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Ok I want some serious responses, I need to know your feelings on this.

You are friends with someone and have known them for years. You used to be BFFs but grew apart. Now in your adult lives when you see e/o it is either just you and her or you, your DH, her and her DH. You become very close with her again but still its only a her/you relationship.

So on to it, you are invited to one of your friends houses after something that you all GTG for. You are hanging out with a group, YOUR group of friends who have never met this girl before. So you are just all hanging out chit chatting so on and so on, you begin to tell a story about something and you lightly ( I mean lightly) tap this girl and she throws a hissy fit about how she cant believe you just 'HIT' her and hits you back-not with the same touch as you but actually smacks you in the arm full force. All of your friends turn around and look at her like she is NUTS and would tell her to leave except they kind of cant and they are awaiting for your response to see what they should do......in utter shock you tell her you cant believe that she just hit you especialy since you practically touched her and she was out of line, from this point on you are completely annoyed by this.

What are your feelings on this person as far as your relationship with them?

ETA: b/c it was confusing

Was their alcohol involved? If so, I would say maybe have a chat. If not, dump her. Personally it sounds like either way there are issues, and it might be better to part ways with her.

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Posted by Mich0621

Was their alcohol involved? If so, I would say maybe have a chat. If not, dump her. Personally it sounds like either way there are issues, and it might be better to part ways with her.

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Yes there was on every occasion except it wasnt like she was drunk if you know what I mean

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Posted by PegaLega

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Posted by Mich0621

Was their alcohol involved? If so, I would say maybe have a chat. If not, dump her. Personally it sounds like either way there are issues, and it might be better to part ways with her.

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Yes there was on every occasion except it wasnt like she was drunk if you know what I mean

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Ahh, then I would have personally beaten her silly and never spoken to her again. Personally, she is not worth the time to even waste your energy on. JMO. Bet she is a little envious of you.

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Posted by Mich0621

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Posted by PegaLega

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Posted by Mich0621

Was their alcohol involved? If so, I would say maybe have a chat. If not, dump her. Personally it sounds like either way there are issues, and it might be better to part ways with her.

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Yes there was on every occasion except it wasnt like she was drunk if you know what I mean

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Ahh, then I would have personally beaten her silly and never spoken to her again. Personally, she is not worth the time to even waste your energy on. JMO. Bet she is a little envious of you.

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truthfully i dont know....she doesnt really act that way maybe its possible but that is up to a psychologist to share with me

So you tapped her lightly and this girl that you don't really know PUNCHED you? Is that the story? She didn't even apologize after she punched you because she took the joking around too far?

If I have the facts straight she is a true weirdo. What grown woman adult punches someone else. Was Jerry Springer in the room? I would avoid hanging out with her and never buy my meat at the same store she does.

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Posted by MeNBobs

So you tapped her lightly and this girl that you don't really know PUNCHED you? Is that the story? She didn't even apologize after she punched you because she took the joking around too far?

If I have the facts straight she is a true weirdo. What grown woman adult punches someone else. Was Jerry Springer in the room? I would avoid hanging out with her and never buy my meat at the same store she does.

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no she is one of my close friends....I tapped her while telling a story adn she reeled back and smacked me, I literally tapped like I would to get your attention and she full blown hit me

And dont worry I definitely dont buy my meat at the same place taht she does

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Posted by PegaLega

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Posted by MeNBobs

So you tapped her lightly and this girl that you don't really know PUNCHED you? Is that the story? She didn't even apologize after she punched you because she took the joking around too far?

If I have the facts straight she is a true weirdo. What grown woman adult punches someone else. Was Jerry Springer in the room? I would avoid hanging out with her and never buy my meat at the same store she does.

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no she is one of my close friends....I tapped her while telling a story adn she reeled back and smacked me, I literally tapped like I would to get your attention and she full blown hit me

And dont worry I definitely dont buy my meat at the same place taht she does

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Oh okay I didn't follow your monkeys uncle story too well. After she saw everyone was shocked and that she hurt you she didn't apologize at all? I would find it odd that she didn't apologize or act remotely shocked by her actions. If she has been a good friend though and has nver had questionable behaviour I would maybe consider this a one off but kind of be weary when I am around her. She may have been embarrassed after she realized she actually hurt you and was trying to play it off as not a big deal.

Hope your contusions heal soon!!

this was the night of my RD!!!

It had happened before and it happened after and she did NOT apologize, instead she said to me 'but you hit ME' and of course it was back and forth, I did not hit you hard, I friggin tapped you and she said then hit me, go ahead hit me as hard as I hit you.

I just dont get it.....drunk or not I KNOW what is going on around me

Def a little weird but this is why the old adage 'Keep your hands to yourself comes in handy.'

What was the context you were tapping her in? Were you tapping her to get her attention or was she part of the story and you were kinda poking fun at her a little bit ? (In a friendly way I mean but something she might have misconstrued) Because if she was 'the butt of the joke' so to speak and I dont mean that in a cruel way because I know you have no malice in you, maybe she got annoyed.

