Poll: Would/does your DH get mad if...

you communicate with ex's?

I have an EX that works for my alma mater. They just emailed me that they are deleting my student email account- which I want to keep because then I can keep access to their career network.

So, of course I email the ex because he works in the IT department and I want him to 'arrange' for me to keep my account (IE, for him to mark it as active, even though I'm not a student anymore)

DH didn't seem to care that I emailed this guy (but we also think that this guy is probably coming out the closet soon , so that could be why DH doesn't care.)

Would your DH care?

He never really comes in contact with any of them. I don't think that he would mind though. He's not as jealous as I am.

There was this one time though, the day after we got engaged, that we bumped into one of my very best friends from High School. We did have a one night fling, but stayed best friends through college. I introduced them and my then FI turned to me a whispered 'you slept with him didn't you'. How the hell did he know??? IT WAS 20 YEARS AGO!

hmmm i dunno..
he doesn't talk to any so i don't know how i would react

he's SO not jealous.

One of our good friends is an ex (he was at our wedding and at DH's bachelor party), and there's another that we also see every once in awhile (friends in common).

One of his ex's was at our wedding also, but she's in CO so we never see her.

I figure they're part of who you are now, and in some cases, a very large part of your history. As long as every knows where they stand, there shouldn't be any problems.

Pretty much no...but the other day my ex emailed me to tell me that he had gotten engaged and I mentioned it to DH. He was fine about it, but did bring it up a few nights later when he had a few But, really he was just teasing me.

He's not really a jealous person. sometimes I wish he were more so.

No, he wouldn't care

It's a complicated answer, sorry. I only have like, 4 other guys who I've been involved with.

1. I don't talk to him, and I don't even know where he is! Adam wouldn't care.
2. Weirdo. We don't talk for many good reasons, but Adam wouldn't be mad if we decided to bury the hatchet. He would, however, think I'd gone mad.
3. Adam would probably divorce me if I talked to this guy, but that's probably because he's the biggest @sshole on the face of the Earth. No, Really, He Is. I wouldn't want to talk to him anyway, because he's crazy.
4. Dated this guy for like a week, really nice guy. We broke up because I thought Adam was going to be available soon (I had to wait like a month) and I had feelings for him. He's married now, has a baby. We see him at functions, but he's not someone we see often. Even if he was, he's a doll and Adam's friends with him too, so it's not an issue.

I really feel there is no good that can come out of communicating with Ex's. They are 'Ex's' for a reason.

How does it make you feel when he communicates with his Ex's?

My husband was commmunicating with my ex himself on Saturday!

They aren't really friends, but we have friends in common so we are for a friends birthday & Dh & ex get along so we tend to gravitate towards him & his GF in group settings. We just have stuff in common. They are cute, they emailed us pictures from a cruise they went on & want me to email them some HM pictures! They were at out wedding too.

I do not talk to ANY of my ex's ... none were worth keeping in touch with , to be honest

And nor does DH speak at length with his ex's anymore.. so we've never faced this dilemma. My husband actually still works at the same company as his last ex before he met me (though they are in totally diff. departments and have hardly any interaction) But on the rare occasion they cross paths or have to interact, they do so professionally and politely - and it ends there (and yes I do believe this , because I have my spies at his office )

But in the scenario that Sue presented, I doubt DH would have a problem with me talking to an ex .. and vice versa ..