First, I didn't read all of the replies, and I don't know if anyone mentioned this, but we seem to have more than double the lurkers than we do posters, and if your post was viewed so many times, it's possible it was by lurkers and not those who add to the community
Second, I'm sorry you are going through the he// of OT. I can surely sympathize, as September 11th happened 2 months after I got married, and 2 weeks after I moved into my new home, with only a bed, a radio and a card table, leaving me completely alone from 6pm - 6 am (the hours I don't work) for more weeks than I care to count.
It s u c k s, and that is a fact, but it's not going to change. You need to find things to stay occupied with, and no, that's not easy either. I also have very busy friends who have children and DH's who are home to spend time with them. I gave up on seeking out their companionship whenever I was lonely. I know they love me, but they have lives to live too! They check in with me frequently, but they aren't available all the time... another thing I had a hard time adjusting to, but I did it and you will too.
I can give you a list a million miles long of things you can do to fill the lonely hours, but you can do that by yourself. You know what you enjoy! What you need to do is remember that when you DO see your DH, the times are more special, more intense, and more full of emotion than if you saw him 24/7. It's HARD... but you can and will do it. Just be strong and give yourself time to adjust.
And when you feel you can't take it anymore, read this... It always helps me...
A cop's wife is a woman who is married to a man who is 'married' to his job, his partner and his badge. A cop's wife can usually be found cooking breakfast at midnight, picking up his uniforms at the cleaners and spending nights alone.
A cop's wife must be a good listener, not questioning him. She must be understanding when he goes out for a beer with his buddies, doesn't feel like taking her to the movies, or has an exam to study for.
A cop's wife must live with shift work, lonely holidays, bad jokes, ulcers and alcohol, bulletproof vests and fixed incomes. She is used to words like rape, robbery, assault and child abuse. She is familiar with night school, stakeouts, overtime and being on her own.
Most women are not born or raised to be a cop's wife; it is something that they have chosen to do. Some can and others cannot. She will spend each day learning, listening to and loving a man that few people respect and most others often hate.
A cop's wife makes beds, breakfasts and love to a man who spends more time with junkies, hookers, informants, pimps and partners than he does with her. She attends dinners, meetings and sometimes funerals.
A cop's wife watches the man she loves grow old before his time, watches him become cold and unfeeling, but she will remain his friend, wife and lover. She will always be these things to him, but she also knows that he will always be first, A Cop.
When a cop's wife kisses him as he leaves for work, she will make a silent
wish that he will return to her. And every time there is a knock at the door,
she will pray that it is not the Chief of Police and her husband's partner
coming to say kind things about her husband, how brave he was, how dedicated he was.
Being a cop's wife means lots of trust, love and worry, but when he says 'I
love you', it makes it all worthwhile.
Now, chin up, and be the proud, strong, PD wife that you are, and remember that you have many 'sisters' who 'get it' and care!
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