post wedding regret

even after 8 months, there are still some things I regert about my wedding day. nothing major but still annoying things that I wish I could go back and have done differently.
For one, I would ahve spent more on the flowers - really had BIG centerpieces packed with roses. the centerpieces were WONDERFUL, but I would have like to have gone 'over the top'with them.
my mom and husband tell me that it was an awesome wedding and it truely was, but from the bride point of view, I would have made some changes.

Anyone else feel this way?

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I loved my wedding...but yes, I do look back and think that I would have done things differently. It's no biggie...alot of it is from looking at others' weddings and thinking theirs were better than mine

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A year later and I still have a few.

Originally we didn't want a video. We got one but we should have spent more and gotten a better one.

I should have had one of my friends in the bridal party that I didn't

We should have invited a couple that we didn't.

OOPS and we should have MADE our photographer take more pictures outside (near greenery) I knew I wanted this and the weather wasn't so great (very foggy but never rained) and before we knew it the day was over and there were hardly any pictures outside

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Same here with the pictures. There were some shots that I wish we would've gotten. Even though it was cold outside and the vineyard was just sticks, we should've gone outside at least for a few shots. And I would've really have liked to have had a shot of everyone at the wedding in front of the church. There are a few family combinations that I think we should have had.

Also, another couple we should've invited.

I should've had the CD favors on the tables, instead of in a basket. Some people didn't get any and some took more than one.

We should've gone aroudn to all the tables to greet people. wE sort of forgot about that.

I should've ordered more rose petals for the tables. There weren't really enough.

But...should, coulda, woulda - what can you do!!??

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I would do my hair different, and I would've started saving earlier!
we didn't go on a honeymoon either.

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Besides not having put more $$ into my flowers.....also people I should not have invited/should have invited, not thrilled with the photographer and some bridal party changes.

But yes, shoulda woulda, coulda :)

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The only thing I would have changed would be my hair. I had a windy but beautiful day...and my hair just didn't hold up like I would have liked b/c we took so many outdoor photos.

Other than that I would do it all exactly the same way!

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I would have gone with a different photographer - I have no regrets about anything else except that - My pictures are okay, nothing special - and he didn't take the photos that I requested, which were a few family shots - I have not one picture of my family - and there are only 6 people in it!!!!
So I was pissed about that - but other than the photographer - I loved my wedding day!

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I have 2 regrets:

1. I didn't get to eat dessert.

2. Planning the wedding took *way* too much time away from work - I have been literally 5x more productive this summer than last, and am worried that I won't be able to 'make up' for the time I spent planning a wedding. While I feel that my marriage is certainly worth a great deal of sacrifice, I don't feel that the wedding itself was worth this particular cost.

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Yes there are things I would have done differently. I would have chosen a different florist. I did love my flowers but there where a few things that bothered me about them. I should have made a list of pictures that I wanted from the photographer. I love my proofs but I missed out on some special shots that I wanted. I would have had my hair done differently.

Lots of little things but over all I loved my wedding.

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I would've picked different flowers - I liked my bouquets, but lately I've seen bouquets that are absolutely gorgeous, and I'm so mad that I didn't spend more time on choosing my flowers. It was more like I just left it up to John from Flower Michele to pick my flowers for me, based on the color of the girls' dresses and a few of my suggestions. He did a GREAT job, but I wish I had done more research.

I also wish I'd used Lipfinity lipstick, or one of those lipsticks that doesn't come off, because our photographer took a lot of kissing shots, and all of my lipstick came off. So in our formal picture and plenty of other pictures, I have no lipstick on. AND my face is greasy!!!!! I wish somebody had told me to powder! In our thank you picture my forehead is all shiny and I have pale lips. Blech.

I would've also picked a different photographer. Our photographer did a great job and I'm happy with my album, but I didn't get exactly what I wanted. I wanted VERY photojournalistic, and that's not what I got. I got a handful of artsy shots when I wanted way more than that.

Oh well, what can you do! Our wedding day was a lot of fun and filled with some great memories.....there are tons of things that I loved, like my dress and veils!!!

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Wish we would have had the photogs get pictures of DH with his brothers ... more pictures of his side in general.

Either chosen different DJ or just dealt with them differently ...

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Everyone says my wedding was wonderful but if I had to do it all over again...

