Rude or no? Poll

carolinebr Posted: Apr 22, 2008 02:57 PM

Rude or no? Poll

So a co-worker said to me at lunch today:

'You eat so much. Its like you're eating every time I see you. You should be 350 pounds. How come you're not fat?'

What are your thoughts. I didn't know who to take it. Do you say thank you? Or did she just call me a pig?

ETA I am not skinny. I'm 'sturdy' as my mother would say.

thelastresort Posted: Apr 22, 2008 02:58 PM

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Hmmm...I think that's a backhanded compliment.

evnme Posted: Apr 22, 2008 02:59 PM

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i would say this person suffers from not having a filter.
i hate when people say stuff like that and dont realize how hurtful they are being, even when they may not be trying to be rude.

PreshusSmurf Posted: Apr 22, 2008 03:00 PM

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maybe they have their own food issues, and are jealous that you don't have to struggle with them?

and i agree about them not having a filter.

MJDoc12 Posted: Apr 22, 2008 03:02 PM

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Posted by PreshusSmurf

maybe they have their own food issues, and are jealous that you don't have to struggle with them?

and i agree about them not having a filter.

yeah thats what i was thinking too. it wasn't exactly a compliment but it wasn't an insult either--it was more their issue and being probably a little jealous that they probably have food issues.

HamptonsBride Posted: Apr 22, 2008 03:03 PM

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I would take it as a compliment because if you dissect the comment she is basically saying...

wow...you seem to eat all the time (eating is good!!!)
wow...you are NOT fat!

She is amazed at your ability to not be starving yourself & still look good!
(that is my translation..haha)

milana Posted: Apr 22, 2008 03:05 PM

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This person decided to compliment you but at the same time did it in a rude way.

ChristineAaron08 Posted: Apr 22, 2008 03:06 PM

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plain ol' jealousy..but there is a nice way of putting it..or just keeping your mouth shut

JennNicole Posted: Apr 22, 2008 03:06 PM

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I don't think it was an insult..but than again maybe it is she might be tired of seeing you eat all the time. It probably annoys her.

Maybe is just is a freak

I say everytime you see her offer her more food

PeteysBride Posted: Apr 22, 2008 03:06 PM

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Posted by thelastresort

Hmmm...I think that's a backhanded compliment.

I agree. I mean she might just be tactless but its definetly a little bit of envy speaking that you can seemingly eat whatever you like and be at a weight she considers somethign to be proud of. I would take it as a compliment from a tactless person.

PaddysGirl15 Posted: Apr 22, 2008 03:06 PM

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Posted by milana

This person decided to compliment you but at the same time did it in a rude way.

ITA

hunnybunnyxoxo Posted: Apr 22, 2008 03:07 PM

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ugh! i'd tell the coworker to 'mind your business, worry about yourself!

i mean it is annoying that he/she notices..
i'd be a little perturbed but they might be trying to compliment u without realizing how stupid it came out...

ant n tilde Posted: Apr 22, 2008 03:09 PM

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people say it to me all the time and it makes me feel like a PIG but i think they are TRYING to be nice.

enjft Posted: Apr 22, 2008 03:12 PM

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Posted by PreshusSmurf

maybe they have their own food issues, and are jealous that you don't have to struggle with them?

and i agree about them not having a filter.

ditto

PegaLega Posted: Apr 22, 2008 03:12 PM

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I think its more she wishes she could always eat and not gain weight like its going out of style

PattyK Posted: Apr 22, 2008 03:13 PM

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I agree with a couple of the above posts that it is a backhanded compliment and they probably didn't realize that what they said might have offended you. BTW, did you have lunch with my FIL, because that is something that he would say.

Colette Posted: Apr 22, 2008 03:16 PM

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Sour grapes.
Tell her you're hypoglycemic and HAVE to eat frequently, otherwise your blood sugar dips and you get kooky. Or kookier, as the case may be.

Sob about how much you hate having to eat so frequently, about how BORED you are with food, and you'd give anything to eat 3 normal meals like everyone else.

Ooooo for comedic effect tell her you sometimes eat RICE CAKES because they are nice and bland when your taste buds are overstimulated.

She'll get your drift....

MeNBobs Posted: Apr 22, 2008 03:17 PM

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Posted by PegaLega

I think its more she wishes she could always eat and not gain weight like its going out of style

This is what i thought. Also point out to her that it was LUNCH time.

What did James make today?

hayleyandsteve Posted: Apr 22, 2008 03:19 PM

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Posted by Colette

Sour grapes.
Tell her you're hypoglycemic and HAVE to eat frequently, otherwise your blood sugar dips and you get kooky. Or kookier, as the case may be.

Sob about how much you hate having to eat so frequently, about how BORED you are with food, and you'd give anything to eat 3 normal meals like everyone else.

Ooooo for comedic effect tell her you sometimes eat RICE CAKES because they are nice and bland when your taste buds are overstimulated.

She'll get your drift....

creepy collete!!!

i think that people THINK they're being nice when they say that.

I've gotten... 'man, if i even LOOK at what you're eating i'll gain 20 lbs.' i'm not sure what the expected response from me should be

people are wackos

carolinebr Posted: Apr 22, 2008 03:32 PM

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Posted by MeNBobs

What did James make today?

Ha! James

Today he made a Greek salad with steak that had this poblano chili sauce, and grapes for dessert.

Here's a pic of James & his daughter Don't you just want to squish them? So darn cute