ok this is my final 2 cents on this whole shower thing...
Original post by gina409
i cant believe how ot of hand this got...i never meant too ffend,hurt anyone..i really was just trying to have a shower for all the preggo/mommies w have...a way to celebrate the great experince of having a baby
the original plan was a secret santa gift exchange..a gift for each preggo/mommy with potuck so it would be cheaper..we would play some games,make the bow hats and just have fun
i dont know where it all got out of han but i know some people r upset,the fms are flying around..
i am officially taking my name out..i think we should scrap this whole idea..cause even if someone else wanted to do it..it would just be weird since all this happened
to anyone who is ttc or have had a miscarriage..i cant imagine the pain u r going through an i never brought this up to hurt you or make u fel bad for not wanting to come..i would totally undertand why you would not want to..
i know some peope questioned why i would do this cause some lades on this site have had these unfortunate events happen to them an i assure you 100 percent i never meant to upset you
i just thought it would be fun..so there it is my goodbye baby shower letter and i hope we do something all together soon
MrsCM
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As usual, if something happened I missed it.
BUT I can speak on behalf of one person who is ttc/has had miscarriages (4 now, for those keeping track).
I thought it was a really sweet, totally awesome idea!!! Even though I am no longer preggo I would have LOVED to attend. I can't speak for everyone, I just don't know why everyone has to make it about THEM. If it's hurtful for you to go, don't.
G I'm sorry if you were attached cause that's so effed up.
But I'm totally piecing things together from what was said here and I never saw the offending posts.
luvabul
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dont feel bad, you had good intentions. No one was forced to go to this if they didnt want too, plus you made it open to everyone and not just the expecting mothers. your sweet!
meara
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Aw I just have to add that I'm sorry feelings were hurt here. . as someone who is just starting TTC and not there yet I had no idea if I would come as a preggers or not and still think it was all about spreading the love!!! and hoping if I wasnt by then I'd get the baby mojo. .
so sorry Gina that you got any flack from just trying to be nice. . . I thought it was a fabulous idea and all about the love. . . and that you were not even one of the preggos so it was JUST about other people. . .
also to anyone who had an issue - there is nothing that says every event has to be for everyone and I know it can be a sensitive issue but. . . . .
MLAngelo
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Gina I think it was very thoughtful.
I think I was part of the problem. I kind of read it as a GTG for the preggos... (and was kind of confused and thought I had missed the announcement that you were preggo) the way it was worded and the way I read it I felt like it was being exclusive. But that wasn't what you intended and I think what you did want to have was a lovely idea. I am sorry it got so out of hand.
Your are clearly a thoughtful and loving person. I haven't gotten to many chances to meet you but every time I do I love you. I wish you all lived in Suffolk. I could use some great friends.
pandafish519
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gina.. i effing love you.
KerriJohnS
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Posted by MrsCM
As usual, if something happened I missed it.
BUT I can speak on behalf of one person who is ttc/has had miscarriages (4 now, for those keeping track).
I thought it was a really sweet, totally awesome idea!!! Even though I am no longer preggo I would have LOVED to attend. I can't speak for everyone, I just don't know why everyone has to make it about THEM. If it's hurtful for you to go, don't.
G I'm sorry if you were attached cause that's so effed up.
But I'm totally piecing things together from what was said here and I never saw the offending posts.
Yea... as another mc girl.... I cannot ever say Gina was being insensitive to mc/ttcers at all. I too feel... if you are uncomfortable for WHATEVER reason... then just don't go. I TOTALLY understand people feeling uncomfortable. But again, just don't attend. No need to make it 2 events into one or anything like that. If you don't like the idea... don't go.
That's ALL i'll say on that topic. I stayed far away from all the threads about this topic.
las1
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Been away from the boards a few days so I defnitely missed this. Gina I thought it was a good idea and I don't think Gina meant to offend anyone. I am not preggers or TTC yet and I probably would have gone since I still haven't met anyone yet.
