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I agree with you too- and even if you raise your child well and live in a nice part of the city, you'd have to be nuts to send your kid to a public high school nowadays. They may have been ok when we were younger but now even those in 'nice' areas have issues with violence (I'm thinking specifically about a few incidents at Bayside High in the recent past). When I see the houses my friends have in other parts of the country it makes me want to get out of here too.

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The city and surrounding area is a great place. I don't deny it. You can get ANYTHING, here. And maybe some are ok with not having a yard for the kids to play in - or the ability to ride a bike around the block. Whatever floats your personal boat. Central Park and Riverside are great parks. I just wouldn't want to have to go there every time my kids want to play outside.

I was raised in Queens, lived in the city as a young adult and now have a house on LI. The only reason I have that house is because my grandmother left me some $$ when she passed. There is no way in h@!! that I could have afforded it otherwise.

When I had my child, I lived in Queens in the house *I* grew up in and commuted to the city. It wasn't so bad - other than not being able to be there for her first steps or other milestones. However, as she approached school age - I realized that the schools and the area weren't as safe as when I was I kid. Things change I guess. There were also no kids on our block. So I decided to move to LI. Surburbia, safety, good schools... right?

The commute was HELL. I'd drop her off at nursery school at 7:15am and pick her up at 6pm. This went on for 2 years. I realized that I wasn't raising my kid -- the teachers were.
So I changed to a lesser paying, start over at the beginning job that's on the island. I get to spend more time with my daughter and she gets to do after school activities, but I can barely afford to do anything else.

Culture and diversity aside -- how much life can you have if you can't afford a ticket to the Museum or even the damn railroad to get there!! Bottom line - the cost of living is so totally over the top that we just have to get out.

When I hear that a friend moved to Orange County, bought twice the house I have for 1/2 the price and the real estate taxes are also less than 1/2 -- I know it's time to get outta dodge alright!


Just my 2cent! No offense to anyone I hope!

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I wanted to move before I met DH. Then he made me stay :). But I cannot wait to move! I can't stand living here in NY anymore. I just don't like city areas due to the crowds and heavy traffic. And I just need a change of scenery. I want to move somewhere a little more rural. And cheaper. We would never be able to afford a house in NY.

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There is good and bad to every environment, there is no 'perfect' city except the one above us all. Big cities, are wonderful because they offer so much, you have so many choices, it's a connection to the bigger world. NYC is one of the worlds great cities, great being - we set trends, it's one of the worlds major financial centers, it's a place where you can make your dreams a reality, the city is an open forum to learn about almost any subject for all ages. Yet there are the negatives, it's extremely fast paced and you have to keep up, stressful, expensive, there's poverty, drugs, crime and people can be very hard, mean - a product of the big bad city. It's all a matter of each person's tolerance level and what is best for each individual. Some people thrive on these factors and others just don't want or feel the need to deal with it.

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I love NY but the truth is that we couldn't afford it! so we moved to miami. We love it here too, it's very different and 10x cheaper, and it's hot all year long

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Posted by meghanmetz


I'm going to miss my family immensely, but get me the hell out of here!

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this is exactly how I feel

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A part of me would love to move just for the change of pace, but honestly, I love where we live. We live in a really nice residential area in White Plains. I've got my own city 5 minutes away, NYC is only 40 minutes away, yet I have my quiet neighborhood, 2 car garage and back yard. DH and I are very lucky, my dad is in real estate, so we were given our house and we just pay the taxes and maintenance. If that wasn't the case though I would probably push DH to move, just so we could afford a house of our own.
Everyone has their own feelings and reason for wanting to stay or leave. You just have to do what's right fr you and your DH.

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I was a devoted NY girl- grew up in Queens, went to Queens college, only moved to LI when I got a job in Selden and swore I would never leave NY, ever! Then I visited my brother and his wife in CA and fell in love. I have lived here for 6 years and live near the beach, have lots of culture nearby and go back to NY at least 2x a year. My family does work hard to stay in touch and we see each other about 5 times a year. I love living here- the weather is incredible, the pace is slower and its so pretty. I only drive 5 minutes to my job. But we are looking to move after we get married too since the housing is SOOO expensive, even worse than LI. So I hear everyone's pain about moving and missing family, but its not impossible. I don't worry about moving this time since I had done it before and loved it. Now its just a question of where!

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Posted by Xelindrya

I think what I was trying to say was it's about how you raise your children not WHERE (I did say it could be any big city not just NYC)

Still, it's the commute and lack of attention I want to give my children because of the work environment here.

To each their own.

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actually, looks like we're saying the same thing, then.

My FH absolutely won't consider leaving tri-state area, which has been a really tough adjustment, but has me looking for/at 'bright side' of NYC and LI

Just wish it was a little more AFFORDABLE. Lack of $$ really cramps my style here