Situational Opinions

Hey let's throw different situations out there each day that you may/may not have to deal with in marriage...we can get the situations from our own lives, our families marriages, friends or wherever.

Here is one that has recently been presented to me.

A man and his wife attend a wedding for Joe and Jane. At the wedding, the wife is standing at the bar waiting to get a drink (the bar is located in a separate room) when a man, a very drunk man at that (the only other man in the room since the bartender has stepped away) says to her “what are those, D’s? Are the real? at the same time grabs one of her breasts. The woman tells the man that he is an A$$ then just walks away because she does not want to cause a scene at her friends wedding. The woman later learns that the man who grabbed her is the bride’s sister’s husband. I kid you not, but the woman then attends the after party at a local bar and she has her butt grabbed by the groom’s twin brother!

Some questions I was asked
Do I tell my husband? He will take it out on the Bride and Groom and not want to hang with them anymore.
Do I tell the bride? It might put a bad memory on her wedding day, is it worth it?
Do I tell the bride’s sister?
Do I tell the groom?

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I would have to tell my husband. Its probably not the best decision in terms of what is best for the relationships but there is no way I could be physically assualted twice and not mention it to him.

If the bride were my friend I would tell her. Not at the wedding. And when I told her I would make sure she understood how I enjoyed the wedding and it was beatuiful and the two things are not at all related...but I think she needs to know.

I wouldnt say anythign anymore..i would just avoid being around that family in the future.

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I would tell DH, not sure if I'd tell the bride....maybe after a certain time period after the wedding??

What atrocious behavior....Ugh....

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If no one else was in the room when this occured, I would of smacked him. I would probably tell my husband after the wedding b/c knowing him he would knock him out in front of everyone. I wouldn't tell the bride or groom.

If other people were in the room, I don't think I would hit him but I would definitely say something to him.

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I do not think I would tell my husband, honestly.
He has a very bad temper and would not take it well. It would not be worth whatever he would do to punish 2 drunk a- holes.

I may tell the bride depending on who it is.

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I would tell my husband, but not bride or groom. It's after the fact, what's done is done and they are not responsible for the behaviour of others.

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Tough question. I would tell DH only after we have left. We have been in situations before at bars where I have been grabbed and he turns into a psycho. I wouldnt want that to ruin my friends wedding or upset her in any way on her wedding day.

Do I tell the bride? It might put a bad memory on her wedding day, is it worth it?
Do I tell the bride’s sister?
Do I tell the groom?

For these three questions I say its not worth it to tell any of them.
Not going to tell the bride because its not really her problem, and I wouldnt want her to know that anything bad happened at her wedding.
Not going to tell the bride's sister because who am I to ruin someone elses marriage? It would be different if it were my best friends husband who did that. Then I would have to tell.
I wouldnt tell the groom either because what is he going to do? Yell at his brother? That wouldnt make a difference.
So I dont think it would be worth it to tell any of them.

The only reason I would tell DH is because he is my best friend and I would need to confide in him what happened and how it made me feel. Also to ask for some advice.

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I would only share it w/ my DH. But I know it would never take out on the bride & groom(its not their fault). I don't think its worth getting anyone else upset, drunk people do stupid things.

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I would tell my husband, I am not sure if I would tell him then or wait until the end of the night.

I wouldn't tell the bride. IMO, it doesn't exactly involve her since it wasn't the groom acting this way. I don't think there's a need to make her feel really bad about a situation she had absolutely no control over.

Whether or not I told the other people involved would depend on my relationship with them.

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Like Scoop I would of slapped him him!

I would tell my husband. And I know for a fact if I waited till after we got home to tell my husband he would be ticked.

I might not tell the guys wife. but I would tell someone that knows the guy. To watch him. And tell him what he did. Unfortunately he probably did it to more woman.

It depends on the relationship I had w/ the bride if I would tell her. Truth be told she probably knows what kind of moron her sister is married to.

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I would have punched him in the eye.... let him explain where he got the bruise from

I dunno if I would say anything, but if I did -not at the wedding.
I would tell DH after the party....