Tacky or not??

okay--so i just got a voice mail from a friend of mine---since getting married--we don't see each other that much cause she's still kind of in the 'single' scene -- clubbing and stuff. (even though she has a 10 year old) -- and we're just not into that.

weeeeelll---she called to invite us over to a housewarming party she is throwing next sunday---at her new apartment. (she must have finally moved out of her baby's daddy house--they had been separated for the past year and she was just living there--but they weren't 'together')

in the voicemail she actually mentioned 'i registered at Target---soooo hope to see you there'

um---i always figured housewarming registries were usually for when you buy a house or condo -- but she's just renting? plus--isn't it a little odd to leave a voicemail msg and say you're registered? i dunno--just seemed weird to me

thats tough....only b/c she did live in someone elses house so she probably doesnt have much....but to leave a VM about it is a bit on the off side of things

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Posted by PegaLega

thats tough....only b/c she did live in someone elses house so she probably doesnt have much....but to leave a VM about it is a bit on the off side of things

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yes--this is the reason i'm having a kind of so-so feeling on it. i mean i'm sure she doesn't have much---and that sux....but the VM and mentioning it there seemed a bit --i dunno---weird.

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Posted by MeNBobs

Tacky. I think throwing a prty for yourself is great no one else is going to celebrate you so you might as well do it. Registering so people can bring gifts to said party TACKY!! I think anyone having any kind of party where they are the host and registering is tacky though.

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Yeah this makes sense. I dont know how I would feel...its a back and forth thing. I dont know,I didnt register for my apartment when we first moved in together, we had a party but didnt askfor anything

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Posted by bettybcafe

Well, its def. tacky that she mentioned where she was registered at in her voicemail but I dont think its tacky to give her a house warming gift IF this is her first apt/house/condo yknow.

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i probably will still bring a gift--just cause shes a nice girl and all. techincally she's been living in the same house with her baby's daddy for more than 10 years--and now just moved into another place.

this is why it seems so odd--its not like she hasn't had her own home already--shes just kind of starting over again and i guess she wants new stuff?? or maybe she left a lot of stuff behind?

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Posted by MJDoc12

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Posted by bettybcafe

Well, its def. tacky that she mentioned where she was registered at in her voicemail but I dont think its tacky to give her a house warming gift IF this is her first apt/house/condo yknow.

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i probably will still bring a gift--just cause shes a nice girl and all. techincally she's been living in the same house with her baby's daddy for more than 10 years--and now just moved into another place.

this is why it seems so odd--its not like she hasn't had her own home already--shes just kind of starting over again and i guess she wants new stuff?? or maybe she left a lot of stuff behind?

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This is def. a touch situation... She honestly shouldnt have said that she was registered anywhere on the voicemail...that is def. tacky. I think who ever wants to bring a gift is fine..but she shouldnt be upset if people dont bring anything.

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Posted by MJDoc12

okay--so i just got a voice mail from a friend of mine---since getting married--we don't see each other that much cause she's still kind of in the 'single' scene -- clubbing and stuff. (even though she has a 10 year old) -- and we're just not into that.

weeeeelll---she called to invite us over to a housewarming party she is throwing next sunday---at her new apartment. (she must have finally moved out of her baby's daddy house--they had been separated for the past year and she was just living there--but they weren't 'together')

in the voicemail she actually mentioned 'i registered at Target---soooo hope to see you there'

um---i always figured housewarming registries were usually for when you buy a house or condo -- but she's just renting? plus--isn't it a little odd to leave a voicemail msg and say you're registered? i dunno--just seemed weird to me

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That is so funny that I am going through the same thing with someone at work who just started the end of December but she knew someone in our dept already. I do not really know her and they decide to send an evite to everyone and then some to our dept (about 40 people) saying they are throwing a house warming to welcome her here and to her new apt. It was also put that she was registered at Target. Plus they only gave a week or so notice as for it is next Sat. She lived before in an apt a town away also.

I always thought too that it was just for houses because she is paying a apt complex to live there. A few other people from my dept thought it was not right and aren't going. I am not going either because I clearly don't know her that well to go and don't feel comfortable.

It is good to hear that I am not the only one who feels the same way.



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Awkward for her to have mentioned registering--makes her seem more interested in the gifts than the company. But, she may have been going through some hard times and wants a chance to start over.

I do usually bring something to a friend when I'm invited over, so I probably would bring something. Depends on how close to her you are.

But if she didn't tell you, how would you know where she's registered

i personally think its tacky... when we bought our house we didnt even have a house warming party.. we did not register.. i just never felt right doing that. just not my style...

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Posted by Brian and Marie

VERY TACKY

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i agree. i didnt even know that people registered when they bought houses?? i thinks that's kinda tacky also. i thought housewarmings were for people to see the new place and have fun, and of course a small gift but not something off a registry

While reading your note, I thought she bought her own apartment but if she's just renting, there is no point of having a house-warming party. Just pretend you didn't hear the 'we registered at target' message. Bring her a good wine or something small.

I'm not understanding why it's tacky to register for a housewarming? I just went to a housewarming of a good friend and she was registered and I bought her a gift off her registry. I didn't see the big deal. For me, saved the guesswork of what to buy.

We all registered for our new 'homes' for our weddings and most of us are still renting!

This girl just moved out of her child's fathers house after 10 years. Sounds like she's starting a new chapter in her life w/ her daughter in a new place. I don't see anything wrong w/ it. The only thing I don't agree with is the VM.