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Before I got married I was like oh not for like 3 years. Now I am like 'Uh im going to be 31'! and starting to think I want to try sooner. Hopefully the itch will pass.

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Our plan is still to wait 4-5 years. We figure after our 4 year anniversary, we'll start trying.I actually really dont want any right now, which Im suprised about. I always thought I'd change my mind after we got married.

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Well, we always said we wanted kids as soon as we buy a house.

One of my BMs just had twins on 4/6 (my anniversary- yay) and I got to thinking of how scared I would be after the baby(s) are out and I actually have to take care of them. WTH do I do w/ them? Then they are always there..like untl 18 yrs old. haha.

I know they say your whole outlook changes when u have kids like u want to do everything in your power for them, but I'm so selfish and like my time and space to myself. I dont want a kid bugging me

But we wont be buying a house for AT LEAST another year. Besides, I'm old and need to start ASAP.

If I were younger, I would probably wait like a year or 2, but can't now.

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Me too! I want them like right now. It doesn't help that so does DH. We really need to wait too. Hopefully we can start trying in a year or so.

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Well, before we got married I wanted to wait at least 1yr into the marriage because we tried. We are going on 2yrs and have not even started. We have no health insurance....at least not yet...we want to at least have that before we try...

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I always said that I wanted 2 years before having a kid. But who knows what the future holds. Maybe i'll want one before that, maybe i'll want one after. No matter which way, I do really hope that we get at LEAST one year being married before I get pregnant tho (even though I have been slightly ichy as well)

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I wanted to start trying early next year ... but I think it may be longer now since I am out of work, have been for 3 months and don't see any light at the end of this dark tunnel ..... we may move and when I get a job that offers ins., I have to wait 1 year to go on maternity so that I can get the family leave ... so .... HOPEFULLY I will be preggers in 2010 sometime ... but I really don't know.

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I still have no plans of starting to try anytime in the near future. Things were a bit hectic and not how i wanted the first months not relationship wise but with not working and just certain other things not going as planned. I still feel we need to be selfish right now and enjoy this time, and with other things being delayed i kinda want to wait longer now. WHo knows how i will feel though lets say next year.

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DH will turn 30 in july & he said he wanted to 'get the process started while im still 30' lol so we will POSSIBLY start trying MAAAAAAYBE next winter sometime... but thats a BIG maybe depending on where i am emotionally

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Kristin , you are so funny! I am in the same boat as you....I want to wait and enjoy married life, BUT I also want to have baby The thing that is holding us back is that I really can't decide if I want to continue working or be a SAHM. I am not sure if part time will be an option for me (schools, budgets, cant predict yes or no until the school year type of thing) and with this economy, although we could easily live on DH's salary we are nervous bc of all the layoffs and stuff. I feel like when we are both REALLY ready, this wont hold us back, ya know? Like were almost using this as an 'excuse' to wait I am itchy though! DH is itchy at times but not 100%, I think when he is, we'll just go for it

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I feel like the more I wait the less I want children

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I'm only 24, so I want to wait way longer. I also have plans to get a PhD so I figured I'd at least get through my classwork first. So maybe in another 4-5 years we'll try.

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NOPE.not itchy! i will say i have more THOUGHTS of having a baby(lol)..about how nice it will be when we finally do..and sometimes i think about how great it would be to be a young hip mom (especially that we all know the younger we are, the quicker our bodies bouce back ) but no.. not yet. DH & i had a very rough year financially which kept us from doing a lot of things...we're hoping '09 - '10 is a much easier road and we get to enjoy life a little! I know some people all of a sudden get baby fever after they get married, but honestly dh & i have SO much fun together..and i know a baby is a blessing, but i really want to enjoy 'our' time together before adding one to the mix...We want to get a few fun vacations under our belt before children, obviously really save, pay off the little debt that we have, etc. I also love being able to just go out spontaneously, etc..
I can't see us starting to try for atleast another 2years..which will make me 26. I also want dh to really want it also - and he is SOO not there yet lol.
I will say that if we were better off financially this past year, and were able to vacation & splurge on ourselves a little, that MAYBE we would've started trying the end of next year

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I get into these all or nothing modes and lose sight of the big picture. I also compare myself to my friends which isn't good - they are having babies and/or buying houses. We wanted to start trying by the end of this year but I also want a big house to raise our family in. We can't afford a house quite yet. One day we will get everything we want. A house and a family. But for now we're enjoying our life as it is. We live in a nice apartment in a good community and are saving money. If needed we can move into a two bedroom and continue to save.