my family on Christmas and Thanksgiving is right around my birthday so I have to go see my family then, too.

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Christmas Eve and Christmas Day are always the same. We spend Christmas Eve with my family (because it's more important to me and Christmas Day we spend with his.

Thanksgiving is rotating. I wish our families lived closer together so we could go both but we do one or the other. This year we are going by my family because I'm pregnant and I want to eat food that tastes good, not stove top stuffing.

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What we've been doing is rotate thanksgiving and easter. Last year we went to his SIL for thanksgiving. This year we are with my family. We are cooking though. We live upstairs from my mom. Easter will be at his side

Christmas eve is at my moms. His family doesn't celebrate on eve. His mom came with us last year.

Christmas day is his SIL

When we have a house, we want to host. Very excited to cook thanksgiving this year!!

We compromise the best we can so people shouldn't get mad. I don't think anyone does.

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we are lucky the family's live close - so some holidays we go back and forth.
christmas eve at his family
christmas day at my family

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We're still working it out. We originally wanted to alterate Chrismas/Thanksgiving every year with his family/my family but his mother is more concerend with making sure she is wherever is awful brother so we won't be seeing them for either holiday this year,

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Holidays are always with my family

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We're very lucky because not only do our families live 5 minutes apart, but they also celebrate the holidays on different days. Aside from Thanksgiving, which my family does dinner around 5ish and his family does around 7 or 8 (so we go to both), his entire family (including extended) opens presents on Christmas Eve at midnight so we do that with them, and then we spend Christmas Day with my family. New Years Eve is the same. We're with his family all night because they have a huge party every year, and then we spend New Years Day with my family.

Easter is easy also because his family has an egg hunt for his little cousins each year so we spend the late morning/afternoon with them and then we have dinner with my family. We're pretty much able to split all the holidays.

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very tough.. we always go back and forth and Im sick of it!!! LOL!!!

We have 3 families.. my parents, his moms side , and his dads side.. We usually try and make all 3 but we put an end to that last year!!!!


Thanksgiving - usually his dads side first , then my side for dinner and possibly his moms for desert

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xmas eve - his dads side first then my parents house

xmas - his moms side the whole time

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we alternate years for thanksgiving and easter

christmas eve we do my family, christmas day we do DH's family



usually MIL is not happy if we aren't with them, but its just the only way we can do it to be fair.

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Thanksgiving: We spend it with my family at my brother and SIL's house. My nieces get really excited on thanksgiving because they see Santa in the parade and then they like to do Chistmas crafts and we started a few years ago doing gingerbread houses and its really fun for them.

Chritsmas Eve: Dh's family does a big christmas eve celebration with his dads family with a grab bag so we usually go to his aunts house with them and celebrate. We go to mass with my family first though because the year I was sick with cancer the usher made me get up out of my seat to give it to an old man and yet I was soo sick and then told me there were seats in the school so when I walked all the way over there no seats were availble and I had to stand with nerve and bone pain and neruopathy in my feet. So now DH will never go to mass at his parents church again so we go with my family.

Christmas day: We spend with my family at my parents house with my nieces its really fun.

Easter we spend with Dh's family although this parents are going on a cruise this year so my family is going to have easter with BIL and SIL.

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Holidays are always a challenge b/c DHs parents live in northern VT. We have done something different each year. Usually we spend Thanksgiving in NY (sometimes we host) and then Christmas varies each year. It is usually stressful and someone (usually MIL) is always unhappy. This year we are having Thanksgiving in NY.For Christmas DH is going to drive to VT a couple of days before Christmas and I am going to fly to meet him on Christmas day so I can see my parents and my nieces for Christmas Eve/morning. Then we will spend a few day in VT.