1. I'd have no bridesmaids
2. I'd have chosen a different band
3. I'd have taken more photos outside, and of more friends and family
4. I'd have specifically forbidden people from giving unplanned speeches (don't ask)


I guess it seems like everyone has some type of regret.

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Right after the wedding I had a lot of regret...
But now the only thing that sticks out in my mind is I wish I chose a different DJ company... Or had a band...

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~~I would have choosen a different photographer/videographer

~~I would have made the time for the church earlier so I had more time to take pictures

~~I would have attended my cocktail hour

~~I would have written a detailed list for my dj of what not to play.

~~This one is sad...I would have danced with my grandmother..who had passed away last year...I still beat myself up over that one...

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Lets see, things I would do differently....
1. I would have given my photographer a list of must have photos. Which I would have given more thought to before hand....I LOVE my photos (there are about 960 of them) but there are a handful that I am sorry I didnt get.

2. I wouldnt have lost my headpiece the night before! For those who didnt hear, I misplaced my headpice and didnt realize it until 2 am the night before my wedding when I woke up in a panic! This event set back my morning b/c of the lost headpeice (which was in my room the whole time!)

3. I would have extended my reception by 1 hour! At 11:45 everyone was still there dancing and having a good time! If I had of thought of it I would have extended one hour so that we could have hung out longer! It all just went so fast!

4. I would have realized that this was MY day and I shouldnt feel rushed! Because of a few events, the headpeice one of my BMs getting violently ill, hair appts taking longer than expected, I felt liek we were running behind the morning of the wedding and I rushed, I didnt take the time to really enjoy that part of my day and I had been really looking forward to those few hours before I became a Wife!

But my wedding was better than I dreamed it to be and I was happier than I have ever been for those few hours! Given the chance, would I make a few corrections? Sure but I will never regret a second of my day!

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1. 2 less bridesmaids

2. better bouquet (my local florist sucked...luckily, I had Laurie for my reception flowers)

3. given my mom the names of a couple of more ladies for my shower...(one of our Best Men had no presence at the shower because we didn't invite his mom)

4. sent out STD's...we had a LOT of declines because people already had plans for the holiday weekend

5. photos by the flowers at Leonard's (I can't believe I forgot to take photos OUTSIDE of Leonard's)

6. more ceremony musicians

7. I wish I would have taken our moms dress shopping for their dresses. They both waiting until the last minute and they were both very stressed

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i do have regrets but there is nothing i can do about it now, the important thing is we are married and now onto bigger and better things

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I have regrets too. I am glad I am not the only one that thinks of this. My family and hubby think I am crazy becasue everone had an awesome time but I think the problem is that we waited so long for this day and put so much effort into it that I/we expect perfection. But that is not reality especially when you put things into other people's hands (vendors)

So here is my list.

1) Should have insisted photographer take my list of wanted pics. He said he didn't need one but I should have gave him one anyway. I told him I wanted pictures in the library one of our rooms at the reception (an awesome spot for shots at the WBM) but he didn't take them, we forgot to mention it for afterall that day is a whirlwind.

2) I should have insisted that the taper candles be taken off the tables in the reception. When I saw them I told the Matre d I didn't like them because they were all crooked but he said they would fix them so I said fine. Of course I didn't think of it again and in the pics you can see some of the crooked candles. That really pi$$ed me off.

3) My DJ was AWESOME! But at the end the volume was too loud. I really felt bad about this afterward because I felt bad for the people who weren't dancing. I was worried they were miserable. I hope not. 80 percent were dancing. It occured to me to get over there to him but I kept getting distracted.

Well as I said before everyone had a good time. Nothing I can do now but it bugs me
Glad I am not alone

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I definitely would have sent out STDs. Seemed like I got married on the busiest day of the year and so many people that I really wanted to be there had to be elsewhere.

I would have attended my CH. I heard it was awesome but I didn't even see it - just in a few photos. They brought some food to the bridal suite but I really wanted to be in the CH.

Definitely would have left more time between the church and reception for photos (then I could have attended my CH). We tried but couldn't work it any other way. It would have made the day last a little longer without the guests having nothing to do for hours.

No complaints about vendors though! I guess I got lucky with that.

ETA: Forgot about my cake. It was beautiful and tasted delicious, but it didn't look like the photo we gave to the bakery.