even after 8 months, there are still some things I regert about my wedding day. nothing major but still annoying things that I wish I could go back and have done differently. For one, I would ahve spent more on the flowers - really had BIG centerpieces packed with roses. the centerpieces were WONDERFUL, but I would have like to have gone 'over the top'with them. my mom and husband tell me that it was an awesome wedding and it truely was, but from the bride point of view, I would have made some changes.
Anyone else feel this way?
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i do have regrets but there is nothing i can do about it now, the important thing is we are married and now onto bigger and better things
I absolutey agree with you aon this one. I can't change it even if I wanted to
Oh well
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I would have chosen a different florist and possibly a different photographer. He didn't take photo's that I had wanted. I would have done my hair different. It was a great day regardless.
ikasse02
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No wedding, marriage, person, etc is perfect.
I look back happily and offer advice from my experience if to those who want it.
And sometimes even if they don't!
cocoa
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i regret not taking pics with my cousins and not dancing my stepdad...but they know i didn't do those things intentionally, just was overwhelmed by the day.
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I would've gotten the chocolate fountain and surprised DH. I didn't know about it til afterwards.
eroxgirl
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It was a great day the way it was, but hindsight being 20/20 and all...here goes:
1. I would have gotten the larger room, even though I might not have met the minimum, more space would have been worth the extra $$.
2. I would have gotten my cake from Audrey's Bakery or someone like that because, as if I haven't said it enough, I hated the way my cake looked.
3. I would have made a list of pictures to take, because there were a few that I wanted and I didn't get, and there were some that I didn't even think of until after I saw my proofs.
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2. I would have gotten my cake from Audrey's Bakery or someone like that because, as if I haven't said it enough, I hated the way my cake looked.
I hated the way my cake looked too It was absolutely delicious but very boring looking. The color of the decorative frosting wasn't right so the cake looked blah (even though I gave the Milleridge bakery a picture!)
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I hated the way my cake looked too It was absolutely delicious but very boring looking. The color of the decorative frosting wasn't right so the cake looked blah (even though I gave the Milleridge bakery a picture!)
Me too! I liked the cake but I always wanted flowers on it! DH and my mom didn't like flowers so I went with the majority! Now my mom wishes we did get the flowers!
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i would have walked slower down the aisle and smiled more often (i hate my smile).
the day itself and the details were everthing i have always dreamt of (low key, outdoors, no wedding cake, no formal entrance, guests mingling about enjoying the view). however, my biggest regret is that i will NEVER have the opportunity to relive the day.
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Wow, I'm glad to hear I'm not the only one :)
But yes, we are all happily married and on to bigger and better things :)
I just use these regrets as advice to other brides to be.
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This is so helpful to read. Not only to prepare myself for the possibility of regrets, but to get ideas of what to plan ahead of time. I think I've just decided to definitely take pix before the ceremony and guests arrive, as our photog. suggested, just so that FH & I can attend our CH and do it at leisure.
There's so much to plan and so many months that go into planning...one day is a bit of a let down. We feel short-changed.
Congrats to all of you on your nuptials!
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I truly enjoyed my wedding day, but over the last two months a lot of things have come out about interactions in my bridal party which leads me to say that I would have handled the bridal party thing completely differently than I did.
So my regret is that I wish I had handled communications with everyone involved in the wedding better. I guess I got caught up in the planning and the stress of day to day life and lost sight of other people's feelings and friendships.
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1. I regret not getting gel inserts for my shoes 2. I regret taking off my shoes. 3. I regret not having my BM's go with me to my fitting to learn how to bustle me. My mom burned her hand the morning of the wedding (cooking bacon to make a nice breakfast) and could barely help me. The bridal assistant did it, but the loops were too big and the buttons came out and I coudld hardly dance backwards without tripping 4. I regret, DRINKING ICED CAPPUCINOS ALL NIGHT!!!!! I didn't want to drink liquor (except for the champagne toast) because I didn't want to get wrecked. So I drank water and had the bartender make iced cappucinos for me (so good!!)
Well, my wedding night was supposed to be wonderful, but mine was caffeine charged and I was jumpy and couldn't sleep. I wish I had asked for decaf
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~~This one is sad...I would have danced with my grandmother..who had passed away last year...I still beat myself up over that one...
My Godfather died a few months after my wedding, and I realized that I never got a picture with him, didn't dance with him...he was like a second dad when I was little....but I got sick at the reception, so I didnt do much dancing and never got that chance. That's my regret.....
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I loved my wedding day , but wished I had choosen just family to be in the bridal party. There was this one girl they all did not like and they were nice that day to this one girl, but it kind of bothered me.
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The only regret I have is that I wish I did not have my eyes closed is some of my proofs. I loved all my proofs but because of me closing my eyes, beautiful pictures like these were ruined.
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The more you think about it, you will always find something that could have been different. Even years from now if you look back you might say 'I wish they had that when I got married' or something along those lines. It was a big day with a lot going on and you never know really what to do till its done and how you could have done it. But as someone said The most important thing is that you got married and no matter what you forgot or what you would/could change you are married and no matter what it, it still is a happy ending for you.
ETA: 1- I would have changed the location and made it a destination wedding for close family & friends only.
2- smaller bridal party
3- planned better
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For me I am sooo hard on myself. I think my issue was the late Dj . But I also have to remember that we danced more than the avg wedding since the ahll extended the time by 1.5 hrs for free. (Dont get me wrong ..we had fun..I am the only one over analyzing lol)
Hmm, maybe hiring a photojournalistic photographer..but then that meant more $$ for pics I'd probably show a few people and forget about sicne I am one of those people who will rather show the album or video.
Sometimes I doubted my hall choice but thats only after I came on here...LIW. I wouldnt change it..they were the only hall willing to give us the cocktail hour outside that is reserved for the larger affairs.
I dont have much else but advice. The bride is the worst critique, some of the things we notice..other people dont even have a clue
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No regrets as of now.. but it is still new for me... imagine all the regrets we will have in 15 years when all the wedding styles are different.. my sister in-law whom has been married for 14 years wishes her bridesmaids dresses didn't have big puffy bows on them..lol
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Everyone says my wedding was wonderful but if I had to do it all over again...
1. I'd have no bridesmaids 2. I'd have chosen a different band 3. I'd have taken more photos outside, and of more friends and family 4. I'd have specifically forbidden people from giving unplanned speeches (don't ask)
I guess it seems like everyone has some type of regret.
I was happy to read number 1. I only have my sis who is my MOH and I keep wondering if I will feel like I am missing out on not having a bridal party. SO thanks...