She was meeting all your friends for the first time right? There was probably some level of tension involved, because its usually just you and her and you guys just got close again. I know I myself get tense when I meet new people even if its subtle. Throw in some alchohol and you make the possibility for vioaltile actions a lil more possible.

I don't think you did anythign wrong, and she was defiently wrong for swining at you like that, but if you still want to be friends with this girl, maybe you need to try and examine it in context and then talk to her calmly and ask her what was up. Maybe she was having a personal issue or something. People are weirdos sometimes.

I am assuming that you tapped her because it went with the story that you were telling?
Regardless, this is my opinion; I think you are a very outgoing person. You are comfortable around other people and with yourself. You were telling a story and if it wasn't her you tapped, it would have been someone else. (No harm done).
Unless she felt that you deliberately got up and went out of your way to 'target' her instead of 5 people who were closer to you in proximity, I feel that her anger may have been mis-directed.
God, how awful of a feeling that must be to lash out like that at your friend's RD especially when no one knows you from a hole in the wall. SHe'd be crazy not to be embarassed.
I think you should talk to her about it if it is still bothering you. You deserve to know what she was thinking.
Good Luck! .

that is just weird!!
i know how you can be confused about this.. because it does not seem normal!!
i always tap my friends as like a friendly little hit.. but to come back swinging full force is just odd..

sooooo.. like some of the girls said.. i would just try and have a talk with her.. really find out why she reacted that way.. its the only way you will find out!

honestly, whether there was alcohol or not, that is so strange - i would never hit a friend or stand for a friend hitting me - i would say, you're better off without her

ok this is just bizzarre to me...
EVERY TIME i tell a story I *tap* or grab the person im talking to or next to...



i definitely would not know what to make of this. id just talk to her about it and be like wwwwwttttfffff? is? wrong??? with you? wackjob.

Pegs......write her off. PERIOD.If someone can easily slap you that hard because ' she thought you 'hit' her is outlandish.She must have anger problems, and needs to know to keep her hands to herself. I'm no expert or anything, but I'd love to be at one of your parties, and tap her and see what she does to a 6' tall amazon. I'm sure the result would be different. And if it weren't I'd be in jail, for assualting the b!tch!!!!! As of now, I think you should keep very LITTLE contact with her. Love ya

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Posted by MeNBobs

So you tapped her lightly and this girl that you don't really know PUNCHED you? Is that the story? She didn't even apologize after she punched you because she took the joking around too far?

If I have the facts straight she is a true weirdo. What grown woman adult punches someone else. Was Jerry Springer in the room? I would avoid hanging out with her and never buy my meat at the same store she does.

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I'm confused - at your RD you tapped your friend in convo and she overreacted and hit you back. You guys spoke about it and she felt that you hit her first, you do not agree. But now people think you should cut her off completely?? Is there something else I'm missing?

I think it was inappropriate of her to HIT you back - but like Jenn said, maybe she was feeling tension since you guys are always hanging out alone or with your DH's and she felt uncomfortable/out of place in an environment with lots of people she didn't know. She totally overreacted by hitting you, but you guys spoke about it some. Why not move on from here and keep your friendship?? Unless of course I'm missing something else.

Ok here is the deal, I take your opinions but shes done this before. Quickly I will tell-obviously names are changed

My bachelorette party a friend of mine was joking around about how old she was in comparison to use and how she wore old lady socks and showed us, we all giggled b/c it was cute and dorky at the same time. Now the other girl (the one who has hitting problems) takes her shoes off and knocked me in the face, I got a cut and a bruise above my eyebrow. No big deal, no drinking involved yet. Fine I shot her the look and that was it.

My RD was near my house so I had all my girls stay with me. After my RD we went to DHs friends house (who we hang out with regularly) who is in the BP afterwards, the whole BP is there and I was telling her a story about my SIL. So i tapped her in jest with the story and she proceeded to stand up, reel back and whack me and said 'I cant believe you just hit me' so ok, I get it I did 'hit' her but it wasnt a hit, it was literally a tap. I said no, actually I tapped you and I cant believe you just f'in hit me. The whole place got silent. We all mess around with each other but this was a blatant 'HIT' in my mind. Afterwards we went to my house and that was that.

NOW, I probably would have let it go and ignored it, but at my reception she came over to the head table, i hadnt had a drink b/c for some reason everytime I got one it disappeared. SHe came over and picked up my drink and I told her to go get her own...blah blah hadnt had a drink, etc. (YES being a brat) she then picked up my knife off the table, held it to my thought (AT MY WEDDING) and said I will cut you biitch.

At this point I didnt talk to her until about 1 month ago, she says she doesnt remember, she says she is sorry but I still have this thing that doesnt want to be ok with it. Idont know if its me overreacting or what.