Stress, stress and more stress

Original post by KathleenG

Feb 04, 2005 10:35 AM

First of all, I have to say that DH and I have a good marriage and are very happy together.However, that is the ONLY thing going right. Lately, I have been so worried to a point of panic!! I feel like we will NEVER get ahead. We have lousy,miserable, jobs right now making very little money. There is no way we can afford a house and kids in the near future. On top of all of this, we have people in our lives who we continue to help out financially because we HAVE to. We can barely get ahead ourselves!!!!!! Who is going to help us? I feel like this has made me very bitter and depressed. Whats more, DH grew up in an affluent neighborhood and practically all of his friends have not had the same worries and have gotten by with financial support through their families.
They take things totally for granted. I look around at other people and always see more; then knowing that we have done so much for others!!!!! I am not trying to be a martyr but does anybody else ever feel this way in some respects? How do I move past this?

Maybe I just needed to vent!!!

ambersmom Posted: Feb 07, 2005 07:24 PM

Re: Stress, stress and more stress

Posted by shamrock12472

Posted by KathleenG

I definitely don't want to sound like a martyr!!! I too, know how hard it is to go through a wedding and marriage with tragedy ( I lost my mom to cancer 6 years ago ) And that was the biggest tragedy of everything!! I feel like I will never be the same and able to provide for myself and raise a family which my mom did flawlessly. I guess I feel inept. I am always thinking I let her down when I see my embarrassing paycheck (my mom had hopes for me doing well). But then I turn around, and realize just how hard it is for EVERYBODY especially living in N.Y.

I am sure your mother is extremely proud of you and who you have become! And am I sure that she has never measured you by the amount of money you make! Depending on your belief, I am sure she knows that you have become a happy, healthy young woman how adds a lot to this world!

That is really beautiful!

2003OCT10 Posted: Feb 08, 2005 02:01 AM

Re: Stress, stress and more stress

DH and I couldnt handle the level of stress we had in NY... We researched some opportunities and moved down to Florida. He's making the same amount as he was inNY and our rent is more than1/2 of what we were paying. Our apartment is a 2BR/1bath ground level and is $582 a month. It's less than 800 with utilities...

We can finally breathe again. Now that I have found a PT job, things are really looking up for us. ...Finally.