I heard so much about girls being depressed after their wedding was over, crying, having 'wedding withdrawal.' But I seem to feel a HUGE sense of relief! Part of me is a little sad the day has come and gone, and I'll never get to dress up and be the 'princess of the day' again, but mostly I feel FREE!!! I feel like I can get back the parts of my life that I had to give up due to all the planning.
As much as I loved my wedding , I got to a point where I hated every moment of planning it. My DH and I were at each other throats right up until the day before the wedding.
For a year and a half all we atlked about was the wedding. It consumed our life. I was so afraid that after the wedding we wouldn't have anything to talk about but I was wrong. Its like we are in new relationship and we are learning all this new stuff about each other. Its awesome. I am loving being a wife and being married.
Paiz
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Withdrawal. Total withdrawal. Maybe it's cause I wasn't stressed with any of the planning - I just had so much fun.
christy
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I dont feel relief about anything except dealing with certain family members that caused stress. I LOVED planning. However I do not feel withdrawal either. I am content.
dandj
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Relief... I really didn't like planning either and it got to the point that I was making decisions every day and I HATE making decisions.
I have to admit that when we got our album (the final part) and I paid the balance of the photographer (10 months later!) I did feel a little sad, like it was completely over. But I would never plan a big wedding again. I always tell DH that if it doesn't work out with him, the next wedding is on a beach in Hawaii and he always says, why couldn't we have done that now?!!!
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RELIEF!!! Ugh, it was just too much for me to handle, too much stress, too many details. And that was with a fairly low key, lower budget wedding. I'm not a planner. That said, I got a small twinge when I took off the blue polish on my toes the other week. It was the last remaining 'sign' of the big day.
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BOTH! If we werent beginning the house hunting, I think it would be more withdrawal but since I have other things to occupy my time. And relief because there is no big wedding expense hanging over us, now its a bigger house, but we know we will enjoy that for years not hours
tarakinspa
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I am so relieved!
nycchic_24
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Honestly...total, 100%......
WITHDRAWEL!!!!!!!!!
I miss it soooooooooo much! It wasnt very stressful for me except the attire part. I loved planning and I loved the day even more. I miss it so much and sometimes I cant get it through my head thats it was here and now it is over...my one time (well hopefully lol). I would go back and do it a 387428 times over with my dh....
I know...loser
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I was somewhere in between. For the most part I enjoyed the planning and we both loved how everything turned out. But on the other hand it was nice to be able to do other things that weren't wedding related.
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For me, it was a little bit of both. I was not stressed at all during the planning, but I'm happy to not have to worry about meeting vendors, payments, and what thing didn't I think of that we have to buy. The one thing I do miss is gown shopping! I loved trying on gowns and had a lot of fun, and I loved the gown that I chose. So while I miss being all dressed up and looking pretty, I don't miss everything that went into it.
NovemberSue
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We enjoyed planning the wedding. It was a lot of fun. Now I just love being a wife.
berlykim22
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withdrawal, it was stressful BUT yet such a Exciting time, I think I am happier when I have something to plan. kinda want to be part of a wedding again soon, and it isnt going to happen for awhile, but I get to plan stuff for Babies Hopefully sometime soon.
but will be excited when my sister in law gets married, i have so many great ideas - cant wait, but have plenty of time.
Sassy
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I definitely feel no Relief. I was sooooo happy planning my wedding, no matter what I complained about. It was fun, and I looked forward to the result of all my hard work.
I feel withdrawal b/c I want to call and nag my vendors, but I have nothing to call about. i want to go to my sisters and talk about how wonderful everything will turn out. I want to go shopping, but only for wedding things. I want to be a Princess again and walk around in my beautiful dress while everyone tells me how great I look.
My day was soooo wonderful, I want the whole thing to happen all over again. *sigh*
janatlantica
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Withdrawal! I am now bugging all of my friends to get engaged so I can plan their showers!!!!
jms0176
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Relief! Withdrawal ended very quickly!
dkga1026
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Right after the wedding, I felt withdrawal but that went away. Now it's 100% relief!! It's nice to be the center of attention and have all these great events going on for you and DH, but ut's nicer to live happily ever after.
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I felt so much relief! However, I kind of felt that the day went so fast! I can't complain! I had great weather, and all happened in time ... but it seemed so fast! Now, I feel happily married, and with lots of plans and expectations for the oncoming years!
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Post-Wedding Depression
Definitely! It was the most happiest day of my life, happy and relaxing HM and it was very hard to get back to work. I was so depressed after returning from our HM. It took me about 5 months to re-gain my efficient self from suffering Post-Wedding Depression. For this 5 months I just stare into space and constantly look at our wedding pictures over and over mentality re-living that perfect day again. I've devoted all my time, finances, energy and effort into our wedding plans for 18 months (1 1/2 years) and was very, very sad that it was all over.
I'm feeling better now and enjoying our married life without all the hectic wedding plans. However, there's the future to look forward to such as married life and spending your whole life together complete with your dear husband, personal goals, hobbies, decorating your home together, etc.
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Definitely relief right after! I think I felt relieved right after the ceremony. Of course now I feel withdrawal b/c it seems so long ago. I would do it again without all the planning.